Will a Commtiment Phobic Man Ever Marry

I received and email from a woman not too long ago about her relationship. It really was great except for one thing. They had been dating for 3 years with no plans for the future. She was ready to throw in the towel. She had resigned herself to the fact that he was a commitment phobic man and would never marry. She was getting the feeling she was wasting her time.

The fact is, almost all men do want a loving relationship. Even the commitment phobic. After talking with this woman it was obvious the man cared and loved her, but he wasn't ready nor saw any reason to commit. It's not broken, why fix it attitude. Many commitment phobic men have this attitude.

She had tried everything. She gave more love, more affection, more attention. He didn't seem to notice or appreciate her efforts. She was becoming resentful. I pointed out to her that if it wasn't working, why keep doing the same thing. We all know that insanity definition.

She didn't dump him, but she put some serious distance between them. She started building her life and even opened her eyes to other men, even though she wasn't dating. Gradually she went from him being the center of her universe, to placing herself as the center. At first since it was gradual, he didn't really notice.

One Saturday night which was always their date night she turned him down for a sleep over with some old girlfriends she had lost touch with. She didn't call him at all that night, she was having fun. Next morning she got a call from him which was unusual. Seems she had his attention. She mostly started pulling away from him slowly.

She didn't stop there. She kept building her life. She even declined a date so she could color her hair one night instead. Imagine being rejected for Lady Clairol. Something happened in this man's mind. He started thinking maybe he wasn't all that important to him. He felt her slipping away. All of a sudden she was a challenge. She was interesting again and his spark rekindled. Suddenly this commitment phobic man was now her adoring man.

Three months later this commitment phobic man proposed. Commitment phobic men can be turned around.

Before a Man Commits - 3 Things You Must Give Him

If you want commitment, you will have to deepen emotional attraction so that your man makes his decision from his emotions - feelings of being intoxicated by how you are responding to him. There are 3 things that he must have from you before a man commits. These three things will solidify his emotional attraction. These things assist to make a man commit.

Affection - Men need affection, they love it. This doesn't mean hanging all over them in public. Now men really are known for not being as affectionate as women as a rule, but that doesn't mean they don't desire it. Reciprocation is the clue. He puts his arm around you, lean in. He reaches for your hand, accept it warmly. Plant a little kiss on him, but again, don't go overboard. Some men don't do affection well while others are more open with it. Affection though, shows him you are attracted to him. Every man wants to be found attractive. Don't we all?

Know your man and his level of affection. Match it, but don't always wait for him to make the first move. If you are in a comfortable relationship though, break out of the routine every now and again and show him affection. Less though is often more. Don't smother him.

Appreciation - This is huge. For him to feel emotional attraction, he has to feel appreciated. The more a man feels appreciation, the more he will be inclined to do things to make you happy. Thank him for the things he does, but again don't go overboard. If he takes you to dinner, tell him you enjoyed it, thank him. Once is enough. If he does something for you, say change your oil, thank him. Tell him how nice it is not to have to go out in the cold and wait for an hour.

Don't underestimate appreciation. I have a friend who dumped his girl for this reason alone. He would do things for her and she would complain. He bought her white roses and she thanked him, but questioned his love because they weren't red. He gave her a funny birthday card, she wanted a mushy one. The list goes on and on. She was too much work. Appreciate what he does, men do show you they care, you just have to pay attention. He has to feel appreciated, it's a key ingredient before a man commits.

Acceptance -This is the big one. He has to feel you accept him for who he is before a man will commit to you. This means not trying to change him. Men fear women who try to change them. No man is perfect, they all have flaws. Embrace his flaws as a part of who he is and accept them, unless of course he is abusive or an addict, but that goes without saying right?

If he likes his space at times or likes a night out with the boys watching sports drinking beer, don't nag him to change his agenda or whine because you are left out. Accept it, thus accepting him. When you accept a man, it conveys to him that you trust him. A man has to feel your trust before he commits to you.

Get Your Man Back Forever

You can't eat, sleep, and you are miserable. Your emotions are out of control and he consumes your every thought. You play the last few weeks over and over in your head. He loved you, so how can he just walk? You can't seem to find an answer and all you can do is just guess and drive yourself crazy. Sound familiar? Its normal to feel desperation when the one you gave your heart to just walked. Breath and calm down because it is possible to get him back.

There are many dynamics in a male/female relationship and you may be wondering what did I do to deserve this? Its rarely something you said or did. It goes deeper than that. Many times when a man is really feeling it for you, this is when he runs. He fears you may be too much work, you may be to clingy or needy, or the relationship may have become dull and routine.

The first thing you have to do is stop all contact. Do not contact him for any reason. I know that this is so hard to do, because your emotions are out the roof. You want to ask questions, you want to understand. This is actually counterproductive and just pushes him further away. The no contact rule works in 3 ways to your advantage.

It prevents you from acting needy and insecure around your ex. It also prevents you from expressing anger that you may be feeling. Neediness, insecurity and anger are not emotions you want him to see, these things drive him further away.
It instills a fear of loss in him. It pushes him away and makes him wonder why. He may even start to wonder if you have moved on to someone else. Humans only realize something's value when its gone, in most all cases. You want him to see you as valuable again like when you first met.
It gives you time to get your emotions under control for when he does contact you. It gives you time to soak up all the information you can about why men leave and help you to understand the breakup and exactly what goes on in a man's mind after a break up. It also helps you get you plan together of how to get him back forever and because he wants to come back.


