If I had to sum up the biggest mistake women make in dating in one sentence it would be this. We start making him a priority when we are still just an option. In other words we start acting like the girlfriend way before he has decided he wants us in that role. We start expecting contact, expecting him to do certain things and when he doesn't we freak. We start wanting to control the outcome. We can't really.
So how do we start trying to control the outcome? We may start to initiate contact when we haven't heard from him for a few days. If he does not reply to our texts, we text again and sometimes again. This sends him the signal loud and clear, we are way more into him than he is us.
Another way we make this mistake in dating is to start asking questions. Why didn't you call. Are you going to call? Where do you see this going? Are you looking for a relationship? Things like that. When we ask these questions we are telling him loud and clear he has the power to dictate the terms of how this dating thing plays out. We are seeking reassurance from the man and he sees this as insecurity and feels he has to validate us. Not good, not good at all.
Another mistake women make in dating which also applies to the option/priority rule is to start giving to him. We offer to do things for him to make his life better hoping this will make him like us more. We may do his laundry, cook for him, go out of our way for him. This is a huge attraction killer. This is behavior that should be reserved for a man that has made up a priority, not a man that has taken us on a few dates. Stop worrying about if he likes you or not, let him wonder if you like him instead.
My inbox is full every day with women who make these and many other mistakes in dating. Stop spinning your wheels with things that don't work and start learning what does. Learn how to create, and keep that attraction alive and burning. It's really not that hard, be the woman he adores.
Friday, June 11, 2010
Friday, June 4, 2010
Signs He is Into You and Ready to Commit
When a man is into a woman, he shows it in his actions. He may shower you with pretty words, but if his actions do not support his words, be leery. Men are known for telling us women what we want to hear. Pay little attention to this, don't hang onto his every word, watch him instead.
Steady communication is a sure sign he is into you. If he calls, or texts regularly and does not go missing in action for days chances are good he is moving forward. If a man goes missing on you or slows down on his communication, your radar should go up.
If he is into you, he will make sure and secure time with you in advance. He will not wait until the last minute for a Saturday night date. When he is into you, he wants to make sure you spend time with him and he will do what it takes to make this happen. Beware the man that leaves this up to last minute.
Does he take you around family and friends. Including you in his life and letting you be a part of it is one of the big signs he is into you. A man that adores you will be proud of you and want to show you off. He will invite you out with his friends and take you to family outings. If a man does not include you in these things, you very well may be his Miss Right Now and not his forever girl.
Men look for a lot of things when picking the woman they want to commit to. Find out what drives them towards commitment and marriage. Learn how to be his priority, not his option. Exchange the girlfriend crown for a ring
Steady communication is a sure sign he is into you. If he calls, or texts regularly and does not go missing in action for days chances are good he is moving forward. If a man goes missing on you or slows down on his communication, your radar should go up.
If he is into you, he will make sure and secure time with you in advance. He will not wait until the last minute for a Saturday night date. When he is into you, he wants to make sure you spend time with him and he will do what it takes to make this happen. Beware the man that leaves this up to last minute.
Does he take you around family and friends. Including you in his life and letting you be a part of it is one of the big signs he is into you. A man that adores you will be proud of you and want to show you off. He will invite you out with his friends and take you to family outings. If a man does not include you in these things, you very well may be his Miss Right Now and not his forever girl.
Men look for a lot of things when picking the woman they want to commit to. Find out what drives them towards commitment and marriage. Learn how to be his priority, not his option. Exchange the girlfriend crown for a ring
Wednesday, June 2, 2010
Why He Won't Commit
A man has to feel desired for who he is. He wants to feel it's his uniqueness that won you over. Often we start out pushing way too soon, after a few dates we are wanting to know where this is going. This tells him you have an open position to fill and anyone will do. It does not make him feel special. He needs to feel special to commit, not just some guy to put in a tux and walk down the isle with and live happily ever after.
When women get in a hurry to secure the commitment it tells men, "She is insecure and needs to fill a void. She can't be alone". Her desire to secure a relationship has nothing to do with me personnaly. This is why you should always let him lead. Let him think it is his idea. He wants to know you value your selection of a man and who you commit to. This tells him that he is special and ignites a desire to commit. Why he won't commit is often because he does not feel that special.
The way to make him think it is his idea is to keep some distance. It causes a man to fixate on you. The reason is 9 out of 10 women assume the role of girlfriend after a month or two. They start trying to control the outcome of the relationship. They call if they have not heard from him, they try to lock down time with him, basically wearing the girlfriend crown long before he has placed it on our heads.
This is what causes men to back off. They have an instinct to protect their freedom. Remember it's women who want to discuss a commitment. Men do not. They have to accidently just fall into it. They value what they have to work for. If you are just a lay down, meaning easy to get, he will not value you and will not commit.
It takes a lot of patience to lead a man to commitment. Even the most phobic of men can be led to commit, but it takes a special woman to do this. Not a yes girl. Don't be the woman who watches her man drift away and eventually wind up married to some other girl. It happens all the time, he says he is not ready, then next thing you know he is with someone new. Don't let this happen to you, be his dream girl, not his doormat.
