Those two words, "call me", can screw with your head. If you like the guy, of course you want to believe this means he is interested in you and really wants you to call him. You may be thinking he wants you to call so he can make a date. Call me is what guys say often when ending a conversation. It's about the same as, talk to you later or see you around. It's usually said casually and you can bet if a guy says this, you don't have his interest sparked. So what do you do, should you call a guy if he asks?
When a guy says call me, usually it means he may find you attractive and if you call he may talk to you, but it's not something a guy says to a girl who he is very very interested in. If a guy is really interested, he won't ask you to call him, he will be calling you. The only exception to this is if you have been dating for a good while and he asks you to call him. If you have just met or started dating though, he is far from hooked on you yet.
A lot of women take this "call me" literally. They latch on and start calling the guy. This makes them the one doing the pursuing. It tells the guy that you are way more invested into him than he is in you. He sees a woman ready to put the girlfriend crown on and often this causes him to stop all contact and run for the hills.
When a guy says call me, what he usually wants from you is not much. He can live with or without your call. If you do call, you will be setting yourself up as a girl on the back burner. That's what guys do with the girls that do the calling for the most part. They don't see them as a challenge and no challenge means you won't be girlfriend material more than likely.
If a guy really wants to get to know you, he will be the one doing the calling, he won't be asking you to call him. When a guy tells you to call, the best thing you can do is don't. Let him wonder why you aren't so into him. This makes you more of a challenge and more attractive in his eyes. Less is more when it comes to calling men.
Thursday, December 16, 2010
Tuesday, December 14, 2010
Texting a Man You Like
You finally met a man you really like. You hope he feels the same way. You instinctively want to reach out and touch him. What would it hurt to send a man a short little text, let him know you are interested.
Well slow down sister. If you gave him your number, he should know you are interested. When texting a man you really like, you might want to think about the texts you send to the men you really aren't all that interested in. Have you ever experienced a man you weren't that into being really into you. Why was that? How did you text him?
Chances are, you didn't always text him back or waited before you text because you really didn't care about the outcome. Oh but boy oh boy, now you like a man and you do care about the outcome. A huge reason why these other men were into you is because you were a bit hard to get. Men instinctively want what they can't have. So in essence, when texting a man you like, text him like you don't.
I am not saying you should play games here. Just don't be over eager, or don't be too available. Men value what they work hardest for. Don't answer instantly, that makes it look like you are waiting by the phone and have no life. Don't text him first, this shows him are starting to invest into him. Let him lead. Let him invest first.
It's tempting sometimes to get into the all day marathon of texting a man you like, but try to refrain, save that for when the relationship is more established. You want to give him a reason to see you. If you spill all in texting conversations, he won't be as motivated to see you. If you see your texting with a man heading into the marathon, cut it off. Tell him you have something to do and you will talk to him later. Be the first one to end the conversation. Leave him wanting more.
Less is always more when texting men. You want to be fun and mysterious. Men love the woman they can't quite figure out. Texting is fun and if done right, can build a huge level of attraction in him for you.
Well slow down sister. If you gave him your number, he should know you are interested. When texting a man you really like, you might want to think about the texts you send to the men you really aren't all that interested in. Have you ever experienced a man you weren't that into being really into you. Why was that? How did you text him?
Chances are, you didn't always text him back or waited before you text because you really didn't care about the outcome. Oh but boy oh boy, now you like a man and you do care about the outcome. A huge reason why these other men were into you is because you were a bit hard to get. Men instinctively want what they can't have. So in essence, when texting a man you like, text him like you don't.
I am not saying you should play games here. Just don't be over eager, or don't be too available. Men value what they work hardest for. Don't answer instantly, that makes it look like you are waiting by the phone and have no life. Don't text him first, this shows him are starting to invest into him. Let him lead. Let him invest first.
It's tempting sometimes to get into the all day marathon of texting a man you like, but try to refrain, save that for when the relationship is more established. You want to give him a reason to see you. If you spill all in texting conversations, he won't be as motivated to see you. If you see your texting with a man heading into the marathon, cut it off. Tell him you have something to do and you will talk to him later. Be the first one to end the conversation. Leave him wanting more.
Less is always more when texting men. You want to be fun and mysterious. Men love the woman they can't quite figure out. Texting is fun and if done right, can build a huge level of attraction in him for you.
Friday, December 10, 2010
Signs He's in Love -Signs He's in Lust
A man falling in love will usually go that extra mile, put in that extra effort. Below are some distinct differences as to if he is in love or just in lust for the moment. So are you a priority or just an option?
