Wednesday, February 22, 2012

Men and Sex - What He Really Wants

When it comes to men and sex, women want to know what turns men on, what do men really want in bed. It may very well surprise you. I know a lot of women who attempt to be these Sex Goddesses, willing to do anything to make men happy in the bedroom. They also hope this will cause the man to deeper connect and attach. Many women truly believe that the way to a man's heart is through his penis. While there may be some truth in this, it may not be the direction of what you are thinking.

First we all know men are visual. A visual can turn a man on in seconds, no doubt. Let's think about porn here for a minute though. In porn, the one who is or is pretending to have the most fun is the woman. She is screaming, moaning and just loving what ever act the man is engaged in. This should be your first clue of what turns men on. To please a woman and have her totally present and enjoying herself is what turns him on and that is one of the main things a man wants in bed.

A man doesn't want a woman having sex with him out of obligation or just to please him. He wants her to really want him. He wants to be desired. He wants to know he has the ability to bring her great pleasure. This is the key to men and sex and what they really want. If you want to turn men on, try making that first move. Try telling him how much you want him or desire him. This will thrill him way more than any stellar performance you could put on in the bedroom. Enthusiasm goes a long long ways.

Men also as a general rule aren't that great at true intimacy outside of the bedroom. Most men feel most connected intimately through sex. For many men, this is their only intimate outlet. They need this to thrive in a relationship. If you are cutting him off, or rationing it out, you are emotionally hurting him.

Now I won't lie and tell you men have no erotic fantasies, they do. Almost all men secretly want more than one woman. It's just the way they are wired. This doesn't mean he will be unfaithful though. It just means he is a man. To think that your man's penis shrivals up when around other women is unrealistic. It's best to embrace his masculine nature as opposed to being threatened by it. Learn to understand men and sex.

When it comes to men and sex, they really aren't that complicated. If they feel you are happy with them sexually, this is what men really want in bed. An enthusiastic, involved partner.

Friday, February 17, 2012

Why He Stopped Giving Compliments