Man Mistake Eraser #1

There are many mistakes we can make with the men in our lives.  We can act insecure, be too clingy, call too often, smother them, tell them we love them first and the list goes on and on.  There are the more severe mistakes such as cheating or lying.  Hopefully the latter two are not on your list.  Even the worst of mistakes though can be fixed.  There is one main man mistake eraser that will assist in almost every mistake we make.  Silence.  You may ask how can silence erase a mistake that you have made, so let me explain.

When men are upset, they aren't like we are.  They don't want to talk about it.  Men don't want to talk about feelings.....yet.  They need to process.  If a man is left with your silence, it forces him to think.  If you insist on talking or discussing your feelings and what went wrong, he doesn't have time to think, he just has time to be annoyed.  It also shows you as even more clingy or desperate.  If you have had a parting of ways, the best tactic you can practice is to be silent.

Often when a man is suddenly not around you or talking to you, if he is used to doing so, he may begin to miss you.  This is when a man realizes his true feelings towards you.  He won't get in touch with his feelings if you are forcing him to do so.  He needs time.  If he truly cares for you, he will remember more about the good times than the bad as he calms down. 

Several years ago, I was in a relationship with a man and yes I loved him.  I am pretty sure he loved me too.  We rarely fought, and always got along and had a really good healthy connection.  One night we did fight, he was upset and just walked out on me.  I did not know then what I know now.  I got in my car and attempted to follow him and force him to tell me what he was thinking.  He wouldn't.  I returned home only to show back up at his house the next day.  He then broke up with me for good, telling me the ole, "It's not you, it's me" and "I am not ready for a relationship".  This was after a year and his declaration that he loved me.

Would it have had a different ending had I remained silent for a few days and allowed him to calm and then come to me?  Chances are good that could have happened.  By contacting him continuously, I pushed him further away.  My chasing and talking was not a man mistake eraser.

Another thing when we screw up with men in our lives when we don't give them space happens.  The more we open our mouths and try to apologize, justify and talk, the more damage we do.  It just usually ends up reinforcing the very thing that they were upset about in the first place.  Also men expect women to behave with drama.  Be the woman that is different.  There are many man mistake erasers, but the #1 man mistake eraser is your silence.

The Charms of Southern Women

Southern Women are known for their alluring charms.  Men find them irresistible for sure.  I should know, I live in the South.  Recently a man told me "I've always wanted to find a Southern Woman to settle down with. Much more real and authentic."  Another man from the West Coast claims that there is nothing like a Southern Woman.  What is it about us that give us such a reputation?  Is it Scarlet from Gone with the Wind?

We known for a lot of things.  Saying please and thank you.  Serving sweet iced tea and oh our cooking.  Our country style of cooking is something few men can turn down.  It's more to it than that.  It's attitude.  It's our way we can shine with true Feminine Grace even in the not so pleasant moments.  We are also known for our accents, out tempers and our fire.  Always though done with grace.

Southern Women are flirts, no doubt.  We flirt playfully, and tastefully.  We aren't bold or blunt about it, but no how to show interests without chasing.  Now I am not saying we are superior.  We aren't.  We really are no different.  It's culture here in the bible belt.  It is different. 

We can fry up some mean ass chicken too by the way.  Melt in your mouth, yummy chicken.  The trick here though is knowing when to fry up that chicken.  I have come to relate chicken frying with stages of a relationship.  Some women jump in the kitchen, put on the apron and fry that chicken way too soon.  Other women know exactly when and how to fry that chicken.  Knowing this is they key to a relationship, believe it or not.

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How To Trust Again

Men need to be trusted. If you don't trust your man, it can and will lead to the demise of your relationship if you don't learn to overcome your trust issues. When a man doesn't feel your trust, he doesn't feel safe to open up to you and he won't create that strong emotional bond needed for a relationship to thrive.

Many women associate trust with cheating as in trusting that he will be faithful. While this is important of course, there is so much more to trusting a man than if he cheats or not. Do you trust him with his own life decisions? Do you trust that he will do what he says he will do? Do you trust that he is a good man? Trust is way more than if he will run around on you.

