If men love sex so much then why are so many of us women not completely satisfied in the bedroom. Are they really clueless? After 48 years and talking with hundreds of women, the answer is I think yes, most really are. Most don't understand that we are capable of so much more pleasure than they give us. I really think that is it, they just don't know.
How many men have you known that thought just because you were wet you were ready to roll? I have even had a few say "Yeah baby, you are so ready". You just want to say to them, "Slow down Boy, it ain't time yet". Or you start to breath a little heavy and they think you just had the orgasm of your life.
Now a lot of it is our own fault because we don't tell them. The sad thing though is if we do tell them, their ego is wounded and often it dampens the relationship. I can remember one man that actually broke up with me over this. I think he was terrified he could not satisfy me. I mean he asked me, "did you cum?" What was I supposed to say? I didn't, never did in 8 months. The effect of that on me for a long time was I started lying or faking. If I didn't I was scared the man would leave. Silly woman I was back then.
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Sunday, October 17, 2010
Friday, October 15, 2010
Should You Have the Talk with Your Guy
Four of the most dreaded words for a man are, "We need to talk". His defenses start going up, he automatically assumes he has done something wrong. You might as well grab him by the balls and squeeze, he would probably prefer this actually. It beats what he thinks he is about to hear, which is drama and emotional confrontation. A man will avoid this like the plague.
First really consider why it is that you need this talk with your guy. Is it out of your own insecurity? If you have been dating years, well that may be a different story which still doesn't need a talk, more like dump him if he hasn't committed by now. If it's only been a few weeks or months, slow down girl.
Here is where we screw up as women. We start wanting more sooner than the man does. Men do not operate on our time table. We often go into it thinking of the future where they just live in the moment. We start acting like the girlfriend, not giving them the opportunity to woe us and make us their girlfriend. The attraction is killed and the man disappears. Happens all the time.
If you are trying to get more time, more of a commitment, whatever it is that you are hoping to get from the talk with your guy, chances are good it will backfire. Think about it, why isn't he wanting to have the talk with you? Why isn't he trying to get a commitment, or more of your time? If you are the one doing all of the work in the relationship, he won't feel the need to have the talk with you. He already knows he has you, that is why your boyfriend isn't having the talk with you.
With the right man you won't need to bring up the talk and there will not be an elephant in the room. You will not be wondering if and when he is going to call, how he feels or what his intentions are. The way you feel between dates is the best sign of what the relationship is like. If you feel a level of comfort, if you just know when you lay your head down to sleep at night that this man loves and cherishes you, then and only then is it right. If you wonder, guess, speculate, this guy may not be the right and having the talk with your guy will not get you anywhere.
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First really consider why it is that you need this talk with your guy. Is it out of your own insecurity? If you have been dating years, well that may be a different story which still doesn't need a talk, more like dump him if he hasn't committed by now. If it's only been a few weeks or months, slow down girl.
Here is where we screw up as women. We start wanting more sooner than the man does. Men do not operate on our time table. We often go into it thinking of the future where they just live in the moment. We start acting like the girlfriend, not giving them the opportunity to woe us and make us their girlfriend. The attraction is killed and the man disappears. Happens all the time.
If you are trying to get more time, more of a commitment, whatever it is that you are hoping to get from the talk with your guy, chances are good it will backfire. Think about it, why isn't he wanting to have the talk with you? Why isn't he trying to get a commitment, or more of your time? If you are the one doing all of the work in the relationship, he won't feel the need to have the talk with you. He already knows he has you, that is why your boyfriend isn't having the talk with you.
With the right man you won't need to bring up the talk and there will not be an elephant in the room. You will not be wondering if and when he is going to call, how he feels or what his intentions are. The way you feel between dates is the best sign of what the relationship is like. If you feel a level of comfort, if you just know when you lay your head down to sleep at night that this man loves and cherishes you, then and only then is it right. If you wonder, guess, speculate, this guy may not be the right and having the talk with your guy will not get you anywhere.
Tables can be turned once you understand what inspires men to commit. Learn how to get what you want without the talk. Be the girl on the receiving end of that talk
Thursday, October 14, 2010
Are You Obsessing Over a Guy?
You might be planning your schedule around him. You won't commit to other activities just in case he fits you in or wants to see you. You watch what you say, and how you act around him. If he does something that hurts your feelings sometimes you let it slide because you are scared you will rock the boat. If you are doing these things, you are obsessing over a guy.
