I don't need a man. This is becoming a common term today among women. We are more independent, our lives more balanced and yes it may be true we don't need a man, to survive that is. We also hear the longer version of this statement which is "I don't need a man to complete me". This of course is also true, to a degree. I think if we are truthful with ourselves, the women that say this statement generally are the one's that don't have a man in their lives. I also think it's safe to say that women with this attitude have been hurt in the past more cases than not. This is a common phrase among women who have just suffered a painful break up.
I agree there are some men we just don't need. The abusive ones. The controlling ones, the ones who have not quite grown up to name a few.. No we don't need those men. Those types of men screw with our identity and wound our self esteem. Those are often the men that lead us into the attitude of "I don't need a man". I like the term I am happy with or without a man much better than "I don't need a man". Yes we can be happy and yes when we are happy, we make better partners. No we can't depend on a man to make us happy and yes happy comes from inside us first and foremost. But not needing a man. I am not in total agreement with this.
A good man, a fellow happy man, one that brings me up, accepts, loves, and adds to my life, yes I need him. Yes he does add a completeness to my life. This is not to be confused with he actually completes me. He adds to the completion.
This not needing a man attitude may be the one thing standing between you and finding a deeper love with a man. On a subconscious level, you are reinforcing your single hood. That law of attraction thing. Your thoughts do create your world. I have been told the Universe doesn't really hear the negative words such as the word don't. So in essence you could be screaming out to the universe, I do need a man.
On a more concsious level though, you are sending a signal with this attitude to the men you encounter on a day to day basis. If you are one of these women that wears this attitude proudly on her sleeve, you are repelling men. No human wants to hear "I don't need you". It feels cold. It doesn't make men feel good. Men are attracted to us by how we make them feel. They want a woman who makes them feel good. Men can feel this attitude from miles away. The woman who makes him feel warm and welcome is the woman who won't be alone for long. The woman with the attitude that "I love men", fairs far better than the one who goes through life with the not needing a man attitude.
If you are one of these women, men will see you as a ball buster. A ball buster is not in tune with her feminine elegance and often remains alone. It's the same as the men who have similiar attitudes. How do they make you feel? Do you want to spend time with these men who don't value women? I seriously doubt it.
It's often our ego saying we don't need a man. It's easier to say this and justify it to ourselves and others. Women who claim to need a man are often looked upon as weak. We are social beings, it's a fact. Why is it so hard to admit that we need other human beings and yes there are two genders of this species. Can we not go back and embrace our feminine roots and proudly claim that yes we do need a man?
Are you about to give up on love? My friend Amy Waterman can help you. Real Women, Real Love.
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I agree there are some men we just don't need. The abusive ones. The controlling ones, the ones who have not quite grown up to name a few.. No we don't need those men. Those types of men screw with our identity and wound our self esteem. Those are often the men that lead us into the attitude of "I don't need a man". I like the term I am happy with or without a man much better than "I don't need a man". Yes we can be happy and yes when we are happy, we make better partners. No we can't depend on a man to make us happy and yes happy comes from inside us first and foremost. But not needing a man. I am not in total agreement with this.
A good man, a fellow happy man, one that brings me up, accepts, loves, and adds to my life, yes I need him. Yes he does add a completeness to my life. This is not to be confused with he actually completes me. He adds to the completion.
This not needing a man attitude may be the one thing standing between you and finding a deeper love with a man. On a subconscious level, you are reinforcing your single hood. That law of attraction thing. Your thoughts do create your world. I have been told the Universe doesn't really hear the negative words such as the word don't. So in essence you could be screaming out to the universe, I do need a man.
On a more concsious level though, you are sending a signal with this attitude to the men you encounter on a day to day basis. If you are one of these women that wears this attitude proudly on her sleeve, you are repelling men. No human wants to hear "I don't need you". It feels cold. It doesn't make men feel good. Men are attracted to us by how we make them feel. They want a woman who makes them feel good. Men can feel this attitude from miles away. The woman who makes him feel warm and welcome is the woman who won't be alone for long. The woman with the attitude that "I love men", fairs far better than the one who goes through life with the not needing a man attitude.
If you are one of these women, men will see you as a ball buster. A ball buster is not in tune with her feminine elegance and often remains alone. It's the same as the men who have similiar attitudes. How do they make you feel? Do you want to spend time with these men who don't value women? I seriously doubt it.
It's often our ego saying we don't need a man. It's easier to say this and justify it to ourselves and others. Women who claim to need a man are often looked upon as weak. We are social beings, it's a fact. Why is it so hard to admit that we need other human beings and yes there are two genders of this species. Can we not go back and embrace our feminine roots and proudly claim that yes we do need a man?
Are you about to give up on love? My friend Amy Waterman can help you. Real Women, Real Love.
.
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