I am not buying that he appears when you stop looking. Yes it's a myth. It's far deeper than this. The reason he hasn't appeared until you stopped looking has more to do with your degree of readiness. The reason he had not appeared earlier is simple. You weren't ready. You were more than likely too busy trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. Let me explain.
I have watched many a woman transform to ready, myself included, but the transformation was a journey, not an over night thing. Usually it was a series of events or should I say relationships that propels the transformation. A woman may very well go through a few bad relationships.
Relationships that she had to guess where she stood. A relationship that may have been one-sided where she always had to make the initiative and she wondered if she didn't, would she see him or talk to him at all. You know, sending a daily text and always having a good reason in your head to justify it. Actually you were just that dependent or addicted to these men. Trying to fit a square peg in a round hole.
You may have repeated the above cycle with the same man or different men, but the cycle was always the same. You never felt secure in your relationship. You never really felt to your core that the man really really loved you or knew this without a doubt. Then one day you reach a breaking point.
You say this isn't how it is supposed to be. I am tired of doing the heavy lifting. I love myself to much to settle for the crumbs I have been accepting. You reach the point where you can take responsibility for your choices and acceptance of the wrong men. Enough is enough and the internal shift to ready begins. No more of this, "Oh but I love him". Now he has to love me too!
You become open to Mr. Right. You are also more able to begin to recognize Mr. Wrong, which in essence prepares you even more for Mr. Right. You can feel when you aren't a priority. You would prefer being alone than another man's option. The old you would hang on or again try to fit the square peg into the round hole. The new you says no way. Next and he is gone and you are fine with it. You are ready to love again.
Meanwhile there is a man out there probably transforming as well and at the same degree of readiness. There is more than one of these men by the way. A soul mate of sorts. It's only going to take one though and he will cross your path. Two people on ready. This is the way it must be. Both have to be ready for each other. Not just one partner. You know this to your core. Because of your journey, because of your internal transformation, you recognize him at last. Mr. Right. Sometimes he appears out of nowhere, sometimes he has been there all along and now you are really ready for love.
I have watched many a woman transform to ready, myself included, but the transformation was a journey, not an over night thing. Usually it was a series of events or should I say relationships that propels the transformation. A woman may very well go through a few bad relationships.
Relationships that she had to guess where she stood. A relationship that may have been one-sided where she always had to make the initiative and she wondered if she didn't, would she see him or talk to him at all. You know, sending a daily text and always having a good reason in your head to justify it. Actually you were just that dependent or addicted to these men. Trying to fit a square peg in a round hole.
You may have repeated the above cycle with the same man or different men, but the cycle was always the same. You never felt secure in your relationship. You never really felt to your core that the man really really loved you or knew this without a doubt. Then one day you reach a breaking point.
You say this isn't how it is supposed to be. I am tired of doing the heavy lifting. I love myself to much to settle for the crumbs I have been accepting. You reach the point where you can take responsibility for your choices and acceptance of the wrong men. Enough is enough and the internal shift to ready begins. No more of this, "Oh but I love him". Now he has to love me too!
You become open to Mr. Right. You are also more able to begin to recognize Mr. Wrong, which in essence prepares you even more for Mr. Right. You can feel when you aren't a priority. You would prefer being alone than another man's option. The old you would hang on or again try to fit the square peg into the round hole. The new you says no way. Next and he is gone and you are fine with it. You are ready to love again.
Meanwhile there is a man out there probably transforming as well and at the same degree of readiness. There is more than one of these men by the way. A soul mate of sorts. It's only going to take one though and he will cross your path. Two people on ready. This is the way it must be. Both have to be ready for each other. Not just one partner. You know this to your core. Because of your journey, because of your internal transformation, you recognize him at last. Mr. Right. Sometimes he appears out of nowhere, sometimes he has been there all along and now you are really ready for love.
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Why He Disappeared!
Why He Disappeared!
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