Now to address your biggest fear. The biggest fear we have when we lose our man is the thought of him with another woman. It makes you sick inside. Statistic wise, it is a fact that men will move on to another woman rather quickly and we are left behind thinking how could he do that. Its a male ego thing, they rebound much quicker than we do. It boosts their self confidence and helps them feel more like a man. You have to stop thinking these thoughts and do something to avoid this at all cost if that man that you lost is a keeper. Those thoughts are destructive in getting him back.
Pick yourself up and start working on how to get him back forever. Its not hopeless, it has been done by many, but not in the ways that your emotions are telling you. Get your emotions in check and start looking at this in a different light and get your man back.



The no contact rule is just the beginning of getting your ex back. There are many more powerful techniques, methods and strategies for getting him back. Stop cying and give it your last and best shot. You want him back in your arms right. You don't want to see or find out a month or two down the road that you have been replaced. Learn how to reverse the rejection you now feel and replace it with the knowledge that it takes to get your man back forever. For more information on this plan please visit this site. Get your ex back.

What Propels a Man to Commitment

When it comes to commitment, men can be a mystery. Perhaps you have heard the words "I am just not ready". Men are human just like women. They do want a special woman they can spend their time with and its not that they don't want to commit. Often its just they have not found that special woman to commit to. The woman that makes him feel alive. The woman that can awaken the hunter instinct and challenge him. The woman that gets him. This is the woman that will make a man commit.Have you ever heard a man say "Its not you, its me"? He may be saying that but what he really means is "Its not me, its you". Chances are good that when it comes to commitment, the problem is you. Now I know that's a tough pill to swallow. You may feel you do everything right and you are an awesome girlfriend. You probably are an awesome girlfriend but that is not necessarily what triggers those deeper feelings in a man. The things you are doing to be an great girlfriend could very well be the things that keep him from committing.

Many women try hard to please a man. Perhaps you offer to help him out. Maybe you cook for him, buy him gifts, do his laundry, try to make his life easier. Maybe the more you do, the less he may seem to appreciate it. The bottom line here is if he wanted a cook and a maid, don't you think he should just go home to his mother? When he thinks of you, do you really want him envisioning you cooking, cleaning and being domesticated? No way! You want him to think of the exiting and sometimes unpredictable woman that you are. He is not going to commit to a woman who acts like his mother, face it. The domesticated activities should come long after you already have the commitment and not a day before.

The number one thing that will stop a man dead in his tracts on his road to commitment is if you attempt to convince him that you are the one for him. Often times a great relationship is extinguished far before it should be by a woman opening her mouth and voicing her feelings on the subject. This is not to say that you should not speak your feelings because you do have to be true to yourself. Its just that men don't want to hear how they should make a commitment. They want to reach this conclusion on their own and in their time. If you are talking about your future and your plans together he is going to run for the hills. Speak less about this issue with a man and you will get you more.

There are things you can do to change his thinking. Its not that you have to change the way you feel, you just have to change the way you react to him and alter your patterns a bit. Don't be so available every time he calls. If he usually calls at a certain time, say 7 or so be doing something. I have often answered the phone with "Hey, can I call you back later? I am at happy hour with the girls". A overnight trip with your girlfriends will do wonders. If he sends you a text I know you are dying to reply, but wait, try to make it an hour. He will spend that hour wondering what you are doing if you usually hit him back immediately. These are small things you can do that can make a big difference.

What this all means is to have a life of your own. Be a little unpredictable. Be happy and have a little mystery about you. Stimulate the hunter's desire in him. This will not happen if you are revolving your life around him. He will know it and not act accordingly. Its not always easy to do as we are natured to be care givers. Save the care giving for after you have the commitment and even then, never stop being the exiting, stimulating woman that won his heart.

If you are tired of wondering will he commit,why won't he commit and is this relationship going anywhere, I urge you to learn the secrets that propel a man towards you. Learn how to become the woman he just can't imagine living his life without. If its not you, it will be some other woman that wins his heart. Nicole Gaye teaches in her book how to gently lead a man towards commitment. She lets you inside a man's mind and shares what exactly it takes to get a man to commit.

10 Signs That He Is Into You

Have you been dating a guy for a few weeks or months and are just not sure he is into you. Here are some ways to tell if he is into you. All men are different in some ways (not many) but if he is doing most of there, chances are he is into you.

#1

He teases, and picks on you, bantering so to speak. Men are like boys, they love to play. Its like sports, if he is including you in this play, he likes you for sure.

#2

He asks you out. Even if you play a little hard to get, he keeps trying. Also if he actually picks you up and does not ask that you meet him.

#3

He calls. No 3 day rule. If he is smitten, he will toss the rules aside and call you.

#4

He respects you opinion. If you can disagree with him in an open manner and engaging manner, his head will spin. Men love smart women.

#5

He compliments you. He tells you that you are hot immediately.

#6

He pays and does not think twice about it. Cheap men just want food and sex.

#7

He loves talking to you. If you are on the phone and say "Well I guess I better let you go" and he says, no that's ok, I am not really doing anything", he is into you. Chat him up and show your intelligence and he will be hooked.

#8

He doesn't mind if you put him in his place. Stand up to him in a respectful way and he will admire this. It shows him that you are true to yourself. Men love women that they can't walk all over.

#9

He takes you to special places. He does this because he wants to see how you respond and he wants to impress.

#10

He does things for you, like cut the grass, move your furniture around, things that make your life easier. Also if he buys you things, no matter how small. T shirt at a concert, brings you over your favorite cocktail, even if its beer. Just small things that he knows you like.

When a man wants to commit he will show it. He will start assuming that role and acting like your boyfriend. Once he exhibits this behavior, he will start to naturally move towards you seeking to be exclusive.