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Monday, August 5, 2013
How To Flirt With Men!
How to Flirt with Men, oh what fun! Do you know how to flirt with men or
does the thought of it give you a case of the nerves? Men absolutely
love to be flirted with. I have been with my guy friends and a woman
approaches. After she left, he asked, Is she flirting with me? He was
excited! If you can flirt with men, well you can make his day that is
for sure.
Flirting with men comes natural to some, but not all. I have women constantly contact me asking me how or what I would have said in a given situation. It's because I am one of the naturals, most of the time. We all have our days. I think the key lies really in being happy and that radiating from you. Happy people just naturally attract others into their space.
Once upon a time I was very shy and somewhat insecure. I got tired of it though. I was attractive, but being attractive may get a man's attention, but it's not what keeps it. It was by chance alone I think that I got asked out and even had relationships. Oh if I knew then what I know now, I would have been quite a man magnet. I have learned the art of how to flirty with men.
Flirting with Body Language
With men, 90% of your flirting should be with your body language. After all they really are visual creatures.. Men don't respond to words, they really don't. Take the picture to the right. Notice how she is looking over her shoulder. This is powerful. Men are captivated by innocence, and she has that innocent look on her face.
Obvious, bold flirty moves aren't that affective. It doesn't reach a man on his subconscious level. That is why your posture, your walk, the way you stand and sit are so important. You walk or posture alone can determine if a man sees you as approachable. Shoulders back, relaxed, standing or sitting straight not slouched is how you want to be.
Lets say you are at a bar chatting with a guy on your left. Turn your body into his slightly. Cross your right leg over your left leg slowly and have your right foot almost, but not quite brush his outer calf. He will notice and he won't know why. Reach over and lightly touch his lower left arm and smile, then move it away. These are subconscious triggers that tell him there is a woman sitting next to him that finds him attractive. It's all about how you make him feel.
Another powerful tip that does have to do with words is about one word you can use to get his attention. That word is his own name. Have you ever heard that nothing is sweeter from the lips of another than the sound of your own name. It's true. Call him by name. If you don't do this, you are missing out on something very powerful. If it feels uncomfortable for you, practice it. Call everyone by name when conversing. When my girlfriends call me, I always answer the phone with something like, "Well hello Susie Q". It's second nature to me now.
That one sentence I just mentioned can open a door. If you don't know his name, find it out. Next time you see him, just say, "Well hello Sam". Very effective and disarming, especially if he knows he didn't tell you his name.
Flirty Examples:
I am a moderator on a women's forum. We brainstormed some of our best flirting techniques, and I am going to share a few.
Smile at him.
Look him in the eyes when putting on lip gloss. No chap stick please, but lip gloss. Chap stick is masuline.
Tilt your head slightly sideways when looking at him, touch your hair, not twirl, but touch briefly
If you are walking beside him, tug on his sleeve, lean your head towards his shoulder
A really bold but very affective tip here if you have the opportunity, bend over in front of them. This one triggers his imagination into over drive.
The 3 to 5 second eye contact. Look into his eyes for 5 seconds and then look away shyly.
Toss your head back while laughing.
If you are on the phone with him, paint brief visuals for him. I just got out of a bubble bath. Can I call you back, I just got out of the shower.
These are just a few flirting tips you can put to use right now, today. Flirting is an art. If you can flirt with a man, then you know how to make a man feel like a man and that is what it is all about. You want to accentuate his masculine tenancies and play up your feminine. Men love it. It makes them feel attractive and desirable and who doesn't want to feel that?
Flirting with men comes natural to some, but not all. I have women constantly contact me asking me how or what I would have said in a given situation. It's because I am one of the naturals, most of the time. We all have our days. I think the key lies really in being happy and that radiating from you. Happy people just naturally attract others into their space.