Man in Love
* drives out of his way to get you
* calls you everyday
* shares his daily life with you
* will want to see you even when you look like hell
* makes sure he locks you down for weekend time,maybe all weekend
* introduces you to friends
* takes you to weddings and events as his date
* is present when things are tough
* fixes things on your car and around the house
* takes you out on dates and public places
* chooses you over seeing his friends any day
* gives up things to spend time with you, maybe a ballgame with the guys
* answers your calls, always happy to hear from you
The list above are just a few signs a man is in love or falling in love. He will get up at the crack of dawn to help you out, like drop your car off for repairs, take you to the airport, things like that. He puts his comfort on hold to make sure you are comfortable. He sincerely wants to make your life better and make you happy.
Man in Lust
* Expect you to drive out of your way to see him
* Calls you sporadically
* Life? You don't know much about his life, you know where he works, but that's about it.
* He has never seen you at your worst, he isn't around enough
* If he sees you on the weekend, it's last minute and not planned in advance
* You don't know much about his friends, maybe met a few by chance
* Goes to events solo or with the guys, you aren't invited
* If things are tough he usually isn't around
* He doesn't know when something is broken to fix or says, you need to call a plumber
* He meets you places, or at his place or yours, there are no real dates
* Parties with the guys a lot, calls you after he has been out for a while to meet up
* Says maybe he will see you when the game is over
* doesn't answer your calls all the time and is sometimes short with you on the phone.
If it's an effort for you to get your man to put in time or you feel like you have to do all the planning to see him, it's a sign he may just be in lust. A man in lust not in love puts his comfort first, unless you two are together at the time, then he may shower you with attention. If you aren't hearing from him when you are apart, this is a sure sign he isn't hooked yet. He doesn't see you as valuable as he sees himself.
If you really pay attention to a man's actions, you can see the signs he is in love. He puts in the effort and you know you are a priority. There are no days of silence, you aren't guessing where you stand. If a man isn't in love, maybe only lust, he doesn't put in extra effort, just the bare minimum to keep your attraction going. In other words, a man in love sees you as valuable and treats you like you are special.
Man in Love
* drives out of his way to get you
* calls you everyday
* shares his daily life with you
* will want to see you even when you look like hell
* makes sure he locks you down for weekend time,maybe all weekend
* introduces you to friends
* takes you to weddings and events as his date
* is present when things are tough
* fixes things on your car and around the house
* takes you out on dates and public places
* chooses you over seeing his friends any day
* gives up things to spend time with you, maybe a ballgame with the guys
* answers your calls, always happy to hear from you
The list above are just a few signs a man is in love or falling in love. He will get up at the crack of dawn to help you out, like drop your car off for repairs, take you to the airport, things like that. He puts his comfort on hold to make sure you are comfortable. He sincerely wants to make your life better and make you happy.
Man in Lust
* Expect you to drive out of your way to see him
* Calls you sporadically
* Life? You don't know much about his life, you know where he works, but that's about it.
* He has never seen you at your worst, he isn't around enough
* If he sees you on the weekend, it's last minute and not planned in advance
* You don't know much about his friends, maybe met a few by chance
* Goes to events solo or with the guys, you aren't invited
* If things are tough he usually isn't around
* He doesn't know when something is broken to fix or says, you need to call a plumber
* He meets you places, or at his place or yours, there are no real dates
* Parties with the guys a lot, calls you after he has been out for a while to meet up
* Says maybe he will see you when the game is over
* doesn't answer your calls all the time and is sometimes short with you on the phone.
If it's an effort for you to get your man to put in time or you feel like you have to do all the planning to see him, it's a sign he may just be in lust. A man in lust not in love puts his comfort first, unless you two are together at the time, then he may shower you with attention. If you aren't hearing from him when you are apart, this is a sure sign he isn't hooked yet. He doesn't see you as valuable as he sees himself.
If you really pay attention to a man's actions, you can see the signs he is in love. He puts in the effort and you know you are a priority. There are no days of silence, you aren't guessing where you stand. If a man isn't in love, maybe only lust, he doesn't put in extra effort, just the bare minimum to keep your attraction going. In other words, a man in love sees you as valuable and treats you like you are special.
Tuesday, December 7, 2010
Make Him Feel Like a Man and Draw Him Closer
Women today are more independent, we don't really need a man. It leaves a gap there, men do like to feel needed. It makes him feel like a man when you lean on him. He wants to be your hero, so below are some small things you can do to make him feel like a man. You get the idea.
* Ask him to walk you to your car. You need him to keep you safe.
* Ask him to kill all bugs. Look away when he does this.
* Get him to open a jar or lift something for you
* If you are watching a scary movie, bury your head in his chest during the bad parts
* If it's cold outside, ask him to warm your side of the bed
* Let him move any heavy piece of furniture
* Let him park your car or back it out of a tight place. Tell him he is a better driver.
* Any light bulbs you can't make it known you want him to change them
* Have him get rid of the wasp nest on your patio
* Get him to pump your gas
* Request that famous steak or burger he grill so well. Tell him you are craving it.
