Can You Save Your Relationship With a Text Message

“Remote Control Romance”

Do you think men are “complicated?”

If you do, you’re not alone. Most women seem to think that men should come with an instruction manual…
Or that getting a man to be “romantic” is as hard as getting lasting peace in the middle east.
But thousands of women are discovering that waking up the “secret romantic” in their men is as easy as hitting a few buttons on their cell phone and sending a few “special” messages that have been proven again and again to work wonders.

Why Men Aren’t Romantic

The fact is, most men secretly crave romance at least as much as you do… but they’re either too distracted, too emotionally closed off, or too shy to tell you how they really feel or to sweep you off your feet.
But simply by using a few text messages sent from your average cell phone you can give him permission to be “unapologetically romantic”… to open up and tell you how he really feels, and to take you back in a “Relationship Time Machine” so you love each other (and lust after each other) like you did when you first met.

Incredible Video

If you want to learn more, go watch this short (but eye-opening) video by relationship expert Michael Fiore. In the video you’ll learn the real reason romance “dies” in most relationships…
The 3 things your man needs from you in order to “open up” to his secret romantic desires…
And how to use tiny little text messages to turn your guy into a bonafide “Prince Charming,” even if he’s a total “Romantic Numbskull” now.
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This “Text The Romance Back” method has been featured on The Rachael Ray Show and has helped tens of thousands of women around the world. It sounds shocking, but it really does work.

Why He Appears When You Stop Looking

I am not buying that he appears when you stop looking. Yes it's a myth. It's far deeper than this. The reason he hasn't appeared until you stopped looking has more to do with your degree of readiness. The reason he had not appeared earlier is simple. You weren't ready. You were more than likely too busy trying to fit a square peg into a round hole. Let me explain.

I have watched many a woman transform to ready, myself included, but the transformation was a journey, not an over night thing. Usually it was a series of events or should I say relationships that propels the transformation. A woman may very well go through a few bad relationships.
Relationships that she had to guess where she stood. A relationship that may have been one-sided where she always had to make the initiative and she wondered if she didn't, would she see him or talk to him at all. You know, sending a daily text and always having a good reason in your head to justify it. Actually you were just that dependent or addicted to these men. Trying to fit a square peg in a round hole.

You may have repeated the above cycle with the same man or different men, but the cycle was always the same. You never felt secure in your relationship. You never really felt to your core that the man really really loved you or knew this without a doubt. Then one day you reach a breaking point.

You say this isn't how it is supposed to be. I am tired of doing the heavy lifting. I love myself to much to settle for the crumbs I have been accepting. You reach the point where you can take responsibility for your choices and acceptance of the wrong men. Enough is enough and the internal shift to ready begins. No more of this, "Oh but I love him". Now he has to love me too!

You become open to Mr. Right. You are also more able to begin to recognize Mr. Wrong, which in essence prepares you even more for Mr. Right. You can feel when you aren't a priority. You would prefer being alone than another man's option. The old you would hang on or again try to fit the square peg into the round hole. The new you says no way. Next and he is gone and you are fine with it. You are ready to love again.

Meanwhile there is a man out there probably transforming as well and at the same degree of readiness. There is more than one of these men by the way. A soul mate of sorts. It's only going to take one though and he will cross your path. Two people on ready. This is the way it must be. Both have to be ready for each other. Not just one partner. You know this to your core. Because of your journey, because of your internal transformation, you recognize him at last.  Mr. Right.  Sometimes he appears out of nowhere, sometimes he has been there all along and now you are really ready for love.

There are so many women out there on this journey to Mr. Right. Some are so close, some are miles and miles away. You can join and be inspired by these women here

Why He Disappeared!

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Signs Your Boyfriend Is Losing Interest

Men do lose interest. It's a fact. Men can get bored and when they do, they start wondering if the grass is greener on the other side of the fence. There are signs that a man is losing interest and if you are seeing these signs, take action now before he decides to mow the lawn of another.