The first step in learning to deal with your trust issues is to realize that they are your issues, not his. They exist in you more than likely because of you past experiences with men that let you down or did cheat. The current man in your life is not these men. He should not have to pay for the sins of the men before him. This is when a man starts to feel resentment. If he feels resentment, he will begin to not trust you with the most important thing, his heart.
When a man has to deal with your trust issues, he no longer feels safe with you. He can't. He starts to walk around on egg shells fearing something he says or does will set your trust issues in motion. If he can't feel safe, he won't thrive with you and grow into a strong healthy relationship. He will view you more as a little girl than the grown sexy woman that is his lover and confidante.

Another thing you may want to look at in your trust issues and how you don't trust men is the role you have played in the past. These men that let you down. Did you possibly accept the wrong men into your life. Often the men that let us down are men we should never have fallen in love with in the first place. I can think of many bad choices I made in men in the past. Sure I could get angry and say men are jerks. They are all alike. The fact is they aren't all alike and a lot of it is my own fault for falling for the wrong man. This isn't always the case, but more times than not we shoulder some of the blame.

If you want to learn to trust again, start with the little things. If he says he will call, trust that he will. If you call him first this shows you don't trust him to call you even though he said he would. If he has a problem or stress in his life, don't try to fix it for him. Trust him to fix it for himself. So many women try to intervene and fix the problems of their men. This just makes them feel inadequate or not trusted by you.

To learn to overcome your trust issues, practice with the little things like trusting he will do what he says he will do. If he says he will call, don't jump the gun and call him first. Give him a chance. Then when he does in fact do what he said, without a push from you, it gives you reinforcement. The more positive reinforcement you get, the easier it will get. It's a process.

The best thing about learning to trust your man is it makes him feel like a man. It makes him feel like the hero. You get positive reinforcement, return it back to him when he doesn't let you down and he will give you even more reasons to trust him, I promise.

Men have to feel trusted. When a woman doesn't trust her man the relationship seems too much like work. Then the man can end up leaving you for a woman that can trust him and make him feel safe. Don't be one of those women asking the question, "What does she have that I don't?"

REAL WOMEN, REAL LOVE.  DARE TO LOVE AGAIN.

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He Blows Hot and Cold

If you are in love with a man that blows hot and cold, girl I feel for you. We have all been there. You have this chemistry with a man, it feels returned. Some days are just amazing. Others you don't even know if he will call or not. Worse, you wonder if you don't call him, would you even hear from him or not? It's a emotional roller coaster that is for sure.

Why do men blow hot and cold? Is he moody? Is it that he loves you but he just hasn't realized it yet. This is what I see a lot. Women staying with this up and down man hoping he will realize that one day he loves her and begins to stop the nonsense back and forth stuff. Many women even attempt to talk to their man about it. Oh this is only going to make it worse, don't talk about it. Men respond to distance, not words.

If you find yourself saying "but it was so great last time we were together, how can he just shut me out like that" you have one of those men that go from cold to hot. If you find yourself saying "but I love him", you have even bigger troubles. A man that changes temperatures is not a man in love. A man in love would not dream of putting you through that emotional push pull.

He could be a commitment phobic, he could be emotionally unavailable, but the fact remains, he is what he is, not present in your life like you wished he would be. It's the hot times that keep you holding on. You think if he could just be like this all the time. If he could just see how much I love him, if this, if that.

The fact of the matter is being in love with a man like this is emotionally exhausting. You hold onto how it was in the beginning and ignore how it is now. Fairy dust will not just sprinkle from the sky and transform the hot and cold man into a great partner. Nothing will transform these men into great partners. You are in love with his potential and focused on what could or should be and not what is.

If he was going to become a great partner, he would have already done so. Men don't just wake up one day more interested in you or all of a sudden in love. Men to fall in love have to think about you. A hot and cold man doesn't spend a lot of time thinking about you. Here is a hard truth about these men. His attraction for you is not that strong.

More times than not, men that blow hot and cold may not see you as his dream girl. A man would never blow hot and cold to his dream girl. He might lose her. If he blows hot and cold, you could be just an option for now until someone else comes along. A man who is a good partner would not do this to a woman he truly cares about.

Some hot and cold men stay around for a long time before they disappear. I have seen men blow hot and cold for one woman and turn around and blow hot all the time for another woman. Are you the fall girl here or his dream girl?

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How to Make Him Addicted to You With Text Messages

It doesn't matter if you are single, dating, in a relationship or married. You can ignite a spark with a well thought out well delivered text message. To be successful with this technique, it is critical to have an understanding of the male mind. Men are visual. You have to be able to paint pictures to make him addicted to you.

