Why He Won't Commit

A man has to feel desired for who he is. He wants to feel it's his uniqueness that won you over. Often we start out pushing way too soon, after a few dates we are wanting to know where this is going. This tells him you have an open position to fill and anyone will do. It does not make him feel special. He needs to feel special to commit, not just some guy to put in a tux and walk down the isle with and live happily ever after.

When women get in a hurry to secure the commitment it tells men, "She is insecure and needs to fill a void. She can't be alone". Her desire to secure a relationship has nothing to do with me personnaly. This is why you should always let him lead. Let him think it is his idea. He wants to know you value your selection of a man and who you commit to. This tells him that he is special and ignites a desire to commit. Why he won't commit is often because he does not feel that special.

The way to make him think it is his idea is to keep some distance. It causes a man to fixate on you. The reason is 9 out of 10 women assume the role of girlfriend after a month or two. They start trying to control the outcome of the relationship. They call if they have not heard from him, they try to lock down time with him, basically wearing the girlfriend crown long before he has placed it on our heads.

This is what causes men to back off. They have an instinct to protect their freedom. Remember it's women who want to discuss a commitment. Men do not. They have to accidently just fall into it. They value what they have to work for. If you are just a lay down, meaning easy to get, he will not value you and will not commit.

It takes a lot of patience to lead a man to commitment. Even the most phobic of men can be led to commit, but it takes a special woman to do this. Not a yes girl. Don't be the woman who watches her man drift away and eventually wind up married to some other girl. It happens all the time, he says he is not ready, then next thing you know he is with someone new. Don't let this happen to you, be his dream girl, not his doormat.

How to get Him to Propose

So exactly how do you get him to propose or how can you go from girlfriend status to wife? Is not by nagging, having the talk, hinting or any trick tactics. Drama will not work, but will send him on a marathon run to the hills. You have to create an intense attraction that goes past his body and into his soul. An attraction and deep love that will send him on a marathon straight to the jewelry store. To go from girlfriend to wife, and get him to propose, you must be that irresistible woman with boundaries and self respect.

A woman with boundaries and self respect knows what she will and will not accept in a man and she stands her ground. This challenges a man and a man loves a challenge. When he is challenged he feels he is going to win a prize and the prize will be you. You have to be that rare woman unlike all those before you. When something is rare, its value goes up and a man will pay more for it. A man treasures that which he works the hardest for.

Walking power is a very valuable tool in getting a man to propose to you. Walking power is when your man just knows that if he crosses any of your boundaries or deal breakers you have, without a doubt you will kick his fanny to the curb. Walking power is also when he knows that you are still deciding if you want him long term. This means knowing that if certain things show up while you are dating, you will walk away and not look back.

If you are always available, doing all the work in your relationship, you lose your value. He will see you as the permanent girlfriend and you may never get that walk down the isle. If you have your own full life and passions in life outside of him, he will naturally be drawn to you. If you are always there and try to make his life easy, it will backfire. He will take you for granted. You don't want backfire, you want real fire. You want him to feel a burning hot fire for you that tells him in the core of his being that you are the woman that was made just for him.

How To Go From Girlfriend to wife is a wonderful, entertaining book by a wonderful woman, Nicole Gayle. This book will enlighten you and show you how to get into a man's soul. If you have been wearing that girlfriend crown for a while now and want to get him to propose and give you the ring this book is for you. Show him you are more than a girlfriend, you are a Goddess and enchant him and get him to propose and commit for life.