In essence what I am saying is appreciate him and the little things he does. Don't go overboard though. If he takes you to dinner, thank him, tell him you enjoyed it. Once is enough, you don't want to act like this is your first hot meal in years.
Praise him also. If he does something that makes you happy, tell him. If he takes out your trash, say, wow, thanks, I really didn't want to walk to the dumpster in the dark. Praise goes a long ways in making a man feel like a man and feel appreciated.
Affection is also a good way to make him feel like a man and make him want to be closer to you. Affection is also a good way to show appreciation. If he does something nice for you, smile and give him kiss or a hug. A warm receptive woman makes a man feel like a man and will bring him closer to you.
While men do love the independent woman, the one who doesn't depend on him for her happiness and center her world around him, they do want to feel needed. A man who feels needed will be more likely to open up to you and move closer. Independent women are great, but a ball buster type woman who does everything for herself and doesn't need a man isn't what he is looking for.
* Ask him to walk you to your car. You need him to keep you safe.
* Ask him to kill all bugs. Look away when he does this.
* Get him to open a jar or lift something for you
* If you are watching a scary movie, bury your head in his chest during the bad parts
* If it's cold outside, ask him to warm your side of the bed
* Let him move any heavy piece of furniture
* Let him park your car or back it out of a tight place. Tell him he is a better driver.
* Any light bulbs you can't make it known you want him to change them
* Have him get rid of the wasp nest on your patio
* Get him to pump your gas
* Request that famous steak or burger he grill so well. Tell him you are craving it.
In essence what I am saying is appreciate him and the little things he does. Don't go overboard though. If he takes you to dinner, thank him, tell him you enjoyed it. Once is enough, you don't want to act like this is your first hot meal in years.
Praise him also. If he does something that makes you happy, tell him. If he takes out your trash, say, wow, thanks, I really didn't want to walk to the dumpster in the dark. Praise goes a long ways in making a man feel like a man and feel appreciated.
Affection is also a good way to make him feel like a man and make him want to be closer to you. Affection is also a good way to show appreciation. If he does something nice for you, smile and give him kiss or a hug. A warm receptive woman makes a man feel like a man and will bring him closer to you.
While men do love the independent woman, the one who doesn't depend on him for her happiness and center her world around him, they do want to feel needed. A man who feels needed will be more likely to open up to you and move closer. Independent women are great, but a ball buster type woman who does everything for herself and doesn't need a man isn't what he is looking for.
Monday, December 6, 2010
Before a Man Commits - 3 Things You Must Give Him
If you want commitment, you will have to deepen emotional attraction so that your man makes his decision from his emotions - feelings of being intoxicated by how you are responding to him. There are 3 things that he must have from you before a man commits. These three things will solidify his emotional attraction. These things assist to make a man commit.
Affection - Men need affection, they love it. This doesn't mean hanging all over them in public. Now men really are known for not being as affectionate as women as a rule, but that doesn't mean they don't desire it. Reciprocation is the clue. He puts his arm around you, lean in. He reaches for your hand, accept it warmly. Plant a little kiss on him, but again, don't go overboard. Some men don't do affection well while others are more open with it. Affection though, shows him you are attracted to him. Every man wants to be found attractive. Don't we all?
Know your man and his level of affection. Match it, but don't always wait for him to make the first move. If you are in a comfortable relationship though, break out of the routine every now and again and show him affection. Less though is often more. Don't smother him.
Appreciation - This is huge. For him to feel emotional attraction, he has to feel appreciated. The more a man feels appreciation, the more he will be inclined to do things to make you happy. Thank him for the things he does, but again don't go overboard. If he takes you to dinner, tell him you enjoyed it, thank him. Once is enough. If he does something for you, say change your oil, thank him. Tell him how nice it is not to have to go out in the cold and wait for an hour.
Don't underestimate appreciation. I have a friend who dumped his girl for this reason alone. He would do things for her and she would complain. He bought her white roses and she thanked him, but questioned his love because they weren't red. He gave her a funny birthday card, she wanted a mushy one. The list goes on and on. She was too much work. Appreciate what he does, men do show you they care, you just have to pay attention. He has to feel appreciated, it's a key ingredient before a man commits.
Acceptance -This is the big one. He has to feel you accept him for who he is before a man will commit to you. This means not trying to change him. Men fear women who try to change them. No man is perfect, they all have flaws. Embrace his flaws as a part of who he is and accept them, unless of course he is abusive or an addict, but that goes without saying right?
If he likes his space at times or likes a night out with the boys watching sports drinking beer, don't nag him to change his agenda or whine because you are left out. Accept it, thus accepting him. When you accept a man, it conveys to him that you trust him. A man has to feel your trust before he commits to you.