If you are new to dating a man, it's best to do this more subtle like. Save the more to the point texts for those married or in a stable relationship. If this is a guy you are just dating, the techniques will vary from those if your relationship is established mainly because in the beginning it's best not to initiate with a man. This means you will have to execute your responses to his texts accordingly. By not initiating with the man you aren't chasing him. Men are getting used to women taking the lead. This does not mean they like it. By letting him lead, you stand out from the rest and this alone can make him addicted.

If you are already in a relationship, you can create more visual pictures for the man and be more to the point. This is not something you want to do everyday. Being predictable will not make him addicted to you. Being unpredictable will. If you are always texting him mundane things like when is he coming home or can he stop at the store, toss in a message with some sexual play to it out of the blue. Do this on occasion, not daily. You can start with something as simple as "I can't stop thinking about you today". He will inquire as to why, which is when you refer to something the two of you did in the bedroom if you get my drift. He will instantly remember that time and start thinking about it and you.

To get a man addicted to you, you create positive triggers to positive things you have shared. This builds an emotional connection. This is why texting works so well. Your ring tone, your name on his cell screen become triggers to him. Triggers of passion, and warm fuzzy feelings. When we have addictions in our lives, we think about them often. This is what you want to do with your texts. Get him thinking about you. Not you and what's for dinner. That's annoying and creates negative non addicting thoughts.

Find out what thousand of other women have already discovered about texting men and how it can escalate your romance to new levels.

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I Was In Love With an Emotionally Unavailable Man

Oh yes I was once upon a time.  He seemed so wonderful.  He was a good person and I didn't even suspect he was emotionally unavailable until much later on.  It was like the ole frog in the pot.  Put him in cool water, turn it up slowly and he will stay there and boil to death.  Toss him in a hot pot and he jumps out.  I went into the cool water and had no clue, there weren't any signs.

He asked me to be exclusive, he called me his girlfriend.  He did things right.  He called when he was supposed too.  He took me out on dates, he was a stand up guy with a strong character.  He was a family man.  It wasn't until later that I realized he did these things because he thought he was supposed too, not out of some deep desire to make me happy.

The really odd thing is looking back, I don't think he even realized he was emotionally unavailable.  He didn't get my need to be further, deeper into his life or include him into mine.  There were also little clues looking back.  The pillow talk was limited.  He had so many routines that he was unwilling to break.  If grass needed cutting, there was nothing I could do to sway him otherwise.  Cocktails on the deck on a beautiful day sounded so wonderful to me.  I knew at least a dozen people who would love to go for cocktails on a deck, but not my boyfriend.  I was never invited to participate in any of his hobbies or assist in any way with his private life.  We never cooked together.  There was little sharing. 


He did so much right, hence I fell in love, yet it was the things that he wasn't doing that were telling that he was emotionally unavailable.  That is where I screwed up.  I paid attention to what he did and ignored the things he didn't do.  They were easy to overlook.  It was not a big deal that he could never stick around for breakfast, after all, the night before he had given me so much attention.  The sex was great so how could I complain?  He treated me very well and he was good to me.

This went on for a year.  It started dawning on me when I started to really want to share things with him, but wouldn't because I didn't feel in my gut he really wanted me too.  He would listen sure, but be supportive or completely present?  Nope, he didn't.  Just enough to get me by and keep me hanging on.  This is when I started to really feel detached.  I wanted to share and be shared with, in some pretty deep ways.  I didn't feel comfortable doing so.  An emotionally unavailable man does not make you feel safe to open your heart because you are never really sure he wants you too.

I don't blame this man at all.  I could have done a lot of things different myself.  I could have rocked the boat sooner rather than later. I am positive of my own role in the demise of our relationship, but that is another blog post. Hindsight doesn't matter really.  I learned a lot.  It stands as a reminder in my current relationship anytime I get fearful and feel like shutting down.   I don't want my current partner not to feel safe.  Emotional closeness is what I crave and anytime I am tempted to be on the emotionally unavailable side, I think of him.

