The first thing I want to stress here before I go into the tips is a simple concept. Be polite, be courteous. There is no need to ignore or be rude. Some say just ignore the men that don't appeal to you, I say at least send them a nice thanks but no thanks. Call it being raised in the south, just do it. Most of those guys on the other end are human and the more you keep that in your mind the better you will get at this email thing. So rule number one.
1. Answer all emails. If a guy sends you a lame message like "hey sexy" and nothing else, answer it anyway unless it's sexual or vulgar. He may be a diamond in the rough, you won't know if you don't give him the benefit of the doubt. Not all guys have a silver tongue.
2. If a guy mails you that you don't find appealing, reply a polite no thanks. This is just common courtesy. If he gets annoying, just block him from there.
3. Do send the first email. Online dating is not real life, they can't see you so the first email is like winking or smiling.
4. Be short in the first email. No novels please. Say something about the profile. Be light and upbeat, no more than 3 sentences. Keep it to 3 or you will be desperate daisy.
5. If a man says something that you like in an email or sends a well written email, thank him for it. Tell him briefly what was different about it. This does wonders for men, makes them want to put an even better foot forward. Think of it as rewarding Pavlov's dog if you must.
6. When they drop off the face of the earth and stop mailing, don't mail him again and again. Let him go. He may or may not be back. It's Next for you though woman, keep moving down the line. Never.
7. Paint visual pictures in those online emails. Men are visual. Amazing just what a harmless word can do to create some sexual tension or attraction. The word "sweat" for example. Use it innocently of course but be aware it can be powerful when you use these sorts of visual ques. Sweating in the sun for example. Sweating in front of a grill. You get my drift.
8. Take your time answering the emails. It doesn't need to be answered as soon as you get it. If you have it as a phone app, take it off. It's best to just log on every couple of days and devote a certain amount of time daily to answering and sending emails. It helps keep it under control and helps to naturally pace you.
9. Light flirting and banter is good. No sexual implications, unless sex is what you are after. Keep your emails clean, but fun.
10. Should he email you something slightly sexual, don't jump down his throat. What man is dating to not have sex really? Boys will be boys. Just cut him off at the pass and go ahead with conversation. Ignore it and continue and see if he does it again. If he does it again, call him out, tell him thanks but no thanks, but understand guys are going to do it. Don't take offense.
Your emailing skills and techniques are critical. Another good reason to answer all emails is the practice. The more men you correspond with and the more men you practice and play nicely with, the better you will get at this. The better you get, the more confident and comfortable you will feel with it. When Mr. Right does come along, you will be so much better prepared.
If you are tired of all the wrong men writing you and all the interesting ones ignoring you or disappearing, you might want to get some help
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