He may get moody and distant. When he does you just get nicer and understanding because you want to be a good little girlfriend. You make him the center of your world because you want him to know how much you care. This is actually the thing that pushes a guy away. The way we pull a guy towards us is by lessening their importance in our lives.
Guys can sense when a girl is obsessing over them and it is not attractive. It comes across as needy. If you want to stop obsessing then you need to stop making him your top priority. Stop being so nice, stop being available every time he calls. Stop making him the center of your world and start making yourself the center of your world.
Funny thing happens when we shift the focus off of him and onto ourselves and our own lives. The guy starts to see you as more attractive. He starts to center more around you. He sees you aren't always at his command or falling all over him known as obsessing over a guy. His attraction is rekindled.
Obsessing over a guy is torture. It consumes you, takes away from your life and your happiness. The way to keep a guy is to not obsess over him. Nice girls that try to hard to make a guy love them usually lose them.
If you are obsessing over a guy and you are with him right now and feeling frustrated because he is not moving towards a commitment with you can get help here
He may get moody and distant. When he does you just get nicer and understanding because you want to be a good little girlfriend. You make him the center of your world because you want him to know how much you care. This is actually the thing that pushes a guy away. The way we pull a guy towards us is by lessening their importance in our lives.
Guys can sense when a girl is obsessing over them and it is not attractive. It comes across as needy. If you want to stop obsessing then you need to stop making him your top priority. Stop being so nice, stop being available every time he calls. Stop making him the center of your world and start making yourself the center of your world.
Funny thing happens when we shift the focus off of him and onto ourselves and our own lives. The guy starts to see you as more attractive. He starts to center more around you. He sees you aren't always at his command or falling all over him known as obsessing over a guy. His attraction is rekindled.
Obsessing over a guy is torture. It consumes you, takes away from your life and your happiness. The way to keep a guy is to not obsess over him. Nice girls that try to hard to make a guy love them usually lose them.
If you are obsessing over a guy and you are with him right now and feeling frustrated because he is not moving towards a commitment with you can get help here
Wednesday, October 13, 2010
When Your Guy Ignores You Can You Get His Attention Again?
When you are together he seems so into you. He is all over you. Then when he is not, he may not call for days or maybe even weeks. He seems to blow hot and cold. You may have just had a great date, such a connection, then your guy ignores you. What is going on and why does he do this.
We as women often try so hard to get his attention. We bend ourselves into a pretzel trying to please him. We make ourselves available to fit his schedule, we call him when we haven't heard from him. We actually start behaving like a wife long before the ring is on our finger. If you are doing this, that ring won't ever be on your finger. Being clingy, depending on your him for your validation will only cause your guy to ignore you more.
Men really do like to feel they have the woman that not every guy could get. He likes knowing he had to work for her. If your guy is ignoring you, he doesn't place value on you. A girl a guy sees as valuable is one he had to work for, not one that is always available to him.
If your guy ignores you, don't push him. No amount of talking will do it. Talking about it, complaining that he isn't giving you attention actually pushes him away. Men don't respond to words, they respond to distance. If you distance yourself from him, mirror his behavior, he will start to sense that you are no longer making him a priority. It triggers in him that maybe he might have to start working to get your attention for a change.
Think about it. Why should you be the one doing all the work to make him happy. Wouldn't it feel nice to sit back and let him do the work to make you happy for a change. This really is the way it should be. If your guy is ignoring you, this is a sign something is seriously wrong.
Find out the real reason guys pull away.
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We as women often try so hard to get his attention. We bend ourselves into a pretzel trying to please him. We make ourselves available to fit his schedule, we call him when we haven't heard from him. We actually start behaving like a wife long before the ring is on our finger. If you are doing this, that ring won't ever be on your finger. Being clingy, depending on your him for your validation will only cause your guy to ignore you more.
Men really do like to feel they have the woman that not every guy could get. He likes knowing he had to work for her. If your guy is ignoring you, he doesn't place value on you. A girl a guy sees as valuable is one he had to work for, not one that is always available to him.
If your guy ignores you, don't push him. No amount of talking will do it. Talking about it, complaining that he isn't giving you attention actually pushes him away. Men don't respond to words, they respond to distance. If you distance yourself from him, mirror his behavior, he will start to sense that you are no longer making him a priority. It triggers in him that maybe he might have to start working to get your attention for a change.