Note he had been married more than once and each marriage followed shortly after the other.  This could very well have been a sign he is emotionally unavailable.  Emotionally unavailable men are often unaware of their unavailability.  They jump out of one and right into another.  They think they are ready, but the fact is they are not ready for a relationship.  They won't be ready until they take inventory of their past and baggage and come to terms and acceptance with it.

Why He Disappeared!

I was lucky, he dumped me.  I didn't feel so lucky at the time, but now I am thankful that I have had the time to heal, learn and move onto a man who is emotionally available.  Cocktails on the deck?  Anytime!  If you are attracting emotionally unavailable men or are in love with one, understand this.  He won't wake up one day and be the partner you desire.  If he isn't that partner now, he probably won't ever be.  He will do like my ex did and disappear down the road.  You can't fix him, but you can replace him.

Why He Disappeared!

The Disappearing Man Syndrome

Have you ever blown a guy off, as in avoided him? Answer that honestly. Has there ever been a guy who was a nice guy but you didn't feel any attraction for him. You wished you could but you didn't, so you told him you just wanted to be friends. In reality, you probably didn't care if you remained friends or not, but you didn't want to hurt his feelings. Men often skip over the let's be friends and just disappear instead.

Have you ever dated a guy for a couple of months and then he got clingy. You began to doubt the relationship and you started creating a little distance. Seems this just made him more insecure and he began to ask you where the relationship was headed and started to want to talk about the relationship more and more, dissecting anything you said. What did you want to do with this guy. My guess, you wanted to disappear.

Some women talk so much about where the relationship is going that they talk themselves right out of the relationship. This pushes women away when men do it, why are men different. Most women are trying so hard to get the outcome that they desire that they kill the attraction in the process.

I got an email from a client. She had been chatting with this man online for a couple of days and they seem to be hitting it off. They made a date. Three days prior to the date he called it off. Seems someone he had previously met was back in the picture. He was respectful enough to tell her the truth, yet she still wondered if she should stay in touch if it worked out. Are you kidding me? He just told her loud and clear why he disappeared. Fatal mistake, don't hold on at all to the disappearing man.

Men Disappear for one of three reasons:

1. He is not that into you. It's not his fault. We can't help it if a man isn't into us, no more than we can help when we are not into them. It happens. Move on. Find a man who is into you. He is out there.

2. He is not ready for a relationship. He may think he is ready. You may have found him on a dating site. You would think all men there should be ready. They do state that in their profile. It doesn't mean a man is ready in reality though, trust me. If he is not ready for a relationship, that is a top reason why he disappeared.

3. It's not him, it's you. You did something to scare him off. Something that didn't make him feel safe. Maybe you got to clingy. Maybe you started acting too much like a girlfriend too fast Something killed his attraction, you can count on that. If it hadn't, he would not be one of the men that disappear.

With the first two it's a no brainer really. You can't make these men ready and you can't make them like you. You don't need a man who isn't ready and you don't want one that isn't sure if he wants you. If it's number 3, you may not really understand what men treasure in a woman and what makes them feel safe and fall in love.

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Are You His Dream Girl or His Yes Girl

Have you seen the older movie Runaway Bride. Remember she didn't even know how she liked her eggs. She had been conforming for so long to what she thought the men would like that she herself didn't know anymore what she liked. This is a yes woman. A dream girl knows what she likes and isn't scared to voice it. Men find this quality very sexy by the way.

A yes woman often operates out of fear. Fear that she will some how lose her man if she doesn't work to please him. A yes woman often puts her friends on hold for her man. I know you know or have been this woman. The woman who stops going out with her friends and devotes all of her time to her new man in her life. She frees up her schedule to accommodate him. She tells her friend she can go out with them if her man doesn't call or has to work or something.

A dream girl won't do this. She maintains her life and doesn't put it on hold for a man. She can involve him, but not at the expense of her own life. She doesn't sacrifice her life for the sake of a man. The man is an addition to her life, not the center of her universe.

Yes women often spend a lot of time doing things for their men. In the meantime, rarely is it returned. This causes a cycle. She does even more to earn his affection, and he returns it even less and the resentment starts to set into her heart. She then voices how she does so much and he does little. He then feels like he isn't making her happy and the relationship starts to spiral down hill.

If you are going out of your way to please a man, you are fast becoming his yes girl. If you are doing household chores, running errands for him, you are setting him up to take you for granted. This is not a dream girl. Dream girls often have the men running errands for them instead. A dream girl inspires the man to please her and understands that to be able to please her is most of what is needed to please him. Men love to make their women happy. Making his woman happy is what makes a man feel like a man. Why on earth would you want to upset this balance and focus on pleasing him?