Once upon a time I was very shy and somewhat insecure. I got tired of it though. I was attractive, but being attractive may get a man's attention, but it's not what keeps it. It was by chance alone I think that I got asked out and even had relationships. Oh if I knew then what I know now, I would have been quite a man magnet. I have learned the art of how to flirty with men.
Flirting with Body Language
With men, 90% of your flirting should be with your body language. After all they really are visual creatures.. Men don't respond to words, they really don't. Take the picture to the right. Notice how she is looking over her shoulder. This is powerful. Men are captivated by innocence, and she has that innocent look on her face.
Obvious, bold flirty moves aren't that affective. It doesn't reach a man on his subconscious level. That is why your posture, your walk, the way you stand and sit are so important. You walk or posture alone can determine if a man sees you as approachable. Shoulders back, relaxed, standing or sitting straight not slouched is how you want to be.
Lets say you are at a bar chatting with a guy on your left. Turn your body into his slightly. Cross your right leg over your left leg slowly and have your right foot almost, but not quite brush his outer calf. He will notice and he won't know why. Reach over and lightly touch his lower left arm and smile, then move it away. These are subconscious triggers that tell him there is a woman sitting next to him that finds him attractive. It's all about how you make him feel.
Another powerful tip that does have to do with words is about one word you can use to get his attention. That word is his own name. Have you ever heard that nothing is sweeter from the lips of another than the sound of your own name. It's true. Call him by name. If you don't do this, you are missing out on something very powerful. If it feels uncomfortable for you, practice it. Call everyone by name when conversing. When my girlfriends call me, I always answer the phone with something like, "Well hello Susie Q". It's second nature to me now.
That one sentence I just mentioned can open a door. If you don't know his name, find it out. Next time you see him, just say, "Well hello Sam". Very effective and disarming, especially if he knows he didn't tell you his name.
Flirty Examples:
I am a moderator on a women's forum. We brainstormed some of our best flirting techniques, and I am going to share a few.
Smile at him.
Look him in the eyes when putting on lip gloss. No chap stick please, but lip gloss. Chap stick is masuline.
Tilt your head slightly sideways when looking at him, touch your hair, not twirl, but touch briefly
If you are walking beside him, tug on his sleeve, lean your head towards his shoulder
A really bold but very affective tip here if you have the opportunity, bend over in front of them. This one triggers his imagination into over drive.
The 3 to 5 second eye contact. Look into his eyes for 5 seconds and then look away shyly.
Toss your head back while laughing.
If you are on the phone with him, paint brief visuals for him. I just got out of a bubble bath. Can I call you back, I just got out of the shower.
These are just a few flirting tips you can put to use right now, today. Flirting is an art. If you can flirt with a man, then you know how to make a man feel like a man and that is what it is all about. You want to accentuate his masculine tenancies and play up your feminine. Men love it. It makes them feel attractive and desirable and who doesn't want to feel that?
Thursday, July 11, 2013
The Woman Men Adore! Be His Dreamgirl!
A dream girl is the kind of woman men adore. She inspires a man to want to be with her, spend time with her, respect her, possibly take her to forever. She does this with a feminine grace that is hard for a man to resist. She is fun, playful, has boundaries and does not badger or nag to get what she needs out of a relationship. She knows her value. She doesn't settle for men who treat her badly or keep her guessing. This is the woman men adore!
Many think that I am talking about playing games here when I talk about being his dream girl. It's not a game. It boils down to being true to self. It's about putting your own heart first because when you do this, you show him how to treat you. Also when you treat yourself well, he knows you will most likely treat him well too!
Many think that I am talking about playing games here when I talk about being his dream girl. It's not a game. It boils down to being true to self. It's about putting your own heart first because when you do this, you show him how to treat you. Also when you treat yourself well, he knows you will most likely treat him well too!
How do you become this kind of woman? What is it that men really want from women and what is it about one woman that has him pining away while he hardly notices other women? What makes one a woman men adore and never want to leave? How do you get this kind of feminine grace that draws men like moths to flames?