Think about it. Why should you be the one doing all the work to make him happy. Wouldn't it feel nice to sit back and let him do the work to make you happy for a change. This really is the way it should be. If your guy is ignoring you, this is a sign something is seriously wrong.
Find out the real reason guys pull away.
If you aren't getting what you want out of your dating and relationships, it may be time to make some changes. Ever seen that woman who seems to get guys so easily. What does she have? What makes guys want to be with her? Find out how to inspire a man deep in his core to want you and only you.
Friday, October 8, 2010
The Truth About Why Men Blow Hot and Cold
One reason is you allow him to do this. If you continue dating, or remain in a relationship with this man, well it tells him it's alright to treat you this way. He behaves badly, you reward him with your company. He manages to keep you on the back burner. You still wonder though why he does it in the first place, not to mention how you wonder about how he really feels about you.
I can tell you how he doesn't feel about you. A man that runs hot and cold, here one day gone the next. One day he is super sweet on the phone, the next day it's like you are a bother. This man does not see you as a priority in his life. If he did, he would be scared to death to run hot and cold. He would be scared you would be gone. A man who treats you like a princess one day and a peasant the next does not adore you and probably doesn't see you as his Miss Forever.
Guys have learned that there are a lot of women out there who will tolerate this behavior. It's the women before you that may have trained him this way. They put up with it. He learned he really didn't have to do a lot to keep a woman around. He doesn't really value these women, but mostly because they don't value themselves.
These hot and cold guys will keep you in limbo for a while, but eventually they almost always disappear. What makes them disappear usually is a woman comes along who may present them with a higher degree of difficulty or a new challenge. He moves on in search of the chase. Sad though, they often toss you a phone call or text still, just to keep you in the loop. Crumbs, just crumbs. You are best off not to bother to bend over to pick them up.
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If your guy is runs hot and cold, it doesn't mean it's hopeless, they have been turned around. It's usually by another woman though who won't tolerate the cold. He gets intrigued and next thing you know he is in a serious relationship where he jumps through hoops for this woman and you are left wondering what does she have that you don't.
Tired of living in limbo land with Mr. Hot and Cold. Do you wonder if and when he will disappear.
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I can tell you how he doesn't feel about you. A man that runs hot and cold, here one day gone the next. One day he is super sweet on the phone, the next day it's like you are a bother. This man does not see you as a priority in his life. If he did, he would be scared to death to run hot and cold. He would be scared you would be gone. A man who treats you like a princess one day and a peasant the next does not adore you and probably doesn't see you as his Miss Forever.
Guys have learned that there are a lot of women out there who will tolerate this behavior. It's the women before you that may have trained him this way. They put up with it. He learned he really didn't have to do a lot to keep a woman around. He doesn't really value these women, but mostly because they don't value themselves.
These hot and cold guys will keep you in limbo for a while, but eventually they almost always disappear. What makes them disappear usually is a woman comes along who may present them with a higher degree of difficulty or a new challenge. He moves on in search of the chase. Sad though, they often toss you a phone call or text still, just to keep you in the loop. Crumbs, just crumbs. You are best off not to bother to bend over to pick them up.
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If your guy is runs hot and cold, it doesn't mean it's hopeless, they have been turned around. It's usually by another woman though who won't tolerate the cold. He gets intrigued and next thing you know he is in a serious relationship where he jumps through hoops for this woman and you are left wondering what does she have that you don't.
Tired of living in limbo land with Mr. Hot and Cold. Do you wonder if and when he will disappear.
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Thursday, October 7, 2010
Secrets for Texting a Guy You Just Met
In order to stand out from the other girls you gotta be different. In order to do this, you need to know what it is they are doing. I will list a few below.
1. They text the guy first
2. They engage in all day texting marathons
3. They exaggerate too many letters or use too much punctuation. Such as adding a dozen O's on the end of hello followed by 8 exclamation points.
4. If the guy doesn't reply to texts, they text again.
5. They are boring
The above are just a few things that most girls do. The main thing here is you don't want to come across as too available or as if you are glued to your phone. If you always reply right away, are always available and have time to engage in those all day marathons, he won't see you as very valuable. He is not having to work to get your attention. This is not good and it a sure way to kill the attraction of a guy you just met.
When texting a guy you just met, always let him send the first text. Reply, but don't jump and do it instantly, let him wait. You are a busy girl right? You aren't just sitting around waiting on him to call or text. Meet him with wit and humor but some healthy resistance. If you can end the conversation first, all the better. It doesn't feel as good to be the last one to send the text and he not reply.
