Monday, April 27, 2009

Thoughts about Calling Men



Ok, we are all guilty. He said he was going to call and a few days go by without a word and what do we do? We pick up the phone and call him first. Bad move. You just gave up your power. You just sent the wrong message. You just lost the controls.

I struggle often still in a stable relationship with this calling thing. Boyfriend works out of town and usually as a rule calls everynight (I do not always answer by the way). If it starts getting later than the normal time I start getting antsy. Now although this is crazy I still do it. I have learned that I have to find something to do. Take a bubble bath, call a girlfriend, something to keep me from going to that crazy place a womans mind can go. He will call. I do know that if I was the caller in this relationship, he would have been long gone a long time ago.

Think long term. What is the end result you want to get? If he answers and you call you may get instant gratification, but that is not going to do you much good if you are maybe wanting more. Be the girl he has to work for. When he does call, don't be so available. Always be the first to end the call. Leave him wanting more. If and when the calls start becoming consistent, it does not hurt every so often to be too busy to talk or have plans for the evening and be unavailable. If he is a mentally healthy man, he will work for you. If he does not, my motto is NEXT.

Sunday, April 26, 2009

Dating Without Drama Take the Quiz

Dating without drama by Paige Parker is a great no nonsense guide to dating. Click the link to the right to take the quizz and see how you stack up in the dating world. Are you a drama dater or do you have them eating out of your palm. Paige also has a great message board where women can vent and get advice on men and dating.

Thursday, April 23, 2009

How I Got a Man to Call me First

Ok, lets face it. How many times have you had a great guy get your phone number only to never hear from him? Its happened to me and I am sure it has happened to you. In these days and time there are a lot of women out there doing the chasing and I think it has a lot of men getting lazy. They give you their number and tell you to call. I don't know about you, but I would rather not be the one initiating that first call.

I had met the man I now date online and yes he gave me his number. I really did not make a habit of giving mine out because sometimes they turn out to be stalkers or worse. I had a feeling about this guy though. I wanted to meet this one but I refused to call him. I put his number into my cell phone and created a plan.

Everyone is text messaging now. On a Sunday I went to a little bar and grill that I go to for Happy Hour during the week. I sent out a group text message to all my girlfriends that read something like "Hey girls I am at the rock, come have a cocktail" I added his name to the list. About 30 minutes later he called. He was a bit baffled and said who is this. I said who is this. He repeated my message and I laughed and said "ha got you to call me first" That told him I was not the type to call him first, and that I was also fun. He asked me out for the following Friday and the rest is history. So sometimes its ok to call, just be fun about it and play it smart.

Wednesday, April 22, 2009

How to Get Him to Commit and Go From Girlfriend to Wife

I recently read How to go from Girlfreind to Wife by Nicole Gaye. This book teaches you how to naturally lead a man to committ. No nagging or having the talk. Nicole talks mostly about how your attitude and how you can get a man to treat you the way you deserve to be treated. No tricks. There is great insight as to the best way to communicate with your man and not have him resenting you for it. How many times have you tried to communicate your feelings to have him act like a total jerk about it. In this book you will see how easy it can be to get your point and needs across and have him loving and respecting you for doing so.

Friday, April 17, 2009

Review coming soon

Soon I will be writing a review on How to go from Girlfriend to Wife by Nicole Gaye. I have read this book and it is by far one of the best I have read.

Thursday, April 16, 2009

My Review of Men Made Easy

Men Made Easy by Kara Oh. I recently purchased and read this book and I loved it. It also comes with a bonus book of How to Please Your Man in Bed which was interesting as well. This book reads easy and actually offers tons of insight into a mans mind. It makes it very clear how men relate to intimacy and how different this relating is from how we as women do it. This book offers insight to single, married, or women in relationships. After reading this book I have a new outlook on men for sure. It does not offer tricks or manipulating tactics, just straight into a man's mind and how they think. It does offer great communicating advice and skills. In the beginning the author starts out like a fairy tale and continues this theme throughout the book. At first I was skeptical of this, but she gets the information across with 5 stars in my opinion. I think this book can help any woman dramatically improve any relationship with these creatures we call men. You can understand how a man works and learn really how easy they are. Read Men Made Easy and learn how to get what you want and comminicate effectively.