1. His calls and texts are less frequent. If you notice a change in his calling or texting pattern, your boyfriend is losing interests. A man wants to stay in touch with the woman he loves and his patterns will not change. If you feel his calls are out of obligation this is another clue.

2. He starts making plans without you. Maybe a weekend trip with his buddies. If he usually wants to spend most of the weekend with you and now there are other things he wants to fit in, he is working you out of the priority seat slowly but surely this is one of the signs he has lost interest.

3. If when you address any issues or your feelings of him disappearing, he gets defensive or reacts negatively. If a man is thinking of leaving, he will not be comfortable more times than not by offering you reassurance. He will feel guilt which causes one to get defensive. If he defends his change of actions, your boyfriend is losing interest.

4. He says he needs some space. Watch out if you hear this one. The end is near more times than not. If a man say he needs space, he is feeling smothered. Smothered men do not thrive in a relationship ever. The harder you hold on to a man who says he needs space, the further you will push him away.
5. If your boyfriend starts to become distracted with work or some other project, he may be losing interest and this is only an excuse to postpone the inevitable. Men that suddenly become preoccupied with something else often use this as a way to prolong the break up.

If your boyfriend is losing interest, the way you respond to this is critical to prevent a break up. If you push him, or put pressure on him, he will see you as needy and less attractive. You can stop a break up or you can insure it happens, it's all up to you and the steps you take or don't take. Don't be one of the many women who wonder why he disappeared.

Why He Disappeared!

To keep your man, it's crucial to understand how attraction really works and manifests with a man. Do you know the main reasons why men disappear and how to stop it?

Why He Disappeared!

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Why Men Leave - It's Not Him, It's You

Attraction is a key ingredient in a relationship. When a man leaves, this ingredient has somehow gotten lost. Life can get in the way often. Stress happens, things happen in life that put outside pressures on relationships. If the attraction is lost, men often leave as opposed to working it out but why?

Men must feel like they are making you happy. The day the man feels like it's a job to make you happy, he leaves eventually. It's what makes men happy, to make the woman they love happy. If you don't assure your man that he makes you happy, you could be partly to blame. If you are a woman that complains he won't feel he is making you happy I promise. Complaining only puts distance between couples.

Many women struggle with men leaving during the early stages of dating. There are many reasons why men leave in the early stages. I could write a book. The main and only reason though that you should be concerned with is the fact that yes he did leave. For some reason he did not see you as girlfriend or wife material. Hard pill to swallow indeed.

Often women spend so much time analyzing why a man left. They go through it over and over in their heads and never get the right answer. My philosophy is it's ok to analyze. It will come in handy one day when you meet the right man that does not leave you will be better able to recognize him because you won't feel the need to analyze him to death.

I would love to be able to tell you that it's not you, it's him and that is why men leave, but the truth usually is it's you. There is something that reaches his core and tells him you aren't the one. Some reason his attraction fades. If this keeps happening to you, it pays to understand how attraction really works and what keeps the attraction going. It's way more than a physical thing, it's a deep emotional attraction that holds him.

The main reason why men leave is about attraction. It has started to fade. The more it fades, the more you may be feeling the disconnect and this may cause you to hold on tighter or start to question and feel insecure in your relationship. This will only assure his disappearance. The tighter you hold on, the greater your chances are from becoming another woman asking why do men leave.

Do you truly understand why men leave? Do you kid yourself by saying they are jerks or making excuses for them? You can stop the disappearing man syndrome simply by understanding how attraction works for men and never be the woman men leave again.

Why He Disappeared!

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My Husband Ignores Me

I hear this so very often.  My husband ignores me.  Why is this and what is the cause behind it?  It could be a number of things, but at the top of the list is always this one thing.  The attraction has faded.  A man does not ignore a woman he is attracted too.

So what causes the attraction to fade. Is it the stress and pressures of life?  Has everything just become routine?  How do you get the attraction back?  This comes to mind first when a woman complains my husband ignores me.  What exactly is he ignoring?  Are you trying to talk to him about this that you are feeling and being met with very little explanation or a lame explanation.