Never when texting a guy you just met do you want to lay any of your cards on the table. You don't want to shower him with compliments or let on that you are into him yet. So often girls screw up right here with texting. They start laying it on thick, investing in the guy way before he has shown he is willing to return that investment. You might as well text him "Pick me, Pick me, please". Let him lead, you follow his pace with a little holding back.
Guys like mystery. They value the things they have to work for. When texting a guy you just met, if you want to get and keep his attention, be elusive, mysterious and flirty. Stand out from the other girls.
Are you making fatal blunders in your texts with guys and killing the attraction unknowingly? Learn the techniques and skills to get and keep his interests.
1. They text the guy first
2. They engage in all day texting marathons
3. They exaggerate too many letters or use too much punctuation. Such as adding a dozen O's on the end of hello followed by 8 exclamation points.
4. If the guy doesn't reply to texts, they text again.
5. They are boring
The above are just a few things that most girls do. The main thing here is you don't want to come across as too available or as if you are glued to your phone. If you always reply right away, are always available and have time to engage in those all day marathons, he won't see you as very valuable. He is not having to work to get your attention. This is not good and it a sure way to kill the attraction of a guy you just met.
When texting a guy you just met, always let him send the first text. Reply, but don't jump and do it instantly, let him wait. You are a busy girl right? You aren't just sitting around waiting on him to call or text. Meet him with wit and humor but some healthy resistance. If you can end the conversation first, all the better. It doesn't feel as good to be the last one to send the text and he not reply.
Never when texting a guy you just met do you want to lay any of your cards on the table. You don't want to shower him with compliments or let on that you are into him yet. So often girls screw up right here with texting. They start laying it on thick, investing in the guy way before he has shown he is willing to return that investment. You might as well text him "Pick me, Pick me, please". Let him lead, you follow his pace with a little holding back.
Guys like mystery. They value the things they have to work for. When texting a guy you just met, if you want to get and keep his attention, be elusive, mysterious and flirty. Stand out from the other girls.
Are you making fatal blunders in your texts with guys and killing the attraction unknowingly? Learn the techniques and skills to get and keep his interests.
Tuesday, October 5, 2010
No Contact and I dream of Jeannie
Today I had the T.V. on in the background. It was the very first episode of "I dream of Jeannie". I know I am telling my age, but it was interesting how Jeannie handled her "master" aka Major Nelson.
If you don't know the background to this, Major Nelson was and Astronaut and his shuttle had some sort of issue and he found a bottle where he was stranded on a deserted Island and in it was a beautiful blond Jeannie. She went home with him and sort of moved in. She traveled around the house with via smoke. She slept in her bottle though, (no sex perhaps?).
Somehow she poofed him with her to her Country where he was in danger. He had just told Jeannie who thought they were getting married, that he wasn't marrying her. He begged to go back home. When he did, she turned her back on him, smiled a little wicked knowing smile and blinked him right back home, without her of course. So women apparently knew about the no contact rule as far back as the 60's and I bet they have always known about it. The virtual world might just make it more well known now. Interesting anyway.
He landed back at home screaming her name and thanks but she wasn't there. Uh oh! He panicked. She made him suffer a little longer. He became desperate, seems he just didn't know what he had until it was gone. I think that they did marry in the end after many an episode, but one things for sure, Major Nelson always treated Jeannie really really well, but then that is because of Jeannie and her wisdom afterall.
If you don't know the background to this, Major Nelson was and Astronaut and his shuttle had some sort of issue and he found a bottle where he was stranded on a deserted Island and in it was a beautiful blond Jeannie. She went home with him and sort of moved in. She traveled around the house with via smoke. She slept in her bottle though, (no sex perhaps?).
Somehow she poofed him with her to her Country where he was in danger. He had just told Jeannie who thought they were getting married, that he wasn't marrying her. He begged to go back home. When he did, she turned her back on him, smiled a little wicked knowing smile and blinked him right back home, without her of course. So women apparently knew about the no contact rule as far back as the 60's and I bet they have always known about it. The virtual world might just make it more well known now. Interesting anyway.
He landed back at home screaming her name and thanks but she wasn't there. Uh oh! He panicked. She made him suffer a little longer. He became desperate, seems he just didn't know what he had until it was gone. I think that they did marry in the end after many an episode, but one things for sure, Major Nelson always treated Jeannie really really well, but then that is because of Jeannie and her wisdom afterall.
