Why Does He Keep Coming Back

There are many women that ask the question why does he keep coming back into my life?  If you care deeply for a man that comes and goes in and out of your life, it's not an easy road to walk.  You feel he must care because he keeps coming back, yet when he is gone, you are filled with doubts.  If he loves you why doesn't he stay?

If you aren't stressed by this behavior it's all good and fine, but when you long for more from him, more commitment, more time, just more in general, it becomes painful.  Many women allow these men to keep coming back because they think his feelings will grow.  It happens, but it is rare.

Men keep coming back because for the main point, you allow him too for starters.  It's easy for him.  If he gets lonely or wants company, there you are, ole faithful, waiting with open arms.  The thing is, he probably senses you want more, but are willing to settle for less just for the sake of his company.  This isn't the way to earn his respect though that is for sure.

Some men just aren't ready for a relationship or so they say.  They use this as an excuse for their come and go behavior and we buy it.  If a relationship is what you want, why spend time with a man who doesn't want the same things in life as you do?  Usually man translation of "I don't want a relationship", really means "I don't want a relationship with you".

Sure he cares for you or else he wouldn'tkeep coming back.  You are comfortable for him.  If he isn't sticking around though, trust me, he doesn't care enough.

Men and Sex - What He Really Wants

When it comes to men and sex, women want to know what turns men on, what do men really want in bed. It may very well surprise you. I know a lot of women who attempt to be these Sex Goddesses, willing to do anything to make men happy in the bedroom. They also hope this will cause the man to deeper connect and attach. Many women truly believe that the way to a man's heart is through his penis. While there may be some truth in this, it may not be the direction of what you are thinking.

First we all know men are visual. A visual can turn a man on in seconds, no doubt. Let's think about porn here for a minute though. In porn, the one who is or is pretending to have the most fun is the woman. She is screaming, moaning and just loving what ever act the man is engaged in. This should be your first clue of what turns men on. To please a woman and have her totally present and enjoying herself is what turns him on and that is one of the main things a man wants in bed.

A man doesn't want a woman having sex with him out of obligation or just to please him. He wants her to really want him. He wants to be desired. He wants to know he has the ability to bring her great pleasure. This is the key to men and sex and what they really want. If you want to turn men on, try making that first move. Try telling him how much you want him or desire him. This will thrill him way more than any stellar performance you could put on in the bedroom. Enthusiasm goes a long long ways.

Men also as a general rule aren't that great at true intimacy outside of the bedroom. Most men feel most connected intimately through sex. For many men, this is their only intimate outlet. They need this to thrive in a relationship. If you are cutting him off, or rationing it out, you are emotionally hurting him.

Now I won't lie and tell you men have no erotic fantasies, they do. Almost all men secretly want more than one woman. It's just the way they are wired. This doesn't mean he will be unfaithful though. It just means he is a man. To think that your man's penis shrivals up when around other women is unrealistic. It's best to embrace his masculine nature as opposed to being threatened by it. Learn to understand men and sex.

When it comes to men and sex, they really aren't that complicated. If they feel you are happy with them sexually, this is what men really want in bed. An enthusiastic, involved partner.

Why He Stopped Giving Compliments

How To Make a Man Happy

What makes a man happy?  Most women searching for this answer on the web are hoping to find something they can do or a certain way to act that makes him happy.  Some search for ways to make their men happier in the bedroom thinking this is a way to make him happy.  It doesn't hurt, I will give you that.  It's not the key to a man's happiness though.  The key to a man's happiness does not lie in what you can do for him, or what or how much you give to him.  It's more about what he can give to you that makes him happy.

I am going to share a little story about my friend Dee.  Dee is a pleaser.  We all love a pleaser, they make life so much easier don't they.  Does all their giving though make you happy?  Don't you really feel happy when you are the giver?  Men are no exception to this rule.  Dee I suspect even looks for small reasons and things to give her man and I must say, he is now drifting away and she doesn't get it at all.

I went with Dee to a cookout at her guys house.  Dee was calling offering to bring something, or stop by the store.  He said he had it covered.  Then she thought ahead.  They might run out of beer.  She stopped and bought a case to take.  We got to his house and she pulls out a bag that I didn't know was there.  Inside were some odds and ends, cooking utensils, extra ashtrays, just stuff.  She thought these things would make him happy.  

He didn't ask her for anything, he just invited her to a cookout.  These extras were in his mind sort of telling him "I know you said you had it covered, but just in case".  If she wanted to truly make him happy the best thing she could have done was to show up and enjoy herself and let him know how much she appreciated it.  Appreciation is huge to men by the way, a key in how to make a man happy.

Here comes another issue with the above situation.  She always brings things over, does things.  In her mind she is giving and then when he doesn't give back, she is disappointed.  Next thing you know she may be complaining and wondering why he doesn't do the same for her.  Resentment created by your own hands.

If you want to make know how to make a man happy, consider letting him make you happy instead.  That's all men really want, to be able to make you happy.  That is the secret to how to make a man happy.  When it begins to seem like work to make you happy, the thrill is gone.

How To Keep Your Man Happy - A Huge Key

So, how to keep your man happy?  Many come to me asking for advice as to what they can do to keep their man happy.  Many are thinking along the lines of what can they do for him or give to him that will make him happy.  They are missing the key by a mile.  Doing things for him or giving him gifts does not necessarily make a man happy.  That is what makes a woman happy.  Men really aren't wired like we are.  Over giving or over compensating can have a negative affect on a man.  He begins to feel obligated.  This is often when over time you will hear the man say something along the lines of "You deserve better".  By over giving, you are setting yourself up for this famous line.

A huge key in keeping a man happy is in appreciation.  Show him and tell him you appreciate him.  Not by giving back to him, but by simply appreciating him, even in the simplest ways. I think often we let the little things slide.  Then he stops doing the little things and we are left searching for a way to get it back.  Then you express verbally the little things are missing.  This just reinforces to him that he can't make you happy.  Oh the vicious cycle begins here.  Then comes the distance, then you asking even more what's wrong, him feeling even more he can't make you happy.  The fastest way not keep your man happy is for him to feel he can't make you happy.

I got an email the other day from a young lady telling me her boyfriend just didn't do the little things he used to do.  He no longer opened her car door, she hadn't gotten flowers in months, he never sent her thinking about you text and the list went on and on.  I asked her had she ever mentioned to him that she really liked the fact that he opened her car door or told him it made her feel really warm inside.  Of course she hadn't.  Her response to his thinking about you texts was always "thinking about you too".  Had she told him instead that she loved his texts and how they enhanced her day, chances are slimmer that they would have stopped. Men not only love feeling appreciated, they need it to thrive in a relationship. 

When I show my guy I appreciate him, I swear he grows 3 inches taller.  He beams and gets this satisfied look on his face.  The result, he never stops doing those amazing little things.  We need these amazing little things ourselves to thrive in a relationship.  Inspire him to give you what you need.  Tell him next time he does something simple for you.  The rewards are quite worth it.  This is a key on how to keep your man happy in a relationship.  Men really are easy.

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