How To Handle It When He Stops Calling

There are many reasons why men stop calling, but usually they are feeling pressure. You may not even be aware you are putting this pressure on a guy. Often what happens is when we meet a guy we like, we automatically start seeing him as a potential boyfriend. We unknowingly start acting accordingly.

Maybe you questioned him about when he was going to call or when would you see him again. This is really the role for him to play, not you. When you start questioning him, like where he is, who was there, and you do it in the first stages of dating he starts thinking, wow, what's she going to be like down the road if this gets serious.

So if he stopped calling you for whatever reason the worst thing you can do is reach out to him. If you start calling him, texting him and asking questions, well he is going to know pretty quick that you are putting all of your hopes on him. This is a lot of pressure and will cause a man to run for the hills fast.

When a man stops calling, the best thing you can do is nothing. Don't pick up the phone, don't ask him why, don't text, email or do a drive by. Don't find an excuse to run into him. Any of these things again will make him feel you are placing too much responsibility on him for your happiness. This kind of pressure sends him running further.

When he stops calling, if you do nothing, the pressure is gone. He is also likely to be intrigued. He may then start thinking you aren't all that into him after all. This makes you once again a challenge. He feels safe again and is more likely to call you again. As with anything there is no guarantee. The chances though, if you just leave him be are greater that he will call you again.

When he stops calling if you do nothing, he may see you are drama free and feel safe to contact you again. Men have to feel safe. If you call, ask for explanations it often appears to him that you feel a sense of entitlement which is a huge turn off for a guy.

Have you ever said to one of your girlfriends, "Why is it the ones I don't like call me and the ones I do like stop calling?". There is a reason you like the ones that don't call. They are a challenge. Remember this, it works both ways. Guys talk the same talk to their buds. They often chase the one who seems not so into them. So next time you thing about calling a guy who stopped calling you, remember this.

Rules for calling men are critical in dating. The way you use the phone with texts and calls can kill your dating and make men disappear. Learn when and when not to call men and how these techniques can build intense attraction in men.

Calling Men - It''s In Your Attitude Sistas!

You wonder how attitude plays into calling men or texting. It does a lot. I can't tell you how many times I have been asked the question "He hasn't called me in days, should I call him, maybe he thinks I am not interested". The answer is, no you should not call him. The truth here is a man who is into you will call you and he will text you on a regular basis. If he doesn't well here is where the attitude comes in.

Your attitude should be the "Next" attitude. If he isn't calling, keep your options open and go onto the next guy. You are way more valuable than this. You are the prize. If he can't manage a simple phone call, well down the road what is it going to be like? Once you adapt and believe this attitude, you won't really care so much if a man calls or not. You will never be sitting by the phone waiting or depending on it again. When it comes to calling men, remember sister, it's all about you. You shouldn't be calling men, they should be calling you period, end of discussion. A man that is into you will be calling and texting. If he is not consistent in his calling and texting, chances are good you are just an option. Don't call him. You are better than that. You aren't desperate.

Once you adapt the right attitude, men seem to know this. They sense it. It makes you more desirable when you aren't making him the center of your world. A funny thing starts to happen. Men start calling more. If a guy doesn't call you and you reach out to him you are doing the heavy lifting. You are telling him you are willing to invest more into him than he has to invest into you. If you are having to lead the relationship and initiate most of the calls and texts, well something is seriously wrong. Rarely will calling men get you anywhere.

There are many calling men rules, but if you have the right attitude, that's really all you will need. I am not waiting by the phone for any man attitude. I am not making any man a priority when he is only making me an option attitude. Whatever you do, don't start calling men or texting men first. It takes away the chase and you steal his fun. If he is not calling you, no excuses. Excuses are what we make when we want to think of a logical reason why he isn't calling. Trust me, there rarely is one. Get busy and forget about him.

Why You Should Not Call Men You Just Started Dating

You haven't even started or are in the first stages of dating. It would be so easy to call or text him, but be careful, this can send of some unattractive signals to the new potential man in your life.

For starters, if you call men, you send of the signal that you are very available. This is not really how you want a guy to see you. I hear so often, but what if he thinks I am not interested? If you want to show interest, do so when he calls you by being fun and flirty. You do not want to show more interest than he is showing. Not good.

Guys really will call you if they are interested. If your phone is not ringing or is not ringing consistently, say every few days, he is just not that interested. If you call men who are not calling you, you are investing more into it than they are. You become easy target to be a back burner girl or a back up girl.

How you handle the phone techniques in the beginning is crucial. Texting and phoning is a huge dating tool today. If you are the one doing the initiating when you call men, you are taking over his role as the hunter. While some men are flattered that a woman is chasing them, it rarely lasts because he is deprived of his natural born instinct to do the chasing and hunting. Let him lead. It's really best to not call the men until you are more into a stable relationship.

Texting should be handled the same way. Let him initiate, you just follow his lead and match his level of commitment. It gets difficult, we get impatient and want to speed things up and so we call men. Huge mistake. A man's time table and priorities are very different from a woman's. If you are the one that will call men, how do you ever know his true level of interest? You won't. Relax and be patient. It is such a good feeling to know the guy is into you without you having to prod.