If you are trying to get his attention back through talk and words, you might as well stop now.  It never works.  Men don't respond to words, they respond to distance, yes even your husband.  A man quoted this yesterday on one of my articles.  Very telling. "Remember, men are visual creatures ... we hear you even more when we can see your thoughts/comments/points of view in your actions."  That quote speaks volumes.  

When you use words to a man, he gets the impression that you are complaining, not voicing your feelings.  This sends a message to him loud and clear.  If you are complaining, you aren't happy.  If you aren't happy it must somehow be his fault.  He doesn't really know how to make you happy, nor does your complaining give him any reason to want too.  It makes him feel bad or inadequate.  Believe it or not, men do have feelings.

On the other hand if you put some distance there, he starts to wonder and starts to notice.  A little distance added with the appearance of self control makes him nervous that he may be losing you.  This actually propels him into action.  When you pull back some, it causes him to move towards you.  This is when he will be more open to listening to your feelings and not a moment sooner.

Another common myth that women seem to buy into is that the more they do for a man the more he should love and appreciate them.  Nothing could be further from the truth.  If you are a woman that pleases or does everything for her man, this may very well be the main thing that has killed his attraction.  Then the resentment sets in.  This is when I often hear women say I do so much for him, he has it made, yet he takes me for granted.  My husband ignores me.  

Understand that those are your expectations and measures.  If you complain that you do so much for him and he does little in return, well there is your sign.  By doing or giving too much to your husband, you are allowing him to have his cake and eat it too.  The more you give, the more you expect to get in return.  So many women keep score of this when in fact the men never asked them to give so much in the first place.  Make sense?

If your husband is ignoring you, fix it now.  It will only get worse.  The resentment will grow and the attraction will fade more and more if it goes unchecked.  You can have the relationship you want starting today.
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New Relationship Advice for Her - Critical

In the first couple of months in a new relationship, a lot of times the attraction is physical. I would go so far as to say that a lot of women even mistake that physical attraction for a relationship when he may not even be in a relationship in his mind. That is the first new relationship advice I would offer. Make sure you both are on the same page.

I can't tell you how many times I have known women to go on a few dates, and the man is giving attention and acting like he is really into a woman, she sleeps with him and he starts getting distant. This is so common and if I can ever get any message across, I want to get this one across. A few dates and phone calls do not equal a relationship. Before you go getting new relationship advice, make sure he is your boyfriend. A boyfriend gets wrapped up in making you happy. If he is doing this, you are probably safe.

Now how can you keep him around, assuming he is worth keeping and treats you well. Don't start over accommodating him. Lots of women will start changing up their schedule to fit him in. They will put their girlfriends on the back burner hoping to hear from their new boyfriend. Don't do this. Men love a woman who has her own life. It's wildly attractive when they have to compete for your time, even if it is your girlfriends. Keep your own life, don't make changes to fit in this new guy would be my first new relationship advice.
Don't expect him to change for you. If he usually goes out with the guys on Friday, don't whine that he does that instead of seeing you. If he plays poker on Mondays, don't try to change him. When we try to change men it tells them two things. The first that we don't accept him as he is. Men must feel accepted. Second it tells him you may become a control freak or drama queen down the road. New relationship advice number two, don't try to change him. In time if you play your cards right he may want to give up certain things in order to spend time with you, but you can't push it.

Remain the fun girl that he started dating in the beginning. Keep yourself up and continue to be fun. Relax and be yourself. One of the main complaints I get from men is that the women change when they get in a new relationship and start acting different and aren't as fun anymore. Light and breezy. If you are in a new relationship you want to stay the dream girl he fell for in the first place.

More men vanish in the first few months of dating, this is a fact. They get all excited and think they have found a dream girl and then the dream girl somehow turns out to not be his dream girl. Don't let this happen to you. Men aren't locked down in the beginning of a new relationship and this is when they walk away most.

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Top Sign He Wants a Relationship

If you want to know if he wants a relationship with you or not, it's about how you feel. How he makes you feel. When you lay your head down at night are you guessing and wondering or do you feel safe and secure and know that he will still be present happily in your life tomorrow. Seems too simple doesn't it? It's really not.

