Thursday, May 27, 2010

Be His Dream Girl

Feminine grace and elegance is a very desirable quality in a woman, the main quality to be his dream girl. It inspires men to leave fears behind and commit to a woman. A woman with feminine grace and elegance is beautiful in every aspect of her life. The way she walks, talks, or even brushes her hair. She has little trouble attracting men towards her. It is not in the way she dresses, or even how pretty she is.

When men talk about this woman, the women men adore, they usually say "there is just something about her". She radiates warmth like a campfire, and she is peaceful. She give off the vibe that she truly likes and values men. This woman usually has an unshakeable confidence level and can disarm a man without really trying. This woman will be his dream girl.

The woman that men adore is not scared of rocking the boat. She is true to herself and has the ability to be vulnerable yet strong. She will not stay in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. When she chooses to stay, her man knows he is special. Men love to feel special.

Men really do want a woman to spend forever with. The dream girls and women men adore are far and few between. Just ask one, he will tell you. Dream girls are rare. They are more used to the nagging women who want to talk everything out. When a man meets this dream girl, he does not want to let her go.

Learning to be a dream girl or the woman men adore takes skills and practice. It takes confidence and the willingness to take a chance and do something different. If what you are currently doing in your relationship is not working why not take that risk and make some positive changes.

Wednesday, May 26, 2010

Rules for Texting Guys

The rules for texting guys and calling guys are the same. Less is more for the most part. It is really the guys role to do the initiating, and if you are texting him more than he is texting you, you have broken a huge rule. Men really do like a bit of a challenge and if you are Miss Texting Queen, you are not offering up much of a challenge. You are depriving him of his role and it causes an imbalance in the relationship.

If you text a guy and he does not respond, don't text him again. It sends of signals of desperation and you are making him a priority while he is only making you an option. We often think, oh maybe he did not get our message, well don't kid yourself, he probably did. He could be busy, timing could be wrong or he could just not be into you. If you will sit on your fingers for a few days, it usually pays off. Then the guy wonders, hmmm, where is she, I have not heard from her. This usually causes him to reach out to you.

When he does text you, one of the rules for texting guys is not to respond immediately. Wait a couple hours. Don't be so anxious. Easier said than done. It is the mysterious girl that gets the guys attention and by not jumping through hoops when he texts, you create this mystery.

Until you are in an established relationship, it is best to let him do the initiating. Even then, less is always more. If I were to sum up the rules for texting guys, it would be this, when texting guys, less is always more.

Text messaging is a huge tool that can be used to build attraction and get and keep a guys interest. It pays to learn to use this media to your advantage. Turn up the heat, light that spark.

Thursday, May 13, 2010

Not All Men Are Jerks

Men are taught to apologize for their weaknesses, women for their strengths.

Do we often have unrealistic expectations of men and how a relationship is supposed to be? I think we often do. Learning to accept others as they are can be the key to happiness. Do you toss your best friend aside even though she does some things that irritate you? I doubt it. We accept the flaws of others, we all have them, so are men excluded in this concept? Are they not human too?

Men are different, that is a reality, they are raised to hold things in, not show emotions, deal with problems on their own. Their communication techniques, levels of intimacy, need for space, etc..., are not the same as ours, never has been, never will be. They have a right to these differences whether they suit our needs or not.

How many times have you stewed in your life time because a man did not behave the way you thought he was supposed to. Maybe he forgot to call, maybe he did not take out the trash, whatever. One of our biggest frustrations with men is our inability to get them to do what we think they are supposed to do. We use "shoulds" and "supposed to's" as if we were the supreme beings in a relationship. The key to getting along with men well in general is to accept the answer to the question I asked myself. "Who the hell gave women the right to set the rules, to make their needs more important, and to decide how men should or are supposed to act or respond in a relationship?" Is that really fair? No.

Men have a right to be themselves. They have needs too! I think we as women sometimes get so caught up in what we deserve, what we feel entitled to that we miss the big picture. They are an equal part of the relationship. Men consistently say the one reason they hesitate to get into relationships is because they do not feel they can live up to our rules and expectations. Have we become like that? Have we lost sight of the ability to see men as who they really are, because they may not meet all of our expectations?

We have seen that trying to change men often means losing them. It's more effective to find ways to respond to his differences that we can feel more comfortable with. By lessening his importance, his differences can seem less irritating. After all, our happiness shouldn't be too dependent on what we get from him. That doesn't mean we should sell ourselves short, but is it time for us to accept that men don't have to change because we have a specific image of what we want. Men don't deserve to be labeled as jerks because they don't do things the way we want them to.

Tuesday, May 11, 2010

Bob Grant's The Women Men Adore

I have just read Bob Grant's book "The Women Men Adore" for the second time. Again I was amazed at all the knowledge packed into that book about male/female dynamics. I have read many a book on dating and relationships but The Women Men Adore is by far one of the best. It does not offer manipulation tactics or trickery to get what you want and need out of a relationship. Instead it offers insight into how men and women are different and how these differences can work together.

Men are not mind readers. They don't know what we need or want if we don't show them. Notice I did not say tell them. Men don't really listen to words, unless you are very skilled at feeling statements.

Bob Grant in the Women Men Adore explains in great detail what and how to communicate with the men in your life. He shares success stories and examples and goes into the whys of it all. How many times have you found yourself asking "Why" when it comes to a man?

I think this is a must read for every woman. It changed the way I relate to men, and how they relate to me. If every woman read The Women Men Adore, the men out there would not stand a chance.