Monday, September 27, 2010
Should I Contact Him
Lets say you have had a few dates and he has been coming on strong. Typical right? Now all of a sudden, silence. What is going on? What would it hurt to pick up the phone and see where he is at or try to decipher his level of interest? A lot actually.
I see it all the time, the women start freaking out by a slackness in contact. The instinct is to make contact. In reality ask yourself why do you need to make this contact. Usually it is a need to control and validation. We want to be in control of the outcome of our dating lives, when in the real world we can't, so what's the point?
The rule here is if he wants to talk to you, he will. It's really that simple. He does not need reminding. He is not going to forget you. If he does, well he was not for you anyway. Let him take the lead. A man values that which he works hardest for.
Often they are testing us as well. They want to see how much we will work for them. It's what men do. They are used to the women doing all the work, it's been like this forever. Be the one who is different. This is the one that usually wins his attention and affection. He wakes up one day and that little pea brain thinks, oh I have not heard from her, she must not be that into me. This is a challenge, a man loves a challenge.
Take it a step further and don't be so available, don't always answer, wait a while and return his call. If he does not answer leave a sweet message and do not, I repeat do not text or call him again. You don't want to look desperate or insecure. Men love a confident self assured woman who is responsible for her own happiness.
Less is always more. If you find yourself asking, can I contact him, then take the high road, don't. He will probably call you if you follow this rule. It just might not be in your time frame. Remember, men don't have the same time frame as we do. Patience and strategy women. Think long term satisfaction, not instant gratification.
Women have come up with rules for contacting men for a reason. They work. If you follow the basic rules of calling and texting men, the attraction level between you and your potential mate can be heightened to great levels. Don't make the fatal mistakes that so many women make when calling and texting men.
I see it all the time, the women start freaking out by a slackness in contact. The instinct is to make contact. In reality ask yourself why do you need to make this contact. Usually it is a need to control and validation. We want to be in control of the outcome of our dating lives, when in the real world we can't, so what's the point?
The rule here is if he wants to talk to you, he will. It's really that simple. He does not need reminding. He is not going to forget you. If he does, well he was not for you anyway. Let him take the lead. A man values that which he works hardest for.
Often they are testing us as well. They want to see how much we will work for them. It's what men do. They are used to the women doing all the work, it's been like this forever. Be the one who is different. This is the one that usually wins his attention and affection. He wakes up one day and that little pea brain thinks, oh I have not heard from her, she must not be that into me. This is a challenge, a man loves a challenge.
Take it a step further and don't be so available, don't always answer, wait a while and return his call. If he does not answer leave a sweet message and do not, I repeat do not text or call him again. You don't want to look desperate or insecure. Men love a confident self assured woman who is responsible for her own happiness.
Less is always more. If you find yourself asking, can I contact him, then take the high road, don't. He will probably call you if you follow this rule. It just might not be in your time frame. Remember, men don't have the same time frame as we do. Patience and strategy women. Think long term satisfaction, not instant gratification.
Women have come up with rules for contacting men for a reason. They work. If you follow the basic rules of calling and texting men, the attraction level between you and your potential mate can be heightened to great levels. Don't make the fatal mistakes that so many women make when calling and texting men.
Thursday, September 16, 2010
One Date and He Stopped Calling
So you went on a great date, had a blast, the connection was off the chain. When you parted he said he would call. It's been days and your phone isn't ringing. What is going on?
Why He Disappeared!
It doesn't really matter what's going on, that's what. I am very active on several women's dating forums and I am here to tell you that this happens all the time. It is very very common. Men poof and vanish more than you know. What matters here is you getting your mindset straight for this dating pool you have landed in.
View each date as just an opportunity to spend time with a new friend. Try not to project anything in the future and go in with no expectations. At the early stage you just don't know. He could be dating around. He could just not be into you. Your mentality should be this. If he is not investing any effort into you, don't waste your precious time investing in him. This includes trying to figure out why.
Why He Disappeared!
Circular dating really is the way to go in the beginning. You date different guys until you find one that checks all the boxes, meaning he is willing to invest and his actions, not just his words back this. He is calling regularly, making time, making plans in advance. A guy you don't have to wonder if he is going to call or not.
If the guy is not doing these things, your mindset should be simply one word. NEXT!
