Monday, August 5, 2013

How To Flirt With Men!

How to Flirt with Men, oh what fun! Do you know how to flirt with men or does the thought of it give you a case of the nerves? Men absolutely love to be flirted with. I have been with my guy friends and a woman approaches. After she left, he asked, Is she flirting with me? He was excited! If you can flirt with men, well you can make his day that is for sure.

Flirting with men comes natural to some, but not all. I have women constantly contact me asking me how or what I would have said in a given situation. It's because I am one of the naturals, most of the time. We all have our days. I think the key lies really in being happy and that radiating from you. Happy people just naturally attract others into their space.

Once upon a time I was very shy and somewhat insecure. I got tired of it though. I was attractive, but being attractive may get a man's attention, but it's not what keeps it. It was by chance alone I think that I got asked out and even had relationships. Oh if I knew then what I know now, I would have been quite a man magnet. I have learned the art of how to flirty with men.


Flirting with Body Language


With men, 90% of your flirting should be with your body language.  After all they really are visual creatures.. Men don't respond to words, they really don't. Take the picture to the right. Notice how she is looking over her shoulder. This is powerful. Men are captivated by innocence, and she has that innocent look on her face.

Obvious, bold flirty moves aren't that affective. It doesn't reach a man on his subconscious level. That is why your posture, your walk, the way you stand and sit are so important. You walk or posture alone can determine if a man sees you as approachable. Shoulders back, relaxed, standing or sitting straight not slouched is how you want to be.

Lets say you are at a bar chatting with a guy on your left. Turn your body into his slightly. Cross your right leg over your left leg slowly and have your right foot almost, but not quite brush his outer calf. He will notice and he won't know why. Reach over and lightly touch his lower left arm and smile, then move it away. These are subconscious triggers that tell him there is a woman sitting next to him that finds him attractive. It's all about how you make him feel.

Another powerful tip that does have to do with words is about one word you can use to get his attention. That word is his own name. Have you ever heard that nothing is sweeter from the lips of another than the sound of your own name. It's true. Call him by name. If you don't do this, you are missing out on something very powerful. If it feels uncomfortable for you, practice it. Call everyone by name when conversing. When my girlfriends call me, I always answer the phone with something like, "Well hello Susie Q". It's second nature to me now.

That one sentence I just mentioned can open a door. If you don't know his name, find it out. Next time you see him, just say, "Well hello Sam". Very effective and disarming, especially if he knows he didn't tell you his name.



Flirty Examples:


I am a moderator on a women's forum. We brainstormed some of our best flirting techniques, and I am going to share a few.

Smile at him.

Look him in the eyes when putting on lip gloss. No chap stick please, but lip gloss. Chap stick is masuline.

Tilt your head slightly sideways when looking at him, touch your hair, not twirl, but touch briefly

If you are walking beside him, tug on his sleeve, lean your head towards his shoulder

A really bold but very affective tip here if you have the opportunity, bend over in front of them. This one triggers his imagination into over drive.

The 3 to 5 second eye contact. Look into his eyes for 5 seconds and then look away shyly.

Toss your head back while laughing.

If you are on the phone with him, paint brief visuals for him. I just got out of a bubble bath. Can I call you back, I just got out of the shower.

These are just a few flirting tips you can put to use right now, today. Flirting is an art. If you can flirt with a man, then you know how to make a man feel like a man and that is what it is all about. You want to accentuate his masculine tenancies and play up your feminine. Men love it. It makes them feel attractive and desirable and who doesn't want to feel that?