Affection - Men need affection, they love it. This doesn't mean hanging all over them in public. Now men really are known for not being as affectionate as women as a rule, but that doesn't mean they don't desire it. Reciprocation is the clue. He puts his arm around you, lean in. He reaches for your hand, accept it warmly. Plant a little kiss on him, but again, don't go overboard. Some men don't do affection well while others are more open with it. Affection though, shows him you are attracted to him. Every man wants to be found attractive. Don't we all?
Know your man and his level of affection. Match it, but don't always wait for him to make the first move. If you are in a comfortable relationship though, break out of the routine every now and again and show him affection. Less though is often more. Don't smother him.
Appreciation - This is huge. For him to feel emotional attraction, he has to feel appreciated. The more a man feels appreciation, the more he will be inclined to do things to make you happy. Thank him for the things he does, but again don't go overboard. If he takes you to dinner, tell him you enjoyed it, thank him. Once is enough. If he does something for you, say change your oil, thank him. Tell him how nice it is not to have to go out in the cold and wait for an hour.
Don't underestimate appreciation. I have a friend who dumped his girl for this reason alone. He would do things for her and she would complain. He bought her white roses and she thanked him, but questioned his love because they weren't red. He gave her a funny birthday card, she wanted a mushy one. The list goes on and on. She was too much work. Appreciate what he does, men do show you they care, you just have to pay attention. He has to feel appreciated, it's a key ingredient before a man commits.
Acceptance -This is the big one. He has to feel you accept him for who he is before a man will commit to you. This means not trying to change him. Men fear women who try to change them. No man is perfect, they all have flaws. Embrace his flaws as a part of who he is and accept them, unless of course he is abusive or an addict, but that goes without saying right?
If he likes his space at times or likes a night out with the boys watching sports drinking beer, don't nag him to change his agenda or whine because you are left out. Accept it, thus accepting him. When you accept a man, it conveys to him that you trust him. A man has to feel your trust before he commits to you.
Friday, December 3, 2010
What Makes a Man Fall In Love
For a man to fall in love, he has to feel it in his heart, to the core of his being that life without you would just be awful. A lot of women give more to a man and make a lot of sacrifices and think this is going to win his heart. That's not it. It's not really about what you give, but more so in what you hold back. Trust me, men don't sit around and think about all the great things you do for them. They think more about the things they don't know about you. This is what propels them to want to know more. The more a man thinks about you, the more likely he is to fall in love.
It's the woman that puts her heart first that intrigues him, the woman that he respects. The doormat or the yes girl rarely wins his heart, it's the woman that doesn't think twice about telling him no, the woman that puts her needs first that makes a man fall in love with her. This is incredibly alluring to men. It's a challenge and puts them to work to win your heart.
When a man has to put in the effort to win a woman's heart, he starts to see her as very valuable. Men value what they work hardest for. Have you ever seen a man go above and beyond for a woman. Usually if you really think about it, he is doing this for a woman who chances are, is not doing the same for him. You wonder why is he with this selfish woman. Chances are she isn't selfish, she just knows who her self really is.
The woman that bends over backwards and tries to be his helper is the woman that will be taken for granted and he won't fall in love with her. He might love her, but it will be more like a sister or mother type love. A woman who has her own life, and doesn't depend on him for her happiness is the woman that he feels safe to let his guard down with, the woman that he opens his heart to. This woman is the one that can make a man fall in love.
It's the woman that puts her heart first that intrigues him, the woman that he respects. The doormat or the yes girl rarely wins his heart, it's the woman that doesn't think twice about telling him no, the woman that puts her needs first that makes a man fall in love with her. This is incredibly alluring to men. It's a challenge and puts them to work to win your heart.
When a man has to put in the effort to win a woman's heart, he starts to see her as very valuable. Men value what they work hardest for. Have you ever seen a man go above and beyond for a woman. Usually if you really think about it, he is doing this for a woman who chances are, is not doing the same for him. You wonder why is he with this selfish woman. Chances are she isn't selfish, she just knows who her self really is.
The woman that bends over backwards and tries to be his helper is the woman that will be taken for granted and he won't fall in love with her. He might love her, but it will be more like a sister or mother type love. A woman who has her own life, and doesn't depend on him for her happiness is the woman that he feels safe to let his guard down with, the woman that he opens his heart to. This woman is the one that can make a man fall in love.
Monday, November 29, 2010
He loves Me, He Loves Me Not - Hot and Cold Men
This uncertainty is painful and frustrating. You may have a great date, the passion is out the roof, the connection feels so strong. Then poof, he vanishes for days or even weeks at a time, then comes back again. What on earth is he doing and why.
He could be keeping you on the back burner. He could be just freaking out because he doesn't want to get in a relationship or he thinks he doesn't want to. One of the main reasons why men blow hot and cold though is because we allow them to do so. We take him back as we are swooned by his words when he comes back from disappearing. A man instinctively knows this, so it tells him it's ok to blow hot and cold. If you tolerate it, he has no reason to change.