I can't stress enough the value of some of these relationship books. Knowledge is power. I would not have the success I have had with dating without this knowledge. I too have had my share of Houdini. More than I can count. Now it doesn't bother me. I don't have to accept men who are not willing to put forth and effort. Why He Disappeared!
Why He Disappeared!
It doesn't really matter what's going on, that's what. I am very active on several women's dating forums and I am here to tell you that this happens all the time. It is very very common. Men poof and vanish more than you know. What matters here is you getting your mindset straight for this dating pool you have landed in.
View each date as just an opportunity to spend time with a new friend. Try not to project anything in the future and go in with no expectations. At the early stage you just don't know. He could be dating around. He could just not be into you. Your mentality should be this. If he is not investing any effort into you, don't waste your precious time investing in him. This includes trying to figure out why.
Why He Disappeared!
Circular dating really is the way to go in the beginning. You date different guys until you find one that checks all the boxes, meaning he is willing to invest and his actions, not just his words back this. He is calling regularly, making time, making plans in advance. A guy you don't have to wonder if he is going to call or not.
If the guy is not doing these things, your mindset should be simply one word. NEXT!
I can't stress enough the value of some of these relationship books. Knowledge is power. I would not have the success I have had with dating without this knowledge. I too have had my share of Houdini. More than I can count. Now it doesn't bother me. I don't have to accept men who are not willing to put forth and effort. Why He Disappeared!
Wednesday, September 15, 2010
When It Comes to Men, Some Women Have It, You Can Too!
by Bob Grant, L.P.C. author of “The Woman Men Adore”
Every day in my counseling office, I hear women say some variation of this:
“In the last few years, I have had relationships with men who, at first, seemed perfect for me. They were attentive, attractive and fun to be around. Then suddenly, as if they knew they had reeled me in, they stopped trying. They stopped calling as much, stopped taking me out and basically stopped the romantic dance that couples do when they are falling in love. Was it me? After all, I think I’m attractive, have a good personality and I work out to keep my body in nice shape. So why then, do I always end up with the men who become “couch potatoes” at my house? The men who would rather bring a six pack over and watch football all day and then expect me to fix dinner? Do I suddenly turn into just a “buddy” to them, the girl next door?
I see other women who, frankly, are not as attractive as I am or as thin as I am, who seem to get the “hot” men. I don’t necessarily mean gorgeous men, but the men who take them to nice restaurants, bring them flowers, take them dancing and, basically, “court” them. What secrets do they know that I don’t, because they certainly aren’t sharing them?”
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Every day in my counseling office, I hear women say some variation of this:
“In the last few years, I have had relationships with men who, at first, seemed perfect for me. They were attentive, attractive and fun to be around. Then suddenly, as if they knew they had reeled me in, they stopped trying. They stopped calling as much, stopped taking me out and basically stopped the romantic dance that couples do when they are falling in love. Was it me? After all, I think I’m attractive, have a good personality and I work out to keep my body in nice shape. So why then, do I always end up with the men who become “couch potatoes” at my house? The men who would rather bring a six pack over and watch football all day and then expect me to fix dinner? Do I suddenly turn into just a “buddy” to them, the girl next door?
I see other women who, frankly, are not as attractive as I am or as thin as I am, who seem to get the “hot” men. I don’t necessarily mean gorgeous men, but the men who take them to nice restaurants, bring them flowers, take them dancing and, basically, “court” them. What secrets do they know that I don’t, because they certainly aren’t sharing them?”
Most women think a wonderful relationship is simply about finding the right man. The truth is that those women who have wonderful relationships didn’t necessarily know where to find good men, instead they attracted them. Would you like to learn how to attract and keep a wonderful man? The best way to find out probably isn’t by talking to a woman; instead, a man would be able to give you the secrets to a man’s heart.
I’d like to share with you the secrets that men find irresistible and powerless to resist. The dirty little secret is that having a perfect body isn’t nearly as important as you have been led to believe. You can discover this incredible information by simply click here!
Tuesday, September 14, 2010
If Only I could Understand Men
Men always say they can’t understand women, and that women are so complicated. Well, for many women, it is the exact opposite. Most would give anything to understand what makes men “tick.” Even though women want to know what he’s thinking, men are often reluctant to share what is in their hearts. What’s a woman to do?
Rather than describe all the differences between the sexes, it is often more helpful to focus on a few areas that any woman can understand.