A man that wants a relationship with you makes sure you are happy and content. If you find yourself feeling ansty and doubtful over things like will he call or not, or if you will have a date over the weekend, he may not be moving towards a relationship. Men that see you a girlfriend material will not dream of keeping you in distress or a place of wonder. Part of their purpose in life becomes your happiness. Men love to make the woman they love happy.

The best relationship advice I can give is to pay attention to your gut. If something feels off, it usually is. If you feel at peace, you usually are right about that as well. So if you are happy with your man and feel wanted, trusted, and adored, that is one of the best signs he wants a relationship.

If on the other hand you worry, or spend time analyzing his actions and aren't happy for the most part, he may not be headed for a relationship with you. Men put us in 3 basic categories.

1. Miss Right Now. Someone to date until someone more interesting comes along
2. Miss Good Time Girl. A woman he can have sex and a good time with, but not forever.
3. Girlfriend or wife material. A woman that inspires him to commit and a woman he can see forever with, maybe even babies or at least a rocking chair.

If you aren't feeling secure with your man, you may be in category one or two. You gut can answer this for you. Again, if you lay your head down at night and just know he will be present in your life when you wake up the next day, that is one of the best signs that he wants a relationship with you.

There is an exception to this rule though. The Drama Queen. I have to mention her. She is the woman that no matter what the man does, she doesn't feel secure. Maybe she has been cheated on in her past. This woman does things like check out his Facebook page and question about every woman on his wall. She whines when he chooses doing other things over her. If he doesn't include her in everything, she gets bent out of shape. She thinks all of his and her free time should be spent together. She may check his phone messages and email even. She spends countless hours analyzing him and his every move, then questions him to pieces on them.
This Drama Queen will eventually run the man off and there is no mentally healthy man that will remain in this relationship forever. If you are one of these women, get help now or you will never know what peace feels like in a relationship.

If you want to see the signs that he wants a relationship with you, look inside and pay attention to have you feel. The heart does not lie.

So many women spin their wheels wondering does he like me or not. Does he want to be with me or not and where is the relationship heading. If you want to be his forever do what many women before you have done, myself included. Find out what it is about some women that can hold a man's heart and become the woman he adores.

The Women Men Adore and Never Leave

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What Is a Drama Queen

A Drama Queen is also a control freak.  They try to control their surroundings and mainly their men with drama.  Below is a post written by a friend of mine who has a Drama Queen Friend.  You can see how she disrupts the natural pattern of how a relationship should flow with trust and acceptance.  If this is you, get help now or you will never keep a man, not a real man, not for long anyway.

One of my very good friends up here is seeing a guy who happens to be friends with a lot of my friends. He plays guitar, as do many of my friends, at these little jam sessions all over town, so we bump into each other occassionally. He sent me a friend request one night when I happened to be on the phone with her (my friend) and I said "oh, Rick just sent me a friend request. That's cool." She flipped the fuck OUT and was offended. She said for me not to accept it out of respect for her. I agreed, just because she seemed so bent out of shape about it and figured it wasn't worth it since I barely know him.

A few weeks went by...she and I were on the phone again one night and he sends me a pm basically saying "I sent you a friend request, but I guess you're scared of me. That's fine...no worries..take care." I told her about that (and mentioned the fact that I felt like an ass), so she calls him. She says to him "maybe Fair didn't accept your request because she didn't want to out of respect for me." He was like "oh, so that's how it works with you women..." So I asked her if she told him that she asked me not to and she said "well no." I was like GREAT....make ME look like an ass. THANKS.

The whole thing got under my skin because it is childish, in my opinion. He wasn't asking me out or hitting on me. It's fucking Facebook! On the other hand, she is a very good friend who has a very different opinion than I do about whether or not men and women can simply be friends. She doesn't buy it. But many of my best friends are men.