What Makes a Man Fall in Love
A man doesn't fall in love with the woman he can live with. A man falls in love with the woman he can't live with out.
If you think it's the things you do that he can't live without, you might want to reconsider. It's not really the nice things you do for for a man that makes a man fall in love. Being good to a man simply isn't the key ingredient. So many women make their mistake here. They give and give hoping it will endear them to the man. They bend over backwards pleasing him. This isn't what makes a man fall in love. This is what makes you a doormat. A woman willing to sacrifice of herself to please another just isn't attractive, she is convenient at the most.
It's the woman that challenges him that men fall in love with. It's the woman who stands up for herself with feminine grace and feminine elegance that wins his heart. The woman that will show him with ease that she will not be a doormat. Men like to make women happy. It makes them feel good and makes them feel valued. Men fall in love with how you make them feel. If they can make you happy, they feel good. Think Tarzan running through the jungle pounding his chest and you get my drift.
If you are bending over backwards to please him, doing all the giving, you are in a sense depriving him. Learning to receive is so important. A woman that can gracefully receive from her man is a woman that men adore. Things as simple as a compliment for example. When he compliments you, do you deny the compliment or thank him authentically? If he offers to do something for you do you accept or tell him no thank you, I can do that? The natural role of the man really is to give and the woman's is to receive.
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Monday, May 20, 2013
How To Flirt With Your Boyfriend Tips!
Flirting is fun and it's a great way to build attraction, yet few know how to do it effectively. Most go about it blatant, not understanding that less is really more. Flirting should spark their imagination and peek their curiosity. I will share a few tips that will stir his heart and endear you to his heart.
1. Talking sofly, so that he has to lean in to hear you. Whisper in his ear.
1. Pull on his sleeve when walking beside him. A gently tug. This one works on him on a subconscious level. Done with a slight laughter, even more effective.
2. When the opportunity presents itself, lean into him with you head slightly on his shoulder briefly. Maybe again you are walking and he says something sweet, lean into him with head on shoulder and just sigh or say Aw. This activates his natural protection mode.
3. Look at him from over your shoulder, that looking back look when you can. This is powerful.
4. When sitting beside him, cross the opposite leg and barely brush his upper calf with your foot. Also angle yourself towards him a bit.
5. Answer the phone with "well hello, then speak his name. The sound of our own name is the sweetest sound on earth. When you see him, as in he picks you up or you are meeting him somewhere, greet him with his name!
6. Bend over as in to get something out of the oven, pick something up, and while you are bent down, look back at him with that smile that says I caught you looking, mischievous like.
7. For no reason, just make eye contact and sort of stare at him. When he asks what are you thinking, and he will, just smile, or say it's a secret.
Flirting is an art and is far more effective done in subtle ways. The goal is to have him think about you more. When a man thinks about you, he falls for you.
Another great way to flirt with your boyfriend is in a text message as well. Texting is the most common form of communication. You can really get his imagination going like this. Imagination is the key to remember. You want him to use his imagination when it comes to you. That means you don't exactly spell it out. You make him wonder if you meant something sexaul or not by sending messages that could be taken both ways.
1. Talking sofly, so that he has to lean in to hear you. Whisper in his ear.
1. Pull on his sleeve when walking beside him. A gently tug. This one works on him on a subconscious level. Done with a slight laughter, even more effective.
2. When the opportunity presents itself, lean into him with you head slightly on his shoulder briefly. Maybe again you are walking and he says something sweet, lean into him with head on shoulder and just sigh or say Aw. This activates his natural protection mode.
3. Look at him from over your shoulder, that looking back look when you can. This is powerful.
4. When sitting beside him, cross the opposite leg and barely brush his upper calf with your foot. Also angle yourself towards him a bit.
5. Answer the phone with "well hello, then speak his name. The sound of our own name is the sweetest sound on earth. When you see him, as in he picks you up or you are meeting him somewhere, greet him with his name!