A man that blows hot and cold very well may be a man who will not be there for you when the chips are down. If he can't remain consistent during good, normal times, what will he be like if the going gets tough? Will he leave you to deal with issues alone only to resurface when things have straightened out?
If you find yourself asking or nagging him about this behavior you are wasting your breath. This doesn't work on the hot and cold man and actually can cause him to be more extreme with it. Men avoid emotions like the plague. If you ask him or keep bringing it up, he sees it as talking about feelings. Ask any man does he want to talk about his feelings. He is going to say NO, 9 times out of 10.
Trust me, he already knows he is not treating you right, he doesn't need you to remind him. That is playing more of a mother role to him and men don't fall in love with their mothers. The best way to deal with men that blow hot and cold is to step away, pull back when he goes cold. Don't let him back in so easy. This tells him you recognize his bad behavior without saying a word.
The worst thing about men that blow hot and cold is you never know where you stand. You struggle with feelings of insecurities between dates with him. You don't know if he loves you or not. When he is with you, you feel he loves you, when you aren't, you just aren't sure if he loves you not. You might as well play that game he loves me, he loves me not with a daisy.
Why He Disappeared!
Can a man that blows hot and cold love you? Can this emotionally guarded man fall in love?
Why He Disappeared!
He could be keeping you on the back burner. He could be just freaking out because he doesn't want to get in a relationship or he thinks he doesn't want to. One of the main reasons why men blow hot and cold though is because we allow them to do so. We take him back as we are swooned by his words when he comes back from disappearing. A man instinctively knows this, so it tells him it's ok to blow hot and cold. If you tolerate it, he has no reason to change.
A man that blows hot and cold very well may be a man who will not be there for you when the chips are down. If he can't remain consistent during good, normal times, what will he be like if the going gets tough? Will he leave you to deal with issues alone only to resurface when things have straightened out?
If you find yourself asking or nagging him about this behavior you are wasting your breath. This doesn't work on the hot and cold man and actually can cause him to be more extreme with it. Men avoid emotions like the plague. If you ask him or keep bringing it up, he sees it as talking about feelings. Ask any man does he want to talk about his feelings. He is going to say NO, 9 times out of 10.
Trust me, he already knows he is not treating you right, he doesn't need you to remind him. That is playing more of a mother role to him and men don't fall in love with their mothers. The best way to deal with men that blow hot and cold is to step away, pull back when he goes cold. Don't let him back in so easy. This tells him you recognize his bad behavior without saying a word.
The worst thing about men that blow hot and cold is you never know where you stand. You struggle with feelings of insecurities between dates with him. You don't know if he loves you or not. When he is with you, you feel he loves you, when you aren't, you just aren't sure if he loves you not. You might as well play that game he loves me, he loves me not with a daisy.
Why He Disappeared!
Can a man that blows hot and cold love you? Can this emotionally guarded man fall in love?
Why He Disappeared!
Sunday, November 28, 2010
Is He Going To Break Up With Me?
If your guy has started calling and texting less, reasons popping up as to why he can't see you, it probably has you really worried. Maybe he is short tempered to you or seems to not have as much patience as he did. You may not understand what is going on, but you know it's something. You live in fear and the thought, he is going to break up with me stays in your mind.
Usually when a man starts putting distance between you, something is going on. He could be in that freak out stage, he could be feeling smothered. One thing we know from experience though, a man often acts this way prior to a break up. When that distance enters the picture, we wait in fear for those words. "It's not you, it's me". This line is a sure sign he is about to break up with you, that's for sure, we have all heard it and live in fear of it.
One of the most common reasons why men disappear or break up with you is they suddenly realize the girl in their life is more serious than he is. She is acting like the girlfriend. Sure he gave her signs, spent time with her, told her sweet things. He seemed perfectly happy the way things were progressing. Guys though, live in the moment. When they realize the girl is seeing herself as his girlfriend and acting the part, they get scared. All of a sudden, they have to think about someone else. The responsibility can be over whelming.
At the time maybe he was. Men fear a loss of their freedom. If they now realize they may have to consider your feelings prior to doing things such as hanging out with their buddies, they start to freak. They think, uh oh, she is going to start to try to control my life, thus he losses his freedom. A man's freedom is important to him and if he feels that is threatened he may be on the verge of breaking up. It's one thing they miss the most if they are in a relationship.
One thing you don't want to do is hold onto him tighter or push him to talk about it. This just sets him back more. Men don't deal with emotions very well. If you get all emotional on him, it just validates the reason why he should break up with you in his mind. The best thing you can do when you are in fear and can't stop asking the question, "will he break up with me", is give him that space. There are a lot of dynamics going on in a man's mind at this point and your behavior can make or break this. It can determine whether he feels safe to continue with you, or if he decides to break up with you.
