Friday, July 23, 2010

He Said He Needs Space! Watch Out Girl

When he says he needs his space, what is he thinking? Usually when a guy says he needs his space, he doesn't mean from his buddies or others in his life. When he says this, he usually means he needs space away from you. He is feeling smothered, maybe you are being too clingy or needy. Worst case, another woman has caught his eye. This does happen and a lot. A woman who is not clingy and needy and does not try to monitor him, a cool girl.

When a guy needs his space, often it's just a nice way to let you down easy. If you try and cling to him, ask him what he is thinking, and why, it pushes him away even more. When a guy says he needs his space, the best thing to do is give it to him. Holding on tighter will only drive him away more. You probably really won't know exactly what is going through his head so no need wasting energy to figure him out.

If he needs space, he may very well be evaluating your relationship. Deciding if this is what he wants or not. He may be in that freak out mode right before commitment. How you handle his request is crucial. It can be the difference of going to the next level or breaking up. A guy wanting space is usually contemplating a split, a permanent one and wants to try it on for size, so watch out, get prepared.

Don't go into wait mode or tell him you will be there when he makes up his mind. This just lets him know he has the controls of the relationship. Doesn't seem quite fair when you are now feeling out of control. When a guy says he needs his space, this is a time to put a plan into action to bring him closer. This is not done by holding on tightly, but by letting go.

There are women out there that are adored by their men. These women never hear the words, "I need my space". They instinctively know how to handle these men and how to get what they want from a relationship. Instead of letting another woman take your guy, learn how to be the women men adore and have him forever.

Thursday, July 22, 2010

Why He Didn't Call When He Said He Would

So he said he would call. Funny, your phone isn't ringing. He didn't call. There could be many reasons. First let's look at a guys timing. If it's only been a few days, he may still call. Some guys follow that 3 day rule before they call, they don't want to seem desperate. Some of them wait a week or more, but be careful of this guy. More than likely if he has waited a while, he sees you as an option and not someone he is urgently wanting to get to know.

If he got you number though and never called, chances are good he was just in the moment. Guys live in the moment. At that moment, you were right in front of him, having a good conversation and he asked for your number. Later when the moment has passed, he thinks again and may decide it's not a good idea. He could have a girlfriend or already be investing time with another woman. Don't take it personally if he didn't call when he said he would call. It's nothing you did that caused him not to call.

A lot of times when a guy doesn't call we start wondering. Did he lose my number? We start making up all of these ridiculous excuses for him in our heads. Stop it girl, if he didn't call, swallow the pill, the he may not be that into you pill. Whatever you do, don't call him please. This will upset the balance terribly as you become the one chasing.

When you give a guy your number, the best thing to do is set no expectations, don't go getting all excited. Next week or maybe even tomorrow another guy will get your number. Don't stress over why he didn't call, even when he said he would. Remember, guys live in the moment and in that moment, he probably really was planning on calling, he still might call down the road, we just never know.

Wednesday, July 21, 2010

Why You Should Not Call Men You Just Started Dating

You haven't even started or are in the first stages of dating. It would be so easy to call or text him, but be careful, this can send of some unattractive signals to the new potential man in your life.

For starters, if you call men, you send of the signal that you are very available. This is not really how you want a guy to see you. I hear so often, but what if he thinks I am not interested? If you want to show interest, do so when he calls you by being fun and flirty. You do not want to show more interest than he is showing. Not good.

Guys really will call you if they are interested. If your phone is not ringing or is not ringing consistently, say every few days, he is just not that interested. If you call men who are not calling you, you are investing more into it than they are. You become easy target to be a back burner girl or a back up girl.

How you handle the phone techniques in the beginning is crucial. Texting and phoning is a huge dating tool today. If you are the one doing the initiating when you call men, you are taking over his role as the hunter. While some men are flattered that a woman is chasing them, it rarely lasts because he is deprived of his natural born instinct to do the chasing and hunting. Let him lead. It's really best to not call the men until you are more into a stable relationship.

Texting should be handled the same way. Let him initiate, you just follow his lead and match his level of commitment. It gets difficult, we get impatient and want to speed things up and so we call men. Huge mistake. A man's time table and priorities are very different from a woman's. If you are the one that will call men, how do you ever know his true level of interest? You won't. Relax and be patient. It is such a good feeling to know the guy is into you without you having to prod.

Friday, July 16, 2010

Flirty Texting Techniques That Will Have Him Dying to See You!

Men are attracted to mystery, allure, and a challenge. These can all be captured in your flirty text messages and build the attraction unbelievably. To create mystery you have to remember it is sometimes what you don't say that says the most. In other words when texting, don't always answer his questions direct, be evasive, but friendly. This is a very successful technique in building mystery.