A yes girl puts a burden on her man unknowingly. A dream girl  inspires him and makes him happy.

The Women Men Adore and Never Want to Leave

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Is He Ready for a Relationship

Often we find out too late that he isn't ready for a relationship. By all appearances he seemed to be, but months down the road, he tells you he isn't ready for a relationship. Shouldn't you figure this out before investing time into a man. Shouldn't you find out if he is ready for a relationship sooner than later. Although it doesn't guarantee eternal bliss, it sure will save you more heart ache than not. Jumping into a relationship without knowing the answer to this question is self-abuse.

You can tell if a man is ready for a relationship by his actions. Sure they talk a lot of talk, but do the actions match the words. A man steady in his forward movement towards you shows positive signs that yes he is ready for a relationship. The man who is inconsistent with his calls, the man who disappears, is giving you signs he is not ready. The smart thing to do in this case is to dump him and go out and find a man that you don't have to ask is he ready for a relationship with. Sadly a lot of women hold on, hoping he will change, falling hopelessly in love with his potential and not the man himself.

If you offer up resistance and he still pursues you, that is a sign that yes he is ready. By offering resistance, I mean mainly not changing your life around to accommodate him. If you keep your independence and he still keeps coming forward, he is ready for a relationship. If he pushes you to change your routines, or if he stops trying to fit you into his life when you offer up resistance, he is not ready for a relationship. Go find someone who is please.

If a man acts proud of you, you can count on his readiness for a relationship with you. If he introduces you to friends. If he even brags to his friends of some of the silly things he has done for you. Men often do this in a joking way. If he refers to you as the boss with a smile on his face, he is proud of the hold you have on him. A man not ready for a relationship will brag about how he won't do this or won't do that for a woman.

A man ready for a relationship won't do this. He may hold onto his independence, but you won't hear him bragging on it. Why He Disappeared!

If a relationship is what you seek, stop wasting your time on men who aren't ready. If men disappear on you, it's time for you to end this madness and find out if it's you or if it's simply the men you are choosing to accept into your life. Why He Disappeared!

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Do Men Like a Challenge

When it comes to what men want in a woman, a yes woman is not it. A yes woman puts her man's needs prior to her own. She values his happiness first. The woman that gives too much falls into this category. A woman that gives in easily or is submissive is not very stimulating to obtain. This is the kind of woman that he keeps around as miss right now, but is not the kind of woman a man sees forever with.
The yes woman also becomes dependent on the man for her happiness. This puts a huge amount of pressure on a man. He starts to fear doing things separate from his woman because he has learned to expect her reaction to be one of sadness and disappointment. If you are dependent on a man for your happiness, this is a huge turnoff.
If you doubt men like a challenge think about a man and his car. If he drives a jalopy, he doesn't really care where he parks it. He doesn't care if someone else drives it. It gets him from point A to point B. If on the other hand he has a really nice car, chances are good he had to work hard to earn the money for that car. It holds more value. He cares where it's parked. He won't let just anyone drive it. He washes it every weekend and keeps it clean. It's his pride and joy. What men want in a woman is his pride and joy. If she comes to him easily, her value will be less.
Ever heard a man who has been happily married tell the story of how he won his wife. Watch his face, listen to his story. I would bet he had to go through hell and back to hear him tell it. Men often exaggerate this story. It's their pride and ego. They are proud they won the prize. They are proud of their challenging woman. A challenge is really one of the top things men want in a woman.
Being a challenge to a man is as simple as this. Offering up some resistance. If it's something he can't easily have, it becomes more of a challenge to get it. Resistance is not playing games, it's smart. It can be done in many ways. Something as simple as saying no thanks to a late night booty call is a challenge. It tells him you have more respect for yourself.
Offering resistance is smart because you can see how the man manuevers with this. If he steps it up, he is a worthy candidate. If he is respectful of your resistance, he may be ready for a real relationship. The man that accuses you of playing games with this is often the lazy man and not relationship ready in the first place. Dare to be a challenge to a man.

Stop being a doormat. A man's dream girl includes the term challenge, whether he knows it or not. It's in their nature, they can't help it. What a man wants in a woman is a challenge. The yes girl gets dumped almost every time.