6. Bend over as in to get something out of the oven, pick something up, and while you are bent down, look back at him with that smile that says I caught you looking, mischievous like.
7. For no reason, just make eye contact and sort of stare at him. When he asks what are you thinking, and he will, just smile, or say it's a secret.
Flirting is an art and is far more effective done in subtle ways. The goal is to have him think about you more. When a man thinks about you, he falls for you.
Another great way to flirt with your boyfriend is in a text message as well. Texting is the most common form of communication. You can really get his imagination going like this. Imagination is the key to remember. You want him to use his imagination when it comes to you. That means you don't exactly spell it out. You make him wonder if you meant something sexaul or not by sending messages that could be taken both ways.
Thursday, June 14, 2012
Why Does He Keep Coming Back
There are many women that ask the question why does he keep coming back into my life? If you care deeply for a man that comes and goes in and out of your life, it's not an easy road to walk. You feel he must care because he keeps coming back, yet when he is gone, you are filled with doubts. If he loves you why doesn't he stay?
If you aren't stressed by this behavior it's all good and fine, but when you long for more from him, more commitment, more time, just more in general, it becomes painful. Many women allow these men to keep coming back because they think his feelings will grow. It happens, but it is rare.
Men keep coming back because for the main point, you allow him too for starters. It's easy for him. If he gets lonely or wants company, there you are, ole faithful, waiting with open arms. The thing is, he probably senses you want more, but are willing to settle for less just for the sake of his company. This isn't the way to earn his respect though that is for sure.
Some men just aren't ready for a relationship or so they say. They use this as an excuse for their come and go behavior and we buy it. If a relationship is what you want, why spend time with a man who doesn't want the same things in life as you do? Usually man translation of "I don't want a relationship", really means "I don't want a relationship with you".
Sure he cares for you or else he wouldn'tkeep coming back. You are comfortable for him. If he isn't sticking around though, trust me, he doesn't care enough.
If you aren't stressed by this behavior it's all good and fine, but when you long for more from him, more commitment, more time, just more in general, it becomes painful. Many women allow these men to keep coming back because they think his feelings will grow. It happens, but it is rare.
Men keep coming back because for the main point, you allow him too for starters. It's easy for him. If he gets lonely or wants company, there you are, ole faithful, waiting with open arms. The thing is, he probably senses you want more, but are willing to settle for less just for the sake of his company. This isn't the way to earn his respect though that is for sure.
Some men just aren't ready for a relationship or so they say. They use this as an excuse for their come and go behavior and we buy it. If a relationship is what you want, why spend time with a man who doesn't want the same things in life as you do? Usually man translation of "I don't want a relationship", really means "I don't want a relationship with you".
Sure he cares for you or else he wouldn'tkeep coming back. You are comfortable for him. If he isn't sticking around though, trust me, he doesn't care enough.
Wednesday, February 22, 2012
Men and Sex - What He Really Wants
When it comes to men and sex, women want to know what turns men on, what do men really want in bed. It may very well surprise you. I know a lot of women who attempt to be these Sex Goddesses, willing to do anything to make men happy in the bedroom. They also hope this will cause the man to deeper connect and attach. Many women truly believe that the way to a man's heart is through his penis. While there may be some truth in this, it may not be the direction of what you are thinking.
First we all know men are visual. A visual can turn a man on in seconds, no doubt. Let's think about porn here for a minute though. In porn, the one who is or is pretending to have the most fun is the woman. She is screaming, moaning and just loving what ever act the man is engaged in. This should be your first clue of what turns men on. To please a woman and have her totally present and enjoying herself is what turns him on and that is one of the main things a man wants in bed.
A man doesn't want a woman having sex with him out of obligation or just to please him. He wants her to really want him. He wants to be desired. He wants to know he has the ability to bring her great pleasure. This is the key to men and sex and what they really want. If you want to turn men on, try making that first move. Try telling him how much you want him or desire him. This will thrill him way more than any stellar performance you could put on in the bedroom. Enthusiasm goes a long long ways.