Don't be caught off guard and be left hurt and feeling helpless. If you guy is distant, have a plan before the break up begins.
Usually when a man starts putting distance between you, something is going on. He could be in that freak out stage, he could be feeling smothered. One thing we know from experience though, a man often acts this way prior to a break up. When that distance enters the picture, we wait in fear for those words. "It's not you, it's me". This line is a sure sign he is about to break up with you, that's for sure, we have all heard it and live in fear of it.
One of the most common reasons why men disappear or break up with you is they suddenly realize the girl in their life is more serious than he is. She is acting like the girlfriend. Sure he gave her signs, spent time with her, told her sweet things. He seemed perfectly happy the way things were progressing. Guys though, live in the moment. When they realize the girl is seeing herself as his girlfriend and acting the part, they get scared. All of a sudden, they have to think about someone else. The responsibility can be over whelming.
At the time maybe he was. Men fear a loss of their freedom. If they now realize they may have to consider your feelings prior to doing things such as hanging out with their buddies, they start to freak. They think, uh oh, she is going to start to try to control my life, thus he losses his freedom. A man's freedom is important to him and if he feels that is threatened he may be on the verge of breaking up. It's one thing they miss the most if they are in a relationship.
One thing you don't want to do is hold onto him tighter or push him to talk about it. This just sets him back more. Men don't deal with emotions very well. If you get all emotional on him, it just validates the reason why he should break up with you in his mind. The best thing you can do when you are in fear and can't stop asking the question, "will he break up with me", is give him that space. There are a lot of dynamics going on in a man's mind at this point and your behavior can make or break this. It can determine whether he feels safe to continue with you, or if he decides to break up with you.
Don't be caught off guard and be left hurt and feeling helpless. If you guy is distant, have a plan before the break up begins.
Tuesday, November 23, 2010
Will He Stand Beside You or Will He Disappear
It's easy to be a relationship when everything is new, it seems so perfect. You learn something new about him every day. You text flirty text messages, you think of him all the time. You leave your weekends open because you know or you hope you will be with him. It's so great in the beginning.
Why He Disappeared!
What happens though when some of the newness wears off? What happens if something happens in your life where you can't be that fun, carefree girl anymore? What if you get laid off or a family member gets sick? When the going gets tough, does he have what it takes to stand beside you or will he be one of those men that disappear?
During rough times you are stressed and can't really give him that fun loving girl. He has to be really invested in you to stick around. Does he really want to drive you to the hospital or help you move? If you are going through a rough time, you really do need a man who stands beside you, not one of those men who disappear.
Why He Disappeared!
When we are going through hard times, this is when we need our partner the most and this is when he often pulls away. Then not only are you going through emotions with your life stresses, now you are left trying to hold onto a man who you fear will disappear. Add one more worry to your list.
The sad thing is, if he is a man who disappears, this is how he acts when he's asked to be selfless. This is how he acts when he doesn't get his way. This is how he acts when the chips are down. So why would you want to commit to a man who doesn't have the decency to put your needs first when you need him the most? Because you love him? Because you have a great time together and the chemistry is out the roof?
Why He Disappeared!
You just got a glimpse of the rest of your life. A man who doesn't support you, a man who disappears when you're at your weakest is not a man to keep. How a man reacts in a crisis says a lot about how he will behave in the future. If your man is not supportive, consider it a bullet dodged. If you stay and try to salvage a relationship with him, you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of disappointments.
Why He Disappeared!
Why He Disappeared!
What happens though when some of the newness wears off? What happens if something happens in your life where you can't be that fun, carefree girl anymore? What if you get laid off or a family member gets sick? When the going gets tough, does he have what it takes to stand beside you or will he be one of those men that disappear?
During rough times you are stressed and can't really give him that fun loving girl. He has to be really invested in you to stick around. Does he really want to drive you to the hospital or help you move? If you are going through a rough time, you really do need a man who stands beside you, not one of those men who disappear.
Why He Disappeared!
When we are going through hard times, this is when we need our partner the most and this is when he often pulls away. Then not only are you going through emotions with your life stresses, now you are left trying to hold onto a man who you fear will disappear. Add one more worry to your list.
The sad thing is, if he is a man who disappears, this is how he acts when he's asked to be selfless. This is how he acts when he doesn't get his way. This is how he acts when the chips are down. So why would you want to commit to a man who doesn't have the decency to put your needs first when you need him the most? Because you love him? Because you have a great time together and the chemistry is out the roof?
Why He Disappeared!
You just got a glimpse of the rest of your life. A man who doesn't support you, a man who disappears when you're at your weakest is not a man to keep. How a man reacts in a crisis says a lot about how he will behave in the future. If your man is not supportive, consider it a bullet dodged. If you stay and try to salvage a relationship with him, you are setting yourself up for a lifetime of disappointments.
