This uncertainty is painful and frustrating. You may have a great date, the passion is out the roof, the connection feels so strong. Then poof, he vanishes for days or even weeks at a time, then comes back again. What on earth is he doing and why.
He could be keeping you on the back burner. He could be just freaking out because he doesn't want to get in a relationship or he thinks he doesn't want to. One of the main reasons why men blow hot and cold though is because we allow them to do so. We take him back as we are swooned by his words when he comes back from disappearing. A man instinctively knows this, so it tells him it's ok to blow hot and cold. If you tolerate it, he has no reason to change.
A man that blows hot and cold very well may be a man who will not be there for you when the chips are down. If he can't remain consistent during good, normal times, what will he be like if the going gets tough? Will he leave you to deal with issues alone only to resurface when things have straightened out?
If you find yourself asking or nagging him about this behavior you are wasting your breath. This doesn't work on the hot and cold man and actually can cause him to be more extreme with it. Men avoid emotions like the plague. If you ask him or keep bringing it up, he sees it as talking about feelings. Ask any man does he want to talk about his feelings. He is going to say NO, 9 times out of 10.
Trust me, he already knows he is not treating you right, he doesn't need you to remind him. That is playing more of a mother role to him and men don't fall in love with their mothers. The best way to deal with men that blow hot and cold is to step away, pull back when he goes cold. Don't let him back in so easy. This tells him you recognize his bad behavior without saying a word.
The worst thing about men that blow hot and cold is you never know where you stand. You struggle with feelings of insecurities between dates with him. You don't know if he loves you or not. When he is with you, you feel he loves you, when you aren't, you just aren't sure if he loves you not. You might as well play that game he loves me, he loves me not with a daisy.
Why He Disappeared!
Can a man that blows hot and cold love you? Can this emotionally guarded man fall in love?
Why He Disappeared!
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