Men also as a general rule aren't that great at true intimacy outside of the bedroom. Most men feel most connected intimately through sex. For many men, this is their only intimate outlet. They need this to thrive in a relationship. If you are cutting him off, or rationing it out, you are emotionally hurting him.
Now I won't lie and tell you men have no erotic fantasies, they do. Almost all men secretly want more than one woman. It's just the way they are wired. This doesn't mean he will be unfaithful though. It just means he is a man. To think that your man's penis shrivals up when around other women is unrealistic. It's best to embrace his masculine nature as opposed to being threatened by it. Learn to understand men and sex.
When it comes to men and sex, they really aren't that complicated. If they feel you are happy with them sexually, this is what men really want in bed. An enthusiastic, involved partner.
First we all know men are visual. A visual can turn a man on in seconds, no doubt. Let's think about porn here for a minute though. In porn, the one who is or is pretending to have the most fun is the woman. She is screaming, moaning and just loving what ever act the man is engaged in. This should be your first clue of what turns men on. To please a woman and have her totally present and enjoying herself is what turns him on and that is one of the main things a man wants in bed.
A man doesn't want a woman having sex with him out of obligation or just to please him. He wants her to really want him. He wants to be desired. He wants to know he has the ability to bring her great pleasure. This is the key to men and sex and what they really want. If you want to turn men on, try making that first move. Try telling him how much you want him or desire him. This will thrill him way more than any stellar performance you could put on in the bedroom. Enthusiasm goes a long long ways.
Men also as a general rule aren't that great at true intimacy outside of the bedroom. Most men feel most connected intimately through sex. For many men, this is their only intimate outlet. They need this to thrive in a relationship. If you are cutting him off, or rationing it out, you are emotionally hurting him.
Now I won't lie and tell you men have no erotic fantasies, they do. Almost all men secretly want more than one woman. It's just the way they are wired. This doesn't mean he will be unfaithful though. It just means he is a man. To think that your man's penis shrivals up when around other women is unrealistic. It's best to embrace his masculine nature as opposed to being threatened by it. Learn to understand men and sex.
When it comes to men and sex, they really aren't that complicated. If they feel you are happy with them sexually, this is what men really want in bed. An enthusiastic, involved partner.
Friday, February 17, 2012
Monday, January 23, 2012
How To Make a Man Happy
I am going to share a little story about my friend Dee. Dee is a pleaser. We all love a pleaser, they make life so much easier don't they. Does all their giving though make you happy? Don't you really feel happy when you are the giver? Men are no exception to this rule. Dee I suspect even looks for small reasons and things to give her man and I must say, he is now drifting away and she doesn't get it at all.
I went with Dee to a cookout at her guys house. Dee was calling offering to bring something, or stop by the store. He said he had it covered. Then she thought ahead. They might run out of beer. She stopped and bought a case to take. We got to his house and she pulls out a bag that I didn't know was there. Inside were some odds and ends, cooking utensils, extra ashtrays, just stuff. She thought these things would make him happy.
He didn't ask her for anything, he just invited her to a cookout. These extras were in his mind sort of telling him "I know you said you had it covered, but just in case". If she wanted to truly make him happy the best thing she could have done was to show up and enjoy herself and let him know how much she appreciated it. Appreciation is huge to men by the way, a key in how to make a man happy.
Here comes another issue with the above situation. She always brings things over, does things. In her mind she is giving and then when he doesn't give back, she is disappointed. Next thing you know she may be complaining and wondering why he doesn't do the same for her. Resentment created by your own hands.
If you want to make know how to make a man happy, consider letting him make you happy instead. That's all men really want, to be able to make you happy. That is the secret to how to make a man happy. When it begins to seem like work to make you happy, the thrill is gone.
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