Saturday, September 26, 2009

Will He Call or Not?

We have all been through it, many times I suspect. You meet this great guy, hit it off, he gets your number and never calls. Perhaps he does call and then one day just stops. What is going on here? Why does this happen? We pick it apart as women and try to figure out what we did wrong, was it something we said? Maybe, maybe not, regardless you still wonder will he call.

Men can pick up on our attitude. They know the women who are desperate for a call. They want a challenge as well and if we are desperate for that call, they just know and we become less attractive. Here are 5 things that you may be doing that keep him from calling and make you appear less desirable.


You offer your phone number and ask him to call. Instant warning flag, he sees you as needy and will avoid you at all costs. Plus he did not have to work for you. Men value what they work hardest for.
You ask him, "when are you going to call?". He sees you sitting by the phone waiting. Very unattractive to a man.
You ask him "are you going to call?" Same scenario as above, he sees you waiting and available
You tell him something like "Guys always get my number but never call" . This is a big no no, he will be thinking, wow, no wonder they don't call her, she has is negative.
He does call but its been days and you ask him "Why didn't you call?". He know then and there that this is a woman who is going to try to change him and may be high maintenance. He assumes the rest of the relationship will be drama filled.

So how do you take all of this drama out of the calling game and stop waiting by the phone. Its all in your attitude and how you approach dating in general. Its about dating without the drama. Not having to worry about if he will or will not call. A man loves busy women who have active lives and are not obsessing over if he calls or not. When a woman behaves like her world goes on with or without his attention, he is drawn. He will call because he is intrigued. Its called dating without drama.

I have found myself single again and back on the market. I don't worry about if or when he will call and 9 times out of 10 they do call, and they call again, and I get that date. I have taken the drama out of my dating life and learned how to enjoy it. The results are worth it.

Tuesday, September 22, 2009

Toxic Men, Can they Commit?

Every toxic man can't be transformed, some are not worth the effort. Many are just clueless and don't know how to become a good guy. He very possibly down inside wants to make you happy but just does not know how. He may not know how and he may not realize he is toxic, but many can be transformed. I have seen very difficult men change.

The key lies in knowing how to inspire him to want to change and help him do this through your Click">relationship. It is not in the words you say to him that will make him change, we all know this does not work. How many times have you complained, voiced your wishes only to have them fall on deaf ears. Its your actions that he will respond to. Men do not respond to words.

The change starts in you and how you respond to his toxic behavior. The way you think, talk and what you can do affect your relationship dramatically and inspire changes in your man that evolve naturally. If you can change the way you feel about yourself on the inside, it changes the way you act with your man and can turn the relationship around.

Take yourself out of toxic dynamic between you and your partner and focus on being the best you can be. Use that energy to improve yourself instead. Stop telling him what to do and focusing on his toxic behavior. You will start feeling better and you positive vibe can inspire your partner and completely change your relationship. Transform your toxic man.

If you are with a man who may be toxic, but you feel he is a good man, he can be salvaged. What you have been doing in the past has not worked or you would not be reading this. Change yourself and your behavior and Click">have the relationship you always wanted.