Why He Disappeared!
Monday, November 15, 2010
Dating Again - Be The Leading Lady
You know the movie "Holiday" with Cameron Diaz and Kate Winslette? Well when Kate gets to LA and she meets Author, they go out for dinner and he ask hers why is she here all by herself, she explains to him and starts crying sharing the heartache she has endured. Well Author tells her that she needs to stop acting like the best friend and become the "Leading Lady" in her own life.
What does this mean and how does being a Leading Lady help in dating again? It's a lot to do with attitude and how you view yourself. You are the prize, you are the leading lady. If you see yourself this way, you won't have near the drama that dating again can bring.
If a leading lady does not know where she stands she rarely has to have the talk. When her needs aren't getting met, she gracefully exits the stage. She doesn't have to come out again in hopes of an encore. She is in control. If you are dating again, being in control is critical to protect yourself.
If she has a small part in his life, she gives him a small part in hers. Nothing more. She doesn't waste much time or put consideration into small time roles. She doesn't invest more into a man than he is investing in her.
A leading lady doesn't wait around hoping she will get the part, wondering if she will be picked. She knows her worth and if she isn't recognized for it, she moves onto another film. She knows her worth and if a man doesn't treat her accordingly, her thought is "Next".
A leading lady doesn't view the parts she doesn't get as failures. She sees them as practice, auditions. A way to perfect her game. She learns from this and moves on and doesn't waste time on the parts that just didn't fit her.
Dating again can be confusing and frustrating. Many times we just want to give up. Don't, just be your own leading lady and dating again turns into an adventure.
What does this mean and how does being a Leading Lady help in dating again? It's a lot to do with attitude and how you view yourself. You are the prize, you are the leading lady. If you see yourself this way, you won't have near the drama that dating again can bring.
If a leading lady does not know where she stands she rarely has to have the talk. When her needs aren't getting met, she gracefully exits the stage. She doesn't have to come out again in hopes of an encore. She is in control. If you are dating again, being in control is critical to protect yourself.
If she has a small part in his life, she gives him a small part in hers. Nothing more. She doesn't waste much time or put consideration into small time roles. She doesn't invest more into a man than he is investing in her.
A leading lady doesn't wait around hoping she will get the part, wondering if she will be picked. She knows her worth and if she isn't recognized for it, she moves onto another film. She knows her worth and if a man doesn't treat her accordingly, her thought is "Next".
A leading lady doesn't view the parts she doesn't get as failures. She sees them as practice, auditions. A way to perfect her game. She learns from this and moves on and doesn't waste time on the parts that just didn't fit her.
Dating again can be confusing and frustrating. Many times we just want to give up. Don't, just be your own leading lady and dating again turns into an adventure.
Sunday, November 14, 2010
How Evan Marc Katz Changed My Life
Evan Marc Katz is a relationship/dating coach and author of an inspiring book called "Why He Disappeared". His no nonsense approach cuts right to the bone and takes all the guess work out of dating and relationships. He is a man that communicates to women in a frank, matter of fact way exactly how men think and process a relationship.
I went through countless relationships in my past guessing where I stood with men. I would be dating a guy and suddenly he or I stopped feeling the attraction. I wondered often why men disappear. Katz explains this with crystal clarity in his book.
Why He Disappeared!
It's not always that we attract the wrong men into our lives, it's more about we accept the wrong men in our lives. We fall in love with their potential more than who they really are. They start out dating putting their best foot forward, a few months go by and they start getting distant. We stay hoping to get the man back to where he was in the beginning. Katz explains why this happens and what you can do about it.
I no longer struggle with my dating or relationships. I know what to look for and I understand a lot more how men really think. I have no doubts I will not find myself stuck and unhappy in dead end relationships anymore.
Because of Katz, I was able to let go of a man who although great it would seem, really wasn't making me happy. I held onto him for all the wrong reasons which is where this book, Why men disappear helped me.
Why He Disappeared!
I left the relationship confident and without regrets. Pain was minimum. I am not dating again and have several good candidates in the line up. I am not stressed wondering if he is going to call, will I see him, will he disappear or any discomfort.
I recommend this book, it's like the bible of relationships. If you read no other book on relationships, this should be the one. Why He Disappeared!
For more information on Evan Marc katz and his credentials View Evan Marc Katz Credibility
I went through countless relationships in my past guessing where I stood with men. I would be dating a guy and suddenly he or I stopped feeling the attraction. I wondered often why men disappear. Katz explains this with crystal clarity in his book.
Why He Disappeared!
