Thursday, August 26, 2010

5 Stupid Mistakes Women Make with Men

Mistake #1, you get dialing happy with your cell phone. First off a man knows it is his responsibility to make the phone calls in the beginning. He is the hunter. If you are initiating contact, making suggestions as to your next outing you are taking away his game. If he goes a few days without calling and you shoot out a text, you are telling him you are ready to invest more into it than he is. This is not really attractive.

Mistake #2, you ask about his past relationships. While you have every right to know if she is going to show up at your door with an ax, asking too many questions about his past relationships shows insecurity. He knows you are going to try to prove you are different than the ex, that's a given. Do it gracefully though by just being your wonderful fabulous self. You really don't need to give him a reminder to compare you to his ex. It may backfire on you and send him running back to her, leaving you wondering again why men disappear.

Mistake #3, you start behaving like a girlfriend before he has even decided that is where he wants to be with you. This means expecting a certain calling pattern, expecting him to put you first, just having all of these relationship expectations way to soon. We as women do tend to think more in the future, but trust me, men don't. Understand that his pace may not match yours. Don't pick up that girlfriend crown, let him hand it to you, or better yet, let him place it on your head. Acting like his girlfriend is a one of the huge mistakes women make.

Mistake #4, you put your life on hold and go into waiting mode. You wait for him to fit you in, you wait for him to call. If you find yourself in the bathroom with your phone within reach, you have gone too far. He should be the one waiting for you to fit him in. Women are the selectors in a relationship and so often we have the attitude of "pick me, pick me". He should be hoping you will pick him. A pick me attitude is another one of the big mistakes that women make.

Mistake # 5, showing him you like him by giving gifts, cards, silly text messages, etc. Again, in the beginning this is his job as a man. A true attraction killer is the woman who is giving in order to win a man's affection. It you want to win his affection, start by letting him win yours. If you are the primary giver, he will become one of the men to disappear. When a man is into you, he wants to be the one giving.

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