The number one website for guys to learn to be a pick up artist was created by Nick Savoy. Nick is globally recognized in the pick up artist arena. I did a one one one very candid interview with Nick and you can listen to it on my website here at lovegirltalk. He really takes you into the mind of a player.
So can you play a player and turn the tables? Absolutely. It's not for the faint of heart though or the insecure woman who falls too hard to fast. To play a player, you need to leave your emotions out of it in order to trigger his.
Players are not just smooth talkers. They use human nature to their advantage. The we all want what we can't have is one of the best used tactic or the take away. They pay you attention, then ignore, back and forth. If you just met him out, he is back and forth with you. He may get up and approach another woman. This increases his value. If other women want him, it does tend to spark your attraction.
If you have been dating him, he more than likely contacts you strongly for a day or so, then stops. Back and forth he goes. There are times he probably won't answer your text, only to text you a few days later and attempt to meet up.
He is training you like pavlov's dog is what he is doing. When he is with you he makes you feel so good. Then when he is gone, you crave his attention. He goes into vanishing mode and while you can't find him, you are wanting to see him. He reappears, you are swept away with relief and the cycle starts again. The relief being the trigger for pavlov's dog. He just set you up.
So how do you turn the tables with this man? Think of a cat. Know how you dangle that string in front of a cat and he bats at it, tries to get it in his teeth? Then you pull the string away, and he lies there swagging his tail waiting to do it again.
Think though about the attention span of this cat. A spider walks by and he forgets all about the string...for a moment. Once he ate the spider, he comes back.
If you are going to play a player, you have to stand out from the other girls that fall into his games. Most girls just get swept away by this silver tongued devils. You attitude has to be one of I can take you or leave you. You do not say this or speak your attitude, but you show it with your actions. It could easily be in what you don't say as to what you do. You be the one who doesn't whine and ask silly questions like "When will I see you again". Not asking this question alone is powerful. All the other girls ask him this and now he wonders why don't you.
Players can also get sex about anywhere. So sex to them is not the way to their heart, but I am sure it won't hurt to have a few tricks up your sleeve or know some arts of pleasure that other women simply just don't know. You can find more about male pleasure here.
Playing a player takes patience. The best way for me to explain it further is by example, my own.
I have frequented the same establishment for a few years. The players come and go. In May of 2010 in walks Don Juan. I smile at him and that's it. Turn my head back and focus completely onto my girlfriends. He moves on, but noticed my lack of interest.
He comes back week after week, I may speak politely, but just shrug him off. He picks up numerous girls during these weeks by the way. He tries the lack of interest on me, but I am not interested. He is now very interested, because you see, he wants what he can't have.
July, yes July, I decide to make the move. He is so curious by now, he doesn't know if I just have a bitch shield up or what. He goes to the bathroom, walks right by me. I back my stool up a bit where he is in my line of vision, and lay in wait. He walks out the bathroom, I catch his eye and don't break the stare. By the time he reaches me, I say one little sentence. Well Hello (call him by name), and smile.
What has happened over those weeks is my degree of value has gone up. I don't jump like the others did, therefore he sees me as valuable. He has also seen that he isn't the only one that doesn't manage to pick me up. No easy girl here. If you are an easy girl that doesn't grasp how to be hard to get, well this isn't for you, he won't see value in you.
The results of this. We dated for six months, the tiger turned into a pussy cat and yes I broke his heart. Not bragging on this, but it happened. That though is another post.
If you are going to play a player, you need to understand the concept behind hard to get. It's not what you think. Hard to Get is a state of mind.
Update here on June, 2013. Me and this player are living together now and he is true blue and faithful to me. He comes home everyday after work, he adores me. He fooled around and fell in love. A player reformed! Players can be had, oh yes they can!