Response time is also a good way to build up the attraction. if you always reply right back, you become predictable. Don't be predictable, wait before you reply. Depending on the message a couple of hours won't hurt. Then when he finally does get your reply, which of course is going to be light and flirty, you better believe he is going to pay it more attention. Presto, you got his full attention. Think long term satisfaction girls, not instant gratification.

Less is always more in texting. I have to mention the perpetual texter. The one that replies right back or texts all day long. Do you really think guys find this attractive? Maybe it's good for a quick fix for a few weeks, but trust me, it won't go long term.

Playing on words is also a great way to send flirty text messages. You can be a little evil with this, yet he can't come right out and say you were being evil. For example, he texts you a yes or no question. Your answer "I moist say no". I guess you could call it subliminal talk to the penis. That really is exactly what it is. Learn to do this, and it gets his/her attention. Subtle yet sexy flirty text messages.

Wednesday, July 14, 2010

Stop Being a Clingy Girlfreind or You May Lose Him Forever

A clingy girlfriend holds on too tight. If you want to stop being a clingy girlfriend you have to let go of your grip and give him some space. Signs of a clingy girlfriend are wanting to know where he is, who he is with and what he is doing. Calling him often and showing up at his place or where he is at is also signs of being a clingy girlfriend.

We cling out of fear. This behavior does stem from fear. You fear losing the guy or losing control. You hold on tight to try to keep him, not realizing that you are in fact pushing him away. You want things to go a certain way and in order to try and control how things go, you cling. First thing to realize in order to stop being clingy is that you really can't control the outcome in the big scheme of things. He is either going to stay or he is going to leave eventually. Your chances of him staying are far greater if you can learn how not to be a clingy, otherwise, you take the chance he will leave you for another girl sooner or later. Happens almost every time.

Guys see the clingy girls as a lot of work. The start to feel responsible for her happiness and this is a huge responsibility for a guy. It starts the fear factor working in their minds, fear of loss of freedom. Loss of freedom is a huge fear for guys and clingy girls is a sure threat to that freedom. So often the guy ends up dumping the clingy girl and goes looking for the cool girlfriend, the one who makes life less hassle and more fun.

The best way to stop being a clingy girlfriend is to get a full life of your own. Don't center your world around his. When you have your own agenda and life, you start to need him less and as a result, stop being clingy. Guys fine independent women wildly attractive. It gives them something to work for. A clingy girl is no challenge, she will always be around holding on. Guys do like a challenge and a girl who has her own life is a challenge. Be this girlfriend, stop being a clingy, needy girlfriend.

Clingy behavior often is a result of insecurities. Learn how men think and what attracts them the most and it is not a clingy girlfriend. Start making changes now, don't wait until it's too late and you lose him to the arms of another less clingy, cool girl who gets it.

Thursday, July 1, 2010

He Won't Propose, Boyfriends That Won't Commit

Often, they get comfortable. They have all of the benefits of marriage with no threat to take away their freedom. Men fear a loss of freedom and sometimes this is the driving force that keeps them from commitment. What has to happen here is they have to have a bigger fear of losing you. The fear of losing you has to be greater than their fear of lost freedom.

He won't propose because he thinks things are fine the way they are. If it's not broken, why fix it? As a girlfriend, you probably give a lot into the relationship. They often take this for granted. They get confident that you are not going anywhere. When they get to this point girl, you better watch out. Don't let it get to that point. If he does you better get to work fast before some woman who keeps him on his toes comes along.

Go from Girlfriend to Wife!

If your boyfriend won't propose and it's been year chances are that he won't, not unless you take drastic measures. I am sure you know you can't keep doing the same thing and expect different results. It may be time to lite a fire under his butt. You don't do this with words though. You do it with actions. Men do not respond to words, as you probably already know. I imagine you have talked until you are blue in the face and still your girl friend crown has not been replaced with a diamond. Men respond to distance and perhaps it's time to put a little of this to work. You boyfriend won't propose with you doing the same thing.

If he won't propose, it is discouraging. Your biological clock may be ticking, you may be wondering if you are wasting your time and should you move on. You may be scared to rock the boat because you might just lose him. Let go of that fear and start to work. Men do want a commitment but they have to be inspired to do so and being the perfect girlfriend isn't cutting it is it.

Learn what it takes to make a man commit. Don't risk losing him to another because you can't inspire him to propose. If he hasn't done so yet, learn what leads him to feel you are the woman he can't live without.