When women get in a hurry to secure the commitment it tells men, "She is insecure and needs to fill a void. She can't be alone". Her desire to secure a relationship has nothing to do with me personnaly. This is why you should always let him lead. Let him think it is his idea. He wants to know you value your selection of a man and who you commit to. This tells him that he is special and ignites a desire to commit. Why he won't commit is often because he does not feel that special.
The way to make him think it is his idea is to keep some distance. It causes a man to fixate on you. The reason is 9 out of 10 women assume the role of girlfriend after a month or two. They start trying to control the outcome of the relationship. They call if they have not heard from him, they try to lock down time with him, basically wearing the girlfriend crown long before he has placed it on our heads.
This is what causes men to back off. They have an instinct to protect their freedom. Remember it's women who want to discuss a commitment. Men do not. They have to accidently just fall into it. They value what they have to work for. If you are just a lay down, meaning easy to get, he will not value you and will not commit.
It takes a lot of patience to lead a man to commitment. Even the most phobic of men can be led to commit, but it takes a special woman to do this. Not a yes girl. Don't be the woman who watches her man drift away and eventually wind up married to some other girl. It happens all the time, he says he is not ready, then next thing you know he is with someone new. Don't let this happen to you, be his dream girl, not his doormat.
Thursday, May 27, 2010
Be His Dream Girl
Feminine grace and elegance is a very desirable quality in a woman, the main quality to be his dream girl. It inspires men to leave fears behind and commit to a woman. A woman with feminine grace and elegance is beautiful in every aspect of her life. The way she walks, talks, or even brushes her hair. She has little trouble attracting men towards her. It is not in the way she dresses, or even how pretty she is.
When men talk about this woman, the women men adore, they usually say "there is just something about her". She radiates warmth like a campfire, and she is peaceful. She give off the vibe that she truly likes and values men. This woman usually has an unshakeable confidence level and can disarm a man without really trying. This woman will be his dream girl.
The woman that men adore is not scared of rocking the boat. She is true to herself and has the ability to be vulnerable yet strong. She will not stay in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. When she chooses to stay, her man knows he is special. Men love to feel special.
Men really do want a woman to spend forever with. The dream girls and women men adore are far and few between. Just ask one, he will tell you. Dream girls are rare. They are more used to the nagging women who want to talk everything out. When a man meets this dream girl, he does not want to let her go.
Learning to be a dream girl or the woman men adore takes skills and practice. It takes confidence and the willingness to take a chance and do something different. If what you are currently doing in your relationship is not working why not take that risk and make some positive changes.
When men talk about this woman, the women men adore, they usually say "there is just something about her". She radiates warmth like a campfire, and she is peaceful. She give off the vibe that she truly likes and values men. This woman usually has an unshakeable confidence level and can disarm a man without really trying. This woman will be his dream girl.
The woman that men adore is not scared of rocking the boat. She is true to herself and has the ability to be vulnerable yet strong. She will not stay in a relationship just for the sake of being in a relationship. When she chooses to stay, her man knows he is special. Men love to feel special.
Men really do want a woman to spend forever with. The dream girls and women men adore are far and few between. Just ask one, he will tell you. Dream girls are rare. They are more used to the nagging women who want to talk everything out. When a man meets this dream girl, he does not want to let her go.
Learning to be a dream girl or the woman men adore takes skills and practice. It takes confidence and the willingness to take a chance and do something different. If what you are currently doing in your relationship is not working why not take that risk and make some positive changes.
Wednesday, May 26, 2010
Rules for Texting Guys
The rules for texting guys and calling guys are the same. Less is more for the most part. It is really the guys role to do the initiating, and if you are texting him more than he is texting you, you have broken a huge rule. Men really do like a bit of a challenge and if you are Miss Texting Queen, you are not offering up much of a challenge. You are depriving him of his role and it causes an imbalance in the relationship.
If you text a guy and he does not respond, don't text him again. It sends of signals of desperation and you are making him a priority while he is only making you an option. We often think, oh maybe he did not get our message, well don't kid yourself, he probably did. He could be busy, timing could be wrong or he could just not be into you. If you will sit on your fingers for a few days, it usually pays off. Then the guy wonders, hmmm, where is she, I have not heard from her. This usually causes him to reach out to you.
When he does text you, one of the rules for texting guys is not to respond immediately. Wait a couple hours. Don't be so anxious. Easier said than done. It is the mysterious girl that gets the guys attention and by not jumping through hoops when he texts, you create this mystery.
Until you are in an established relationship, it is best to let him do the initiating. Even then, less is always more. If I were to sum up the rules for texting guys, it would be this, when texting guys, less is always more.
Text messaging is a huge tool that can be used to build attraction and get and keep a guys interest. It pays to learn to use this media to your advantage. Turn up the heat, light that spark.
If you text a guy and he does not respond, don't text him again. It sends of signals of desperation and you are making him a priority while he is only making you an option. We often think, oh maybe he did not get our message, well don't