1) Men are more sensitive than women. While that might sound silly, the truth is that men don’t have the ability to recover from emotional trauma as effectively as a woman. Because of this, men keep themselves from getting too upset. When a man hears he should just “let his feelings out,” what he translates that into is this, “If I let my feelings out, I might not be able to control them.”
2) Men hate fighting. For men, conflict is not simply resolving a problem. Fighting, to a man, means one has to win and the other needs to be totally defeated. Men often prefer conflict that is non-emotional because it is less threatening to them. Once a conflict becomes emotionally charged, it is very difficult for a man to contain those feelings and the most frequent coping skill is for them to become quiet. It may seem like they are punishing you, but they are most likely trying not to lose control.
3) Men want to get married. In spite of what many progressive cultures preach, the truth is that a majority of men in the world do get married. While the freedom of being single has its appeal, it comes with one primary drawback – it is lonely. While this might not sound overly romantic, finding a woman that a man can trust is just as important as finding one who is beautiful.
If you liked these insights, there are more available in Bob Grant’s wonderful e-book called, “The Woman Men Adore…and Never Want to Leave.” Bob Grant, L.P.C., has taken his 17 years of private practice as a Licensed Professional Counselor and Coach and condensed only the best information into a mouth-watering, powerful handbook on what men find themselves powerless to resist in a woman. You can have this information simply by clicking here.
Rather than describe all the differences between the sexes, it is often more helpful to focus on a few areas that any woman can understand.
1) Men are more sensitive than women. While that might sound silly, the truth is that men don’t have the ability to recover from emotional trauma as effectively as a woman. Because of this, men keep themselves from getting too upset. When a man hears he should just “let his feelings out,” what he translates that into is this, “If I let my feelings out, I might not be able to control them.”
2) Men hate fighting. For men, conflict is not simply resolving a problem. Fighting, to a man, means one has to win and the other needs to be totally defeated. Men often prefer conflict that is non-emotional because it is less threatening to them. Once a conflict becomes emotionally charged, it is very difficult for a man to contain those feelings and the most frequent coping skill is for them to become quiet. It may seem like they are punishing you, but they are most likely trying not to lose control.
3) Men want to get married. In spite of what many progressive cultures preach, the truth is that a majority of men in the world do get married. While the freedom of being single has its appeal, it comes with one primary drawback – it is lonely. While this might not sound overly romantic, finding a woman that a man can trust is just as important as finding one who is beautiful.
If you liked these insights, there are more available in Bob Grant’s wonderful e-book called, “The Woman Men Adore…and Never Want to Leave.” Bob Grant, L.P.C., has taken his 17 years of private practice as a Licensed Professional Counselor and Coach and condensed only the best information into a mouth-watering, powerful handbook on what men find themselves powerless to resist in a woman. You can have this information simply by clicking here.
Sunday, September 5, 2010
The commitment Phobic Men and Their Excuses
Oh we have all experience them, the commitment phobic men. They remain just out of reach. They date you, spend time with you, act as if they are in love, but they never seem to be able to commit completely to us.
They have all of these excuses. Have you heard any of the following.
1. I am not ready to be in a relationship
2. I have been hurt
3. My ex cheated on me
4. It's not you, it's me
5. My job is too demanding right now
5. My finances are not stable
6. My life is chaos
7. My kids take a lot of my time
8. When my kids are older I will be ready
9. I need more time and I will be ready
10. I love you, but the timing will be better in a year or so
These are all just excuses. A man either feels it for you or he doesn't. I and millions of other women have learned this the hard way. We have remained with those commitment phobic men for months, years, only to have him vanish and ride off into the sunset with another woman on that white horse.
Men make these excuses to keep stringing us along. They usually don't want to be alone, so we are the fill the gap girl. Men really do want to commit. They want it just as much as we do. A lot of things have to take place in the heart and mind of a man who decides to commit to you. He has to feel it to the core of his being that he does not want to be without you. If you are hearing any of the above excuses, he is not feeling this with you. Hard pill to swallow.
I will use my own story here for this. I met a man. He said all the right things. We dated every weekend, he called every day. He was respectful, but somehow I always felt a arms length away. He even told me he loved me. I stayed for over a year.