It's not always that we attract the wrong men into our lives, it's more about we accept the wrong men in our lives. We fall in love with their potential more than who they really are. They start out dating putting their best foot forward, a few months go by and they start getting distant. We stay hoping to get the man back to where he was in the beginning. Katz explains why this happens and what you can do about it.
I no longer struggle with my dating or relationships. I know what to look for and I understand a lot more how men really think. I have no doubts I will not find myself stuck and unhappy in dead end relationships anymore.
Because of Katz, I was able to let go of a man who although great it would seem, really wasn't making me happy. I held onto him for all the wrong reasons which is where this book, Why men disappear helped me.
Why He Disappeared!
I left the relationship confident and without regrets. Pain was minimum. I am not dating again and have several good candidates in the line up. I am not stressed wondering if he is going to call, will I see him, will he disappear or any discomfort.
I recommend this book, it's like the bible of relationships. If you read no other book on relationships, this should be the one. Why He Disappeared!
For more information on Evan Marc katz and his credentials View Evan Marc Katz Credibility
Friday, November 5, 2010
Finding The One Online
Online dating has been stigmatized. Many view it as unsafe and something desperate women do. This is really a shame because there are a lot of great guys out there looking for love online. Just like in real life, there will be jerks, emotional retards, commitment phobics, and guys wanting an instant relationship who are clingy and needy.
The guys online are just like the ones in real life except there are more of them to choose from. It's like shopping. Shopping is fun. It can be frustrating because so often it just doesn't fit. It's a numbers game though. The more you date, the better your chances are for finding the one online.
There is skill involved in online dating. There are things you can do to increase your chances of finding the one online. Some very simple. A few changes to your pics, profile or something as simple as the subject line in your emails can make all the difference in the world. There are ways to weed out the duds as well.
If you are frustrated and not having much luck and feel like giving up, sometimes a few changes will make all the difference in finding the one online. Rebranding yourself online is what I call it.
Find The One Online
Once you rebrand yourself online, start flirting effectively with men, and going out on pre-screened, high-quality dates each week, it’s only a matter of time before you meet your future husband.
The husband who will love you in spite of your flaws.
The husband who will listen to you after a bad day.
The husband who will take care of you, emotionally, financially, and sexually.
Without meeting men consistently, this scenario is unlikely to happen. But when you master online dating, love becomes inevitable.
Find The One Online
Okay, maybe not inevitable! But I think we can agree that one date a week will likely produce a relationship a lot faster than if you go on one ‘real life’ date every three months.
The following things would be beneficial to learn if you are going to have success in finding the one online.
* Which dating site works best for your individual needs
* The "headline/username" secret that makes your profile irresistible to members of the opposite sex!
* 5 profile strategies you can use RIGHT NOW to immediately boost the appeal of your profile.
* 2 surefire techniques to write an amazing first email that gets an eager response...
* The REAL reason why people disappear in the middle of emailing you. It's not what you think, but it'll save you hours of agonizing why your "perfect" match suddenly stopped communicating.
The absolute best online dating guide was created by Evan Mark Katz. Hundreds of women have found the one oneline by following his guidelines.
Find The One Online
The guys online are just like the ones in real life except there are more of them to choose from. It's like shopping. Shopping is fun. It can be frustrating because so often it just doesn't fit. It's a numbers game though. The more you date, the better your chances are for finding the one online.
There is skill involved in online dating. There are things you can do to increase your chances of finding the one online. Some very simple. A few changes to your pics, profile or something as simple as the subject line in your emails can make all the difference in the world. There are ways to weed out the duds as well.
If you are frustrated and not having much luck and feel like giving up, sometimes a few changes will make all the difference in finding the one online. Rebranding yourself online is what I call it.
Find The One Online
Once you rebrand yourself online, start flirting effectively with men, and going out on pre-screened, high-quality dates each week, it’s only a matter of time before you meet your future husband.
The husband who will love you in spite of your flaws.
The husband who will listen to you after a bad day.
The husband who will take care of you, emotionally, financially, and sexually.
Without meeting men consistently, this scenario is unlikely to happen. But when you master online dating, love becomes inevitable.
Find The One Online
Okay, maybe not inevitable! But I think we can agree that one date a week will likely produce a relationship a lot faster than if you go on one ‘real life’ date every three months.
The following things would be beneficial to learn if you are going to have success in finding the one online.
* Which dating site works best for your individual needs
* The "headline/username" secret that makes your profile irresistible to members of the opposite sex!
* 5 profile strategies you can use RIGHT NOW to immediately boost the appeal of your profile.
* 2 surefire techniques to write an amazing first email that gets an eager response...
* The REAL reason why people disappear in the middle of emailing you. It's not what you think, but it'll save you hours of agonizing why your "perfect" match suddenly stopped communicating.
The absolute best online dating guide was created by Evan Mark Katz. Hundreds of women have found the one oneline by following his guidelines.
Find The One Online
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