When He is In and Out of Your Life

Ever been crazy about a man who is in and out of your life.  He spends the weekend with you or maybe a night and it's just incredible.  The chemistry is over the top and you feel such a connection.  Then he just disappears for days, weeks at a time, only to reappear again down the road to repeat it all over again.  It's baffling, so what is going on here?

This is a man that can't not only commit to being with you, he can't commit to being without you either.  In other words, he just can't commit, period.  Many women stay in this situation hoping he will come to his senses.  They convince themselves of all the reasons he could be doing this.  Work is stressful, he is busy, he has family issues.  The reasons could be many.  The truth is though, he just isn't ready to commit or willing to commit. 

By allowing this man to come in and out of your life leaving your heart all over the place, you are accepting his crumbs on his terms.  What are your terms?  Is this enough for you.  Many women get in too deep and next thing you know years go by and it's still the same ole thing.  They can't fall for another man because their heart is too wrapped up in this man.

A man that comes in and out of your life or a man that disappears on you is not seeing you as a priority in his life, there is no other reason.  If he isn't committing because of being busy, working, family issues, whatever, it's because he doesn't want to.  Men do exactly what they want to do.  He is more than likely just keeping his other options open.

This is a hard situation to be in.  Why he disappeared is really not that much of a mystery as most women make it out to be.  The mystery may lie in why do you allow him to do this?  Why he disappeared.

2 Things a Guy Has to Do to Make Your Relationship Work

Below is an article from Evan Marc Katz that I found very interesting and wanted to share.

You’ve been with cute, charming, charismatic men before.

What did you notice about those guys?

They’re often so caught up in themselves – in their jobs, in their egos, and in their quest for freedom and multiple partners – that they make for bad bets as boyfriends.

On the other hand, you’ve been with guys who’ve made a huge effort on your behalf. Guys who buy you flowers, text you 10 times a day, and tell you they’re falling in love with you after 2 hours together.

What did you notice about those guys?

Their efforts don’t mean anything if you’re not really interested in them. No amount of red roses are going to win you over if he’s not smart, attractive and confident.

So what does this mean for you?

It means that too many times in your life, you’ve put up with the wrong type of men: those who make no effort whatsoever and those who have no personality.

From this point forward, you’re never going to do either again.

From this point forward, you’re going to know the two things that a man MUST have for your relationship to have a chance of success.

Without BOTH of them, you might as well give up on the guy.

WITH both of them, you have every reason to be optimistic about your future.

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Do you spend most of your relationship wondering why things can’t be better, easier, more fun, more supportive. Why can’t they be the way they were in the first couple of months, you ask?

My answer: Who F-ing Cares?!


Test 1: Is this fun? Is this easy? Do I enjoy the relationship? Am I happy?

Big fat NO. It doesn’t matter if there was attraction and flirtation three months ago; right NOW, Paulina is Matthew’s emotional booty call. He keeps in touch with her regularly to have a female presence in his life, but conversations aren’t fun, lively, playful, or even interesting. What is SHE getting out of this relationship? Nothing.

Test 2: Is he making an effort?

Big fat NO. Don’t mistake phone calls for dates. A man who wants to be your boyfriend MAKES PLANS to see you IMMEDIATELY. What are you doing tomorrow? The next day? The following weekend? For Thanksgiving?

That’s what we do when we want a relationship. Anything less, you’re settling for crumbs.

So if you look at your current relationship and find yourself in inner turmoil, chances are there are one of two things wrong:

1. You really don’t like the guy that much. You like the IDEA of the guy, but you don’t actually have a fun, supportive, easygoing partner in life.

2. He’s making no effort to see you, commit to you, or grow your relationship.

Either one is grounds for dumping. If this applies to you, get started now.

If you want to get this right and NEVER make this mistake again, click here to save YEARS of wasted time on the wrong men.