ALSO, she tends to stalk this same man on FB when he hasn't called her at night. She'll say "oh...he's on facebook. Can you believe that? He's on facebook, but he can't call me." I have to constantly remind her that the man works sometimes until 10pm (and he's a park ranger, so he's out in the heat) and that he has been very honest with her about the fact that he really does not like talking on the phone. Some people don't, you know? Some people find it much easier to be online. You type what you want for as long as you want, and then you're done. You don't have to deal with someone on the other end talking incessently or begging you to stay on the phone. You can just simply log off. But MAN, she gets irate if she sees him online and he hasn't called her. Yikes.

And finally, last week, he was up at Wild Wings with some of my friends and they were doing one of their little jam sessions. There happened to be group of very drunk college age girls in there who were hanging all over all of the guys (and girls) who were playing in the jam...pictures were made....pictures were posted....and people were tagged. There was only ONE of my friend's man that was tagged. She, again, flipped out. She then, in a very passive-aggressive way, told him she didn't like it. He ended up taking it down right away. I saw the picture. Had that been my guy, I probably would have just laughed.

This guy she's seeing is a very laid-back, free spirit type person. He's also a musician and the musicians up here are all pretty tight because they try to support each other and the whole local music scene. Many of them are women who have been his friends (and nothing more) since before she met him. It's amazing to me that he has not run for the hills because she (again, in a very passive-aggressive manner) bitches every time she sees a photo, a post, a "like." Anything.

She and I have discussed all of this at length and we finally had to agree to disagree. She blames it on our age difference, since she's 52 and I'm 36. I disagree. I think it comes down to understanding that just because a man looks at another woman, talks to another woman, or befriends another woman (and vice versa), does not mean that he wants to run off and bang her, date her, or marry her. It's a total trust and self-esteem issue, in my opinion. It doesn't have a thing to do with age.

I'm typing this in a hurry, so I don't know that I've made my point, but I hope some of it makes sense! I haven't even gotten to the other stories, but I have to run a ton of errands, so I will try to get to those later.

It's such an interesting topic because I think it affects everyone, whether you are in a relationship or not.

Go from Drama Queen to the woman men adore instead.  

Why You Can't Find a Good Man

I know a lot of man haters out there.  I know a lot of women who say they only attract jerks or bad boys.  I often hear women say, but I never feel any chemistry with a nice guy.  A nice guy is not to be confused with a good guy.  The nice guys are the ones who show up at your first coffee date with flowers to impress you.  The nice guys are the ones that start doting on you long before they really know you, trying to fill a position so to speak.  Good guys are just good guys.  They open doors, treat you with respect, call when they say they will, plan in advance and do all the right things, so why oh why can't you feel it for a good guy?

I am going to venture to say that your last relationship or maybe even last few relationships were not all that successful.  Maybe you were with a man who would not commit.  Maybe you felt this great chemistry when you were together, but never knew where you stood otherwise.  Or maybe he cheated on you, or did you wrong but you loved him so much anyway.  They say we can't choose who we love, but I am going to challenge this a bit.

Those men in your past became your normal.  You felt chemistry with these men that did not treat you right, and now you are programed to associate chemistry with the bad boy types.  You meet good men, but you are never attracted to them.  It's because you have been trained like Pavlov's dog that chemistry equals bad treatment.  It's conditioned into you, has become your normal. Think about the longing you have for that wrong man.  He isn't present in your life, yet you associate him with feelings of love and attraction.

Stop Wasting Time on the Wrong Guys.
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You have to break the cycle.  Ever fell in love with a good guy?  It feels pretty nice.  No more wondering if he is going to call or not.  No more wondering if he will do what he says he will do.  No more wondering where you stand because he shows you where you stand with his actions.  No more disappearing many syndrome when you fall in love with a good guy.

Yes we attract all sorts of men into our lives, but you can choose to accept them or toss them back.  We don't attract the wrong men into our lives, we accept the wrong men into our lives.  I know a lot of women think out the roof chemistry is a must.  Yes there is something to say about chemistry, I agree, but examine what your idea of chemistry is based on and understand that it is formed by past experiences to a degree.  We are conditioned by our past.  If what you have done in the past hasn't brought you a man that adores you, it's up to you to change your behavior and attitude.  Good guys rock, they really really do.