He started getting distant. The excuses started, his main one was work. It was demanding, if I could just be patient because it was temporary and would pass, things would get better. I accepted this excuse and even voiced it to others making it my excuse. I would be asked by a friend, "Are you seeing him this weekend?". I would reply, "He has to work, it's really rough on him right now." How pathetic I had become. Now I was making excuses for him. Commitment phobic men are full of excuses as to why the time is not right.
Fast forward two months. Here it comes. His contact starts to lessen. His calls become less frequent. I ask what is going on. He replies "I don't think I am ready for a relationship". He dumped me.
Fast forward 6 months. He is engaged to another. Everyone is talking about how happy he is. She is doing all the things that I didn't get to do with him. A trip to the tropics, decorating his new house, sleeping in his bed, blah blah blah.
Was he seeing her prior to our breakup? No he wasn't. He met her on a dating site which he joined days after our breakup.
I could post hundreds of stories just like mine here. Those excuses are excuses, don't let them become yours. He may or may not be one of the commitment phobic men, but it just goes to show that the commitment phobic men can commit. Apparently he just wasn't that into me. Commitment phobic men can be tamed. At the time I just didn't have the knowledge.
If you are hearing these excuses, please run and run fast, don't try to fix him, it won't work. Instead do what I did. Fill yourself with knowledge about what inspires men to commit. I started here. click here. Don't invest years only to watch one of those commitment phobic men leave you for another and in the process leave your heart in a million pieces to pick back up. Turns out my commitment phobic man really wasn't a commitment phobic after all
I have recently met a great guy who has no excuses. He puts in effort and it makes me now see how lame of a relationship I really had. It was one sided and I didn't even see it. Thank God for knowledge. Now I know.
They have all of these excuses. Have you heard any of the following.
1. I am not ready to be in a relationship
2. I have been hurt
3. My ex cheated on me
4. It's not you, it's me
5. My job is too demanding right now
5. My finances are not stable
6. My life is chaos
7. My kids take a lot of my time
8. When my kids are older I will be ready
9. I need more time and I will be ready
10. I love you, but the timing will be better in a year or so
These are all just excuses. A man either feels it for you or he doesn't. I and millions of other women have learned this the hard way. We have remained with those commitment phobic men for months, years, only to have him vanish and ride off into the sunset with another woman on that white horse.
Men make these excuses to keep stringing us along. They usually don't want to be alone, so we are the fill the gap girl. Men really do want to commit. They want it just as much as we do. A lot of things have to take place in the heart and mind of a man who decides to commit to you. He has to feel it to the core of his being that he does not want to be without you. If you are hearing any of the above excuses, he is not feeling this with you. Hard pill to swallow.
I will use my own story here for this. I met a man. He said all the right things. We dated every weekend, he called every day. He was respectful, but somehow I always felt a arms length away. He even told me he loved me. I stayed for over a year.
He started getting distant. The excuses started, his main one was work. It was demanding, if I could just be patient because it was temporary and would pass, things would get better. I accepted this excuse and even voiced it to others making it my excuse. I would be asked by a friend, "Are you seeing him this weekend?". I would reply, "He has to work, it's really rough on him right now." How pathetic I had become. Now I was making excuses for him. Commitment phobic men are full of excuses as to why the time is not right.
Fast forward two months. Here it comes. His contact starts to lessen. His calls become less frequent. I ask what is going on. He replies "I don't think I am ready for a relationship". He dumped me.
Fast forward 6 months. He is engaged to another. Everyone is talking about how happy he is. She is doing all the things that I didn't get to do with him. A trip to the tropics, decorating his new house, sleeping in his bed, blah blah blah.
Was he seeing her prior to our breakup? No he wasn't. He met her on a dating site which he joined days after our breakup.
I could post hundreds of stories just like mine here. Those excuses are excuses, don't let them become yours. He may or may not be one of the commitment phobic men, but it just goes to show that the commitment phobic men can commit. Apparently he just wasn't that into me. Commitment phobic men can be tamed. At the time I just didn't have the knowledge.
If you are hearing these excuses, please run and run fast, don't try to fix him, it won't work. Instead do what I did. Fill yourself with knowledge about what inspires men to commit. I started here. click here. Don't invest years only to watch one of those commitment phobic men leave you for another and in the process leave your heart in a million pieces to pick back up. Turns out my commitment phobic man really wasn't a commitment phobic after all
I have recently met a great guy who has no excuses. He puts in effort and it makes me now see how lame of a relationship I really had. It was one sided and I didn't even see it. Thank God for knowledge. Now I know.
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