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Signs You Might Be a Clingy Girlfriend

If you are a clingy girlfriend, you are wearing your boyfriend out. It's stressful when someone won't give you your space or allow you to have much of your own identity. One a a man's biggest fears is loss of his freedom and nothing threatens his freedom as much as a clingy girlfriend. If you do any of the following you might want to focus on how to stop being a clingy girlfriend.

• You spend more time on his facebook page than your own. You border on stalking and harassment with questions like "who was that girl that posted blah blah blah". If you are regularly questioning your man about his Facebook status, you may be a clingy girlfriend.
• If you go odd places with him, like to pump gas, fix his buddies car, places where you aren't really needed. You want to go with him and you are hurt when you don't, you are too clingy for sure. Don't you have something to do? Wash your hair?
• If every time he gets a text or phone call and you have to know who it is, that is a sign. If you ask to check his phone or worse yet, snoop on him, that is a really really bad sign.
• If you know the exact time he goes to bed, eats, and gets up in the morning, is that really necessary? If you know this because you insist on constant contact, you are over board clingy.
• Do you ask him at least once a day when is he going to be home, when is he going to call and so forth and so on?
• Do you inquire about other women, such as who was that girl you just spoke to? Who was that woman you smiled at?
• Do you play 100 questions when he comes home from somewhere? Do you want to know who was there and who's girlfriend was there? Do you ask him did he talk to any girls? Shiver!

If you show 2 or more of the above signs you are a clingy girlfriend. There is an above average chance that your man will never feel safe enough to completely commit to you. You have got to stop being clingy for your sake just as much as his. It will drive you crazy. It will drive him crazy. His friends will talk about you and worse, tease him about you. Clingy Girlfriends actually drive everyone crazy.

Men love women who are fun and that know how to challenge them. A clingy woman isn't fun or challenging. A clingy woman will get cheated on first as well, every time. Be a woman men adore, not run screaming from.

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What Do Men Want in a Relationship

The first caution I have is this before I get into what men want in a relationship. Be sure he wants a relationship. Often we meet a man, and we want a relationship with him and because he keeps seeing us, we assume he also wants a relationship with us. This is not always the case. Men often keep women around as an option while waiting on the woman he wants a relationship with to come along. Sad but true, we all do this at some point. If you are wondering what men want in a relationship in hopes that if you give it to him, he will want a relationship, you have got it all wrong.

Men move into relationships naturally, not because you convinced him or behaved a certain way. It's attraction, usually emotional that moves them to a relationship. It's the woman they feel safe with, trusted, and accepted. For a man to feel this, he needs to know that the woman does not depend on him for all of her happiness. The woman trying to convince him into a relationship is showing him that she does depend on him for her happiness. He won't feel safe like this. He won't feel trusted and he certainly won't feel accepted.
What men want in a relationship I call the 3 A's: Acceptance, Appreciation and Affection.

Acceptance of who they are. They don't want to live in fear of a woman wanting to change them. It's happened to them many times already more than likely. A woman falls in love and then starts complaining about things she said nothing about in the beginning. She may think he drinks too much. She may think he goes out with the boys too much. She may start to buy him clothes and change how he dresses. The list goes on and on. Her complaints translate to him that he is not accepted.

Appreciation for what they do. Men don't always show love in the same way we do. We are different so to expect them to show love from a place of emotion is just not going to work. Men show it by the things they do for you. It may be changing a tire, mowing the grass, taking out the trash. Show appreciation for the good things they do in your life. Take the time to tell them and thank him for being a man.

Affection is another big thing when it comes to what men want in a relationship. They like to be desired. It wouldn't hurt to make a first move sometime. When you remove your affection, men notice. Don't remove your affection from a man. You can lump sex in with affection. Men don't have the outlets that we as women have for intimacy. We can be intimate with our girlfriends. Men connect more than you realize in the bedroom. They need this connection.

What men want in a relationship is simplicity. They crave a partner and commitment just as much as women do. I don't advocate becoming something you are not in order to please a man. There are though, certain qualities that some women have that seem to naturally propel men towards a commitment. There are women that just are naturally what men want in a relationship.

Men put women in one of three categories. A girl for now, a girl to have sex with or a girl they consider a relationship with. Which one are you?

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