How To Turn the Tables When He Says He Needs Space

If your guy just told you he needs his space, you very likely are confused, maybe even in a panic. Has he met someone else? Has he lost interest? Is he about to dump you?

Now any of these cases may be true. The more likely case though is he is feeling trapped, maybe smothered by you. Now you may think you aren't making him feel this way, but often times it's little things you do that makes him feel this.

Maybe you are asking questions, like where he is, when is he calling, who is he with, things like that. This sets that huge fear that all men have into action. The fear of losing their freedom. You can't force a man to give up his freedom, if he wants to sacrifice this, it has to be at his pace and his choice. Otherwise, he is going to pull away.

Men also start feeling trapped when you show insecurity. Maybe you whine a little because he spends Friday with the guys and not you. Maybe he is working too much or didn't call you and you mentioned this to him. He starts feeling he is the center of your world and responsible for your happiness. This will make a man run for his space of cave faster than a speeding bullet.

Now let's say you have done some of the above or for some reason you don't understand, he just wants his space. What you have to do is give it to him. Don't ask him questions like "How long?", "Why?", etc... Let him have it, lots of it, happily. Not so easy to do I know, but if you put up resistance, you are going to reinforce the reason he wants his space to start with.

If you follow behind a man who has told you he wants his space, you are in essence not trusting him. You aren't trusting his judgement, nor respecting his wishes. A man has to be trusted to feel safe. Safety is big and something a man has to feel with you to commit.

If a man asks for space, and you give it to him happily and drama free, it shows him you can keep your head together. It also is the opposite of what he expects. He has been through it before and I am sure the woman before you held on tightly, thus pushing him further away. The woman who lets him go, and continues on living her life and living it well, turns his head and turns the table.

This drama free woman earns his respect. He also may start to wonder if you are as into him as he thought, which sparks his imagination. His imagination is your best weapon. This recreates the challenge for him, which also acts to recreate the spark that may have fizzled out. If a man needs his space, surprise him, give it to him, lots of it.

He Said He Needs Space! Watch Out Girl

When he says he needs his space, what is he thinking? Usually when a guy says he needs his space, he doesn't mean from his buddies or others in his life. When he says this, he usually means he needs space away from you. He is feeling smothered, maybe you are being too clingy or needy. Worst case, another woman has caught his eye. This does happen and a lot. A woman who is not clingy and needy and does not try to monitor him, a cool girl.

When a guy needs his space, often it's just a nice way to let you down easy. If you try and cling to him, ask him what he is thinking, and why, it pushes him away even more. When a guy says he needs his space, the best thing to do is give it to him. Holding on tighter will only drive him away more. You probably really won't know exactly what is going through his head so no need wasting energy to figure him out.

If he needs space, he may very well be evaluating your relationship. Deciding if this is what he wants or not. He may be in that freak out mode right before commitment. How you handle his request is crucial. It can be the difference of going to the next level or breaking up. A guy wanting space is usually contemplating a split, a permanent one and wants to try it on for size, so watch out, get prepared.

Don't go into wait mode or tell him you will be there when he makes up his mind. This just lets him know he has the controls of the relationship. Doesn't seem quite fair when you are now feeling out of control. When a guy says he needs his space, this is a time to put a plan into action to bring him closer. This is not done by holding on tightly, but by letting go.

There are women out there that are adored by their men. These women never hear the words, "I need my space". They instinctively know how to handle these men and how to get what they want from a relationship. Instead of letting another woman take your guy, learn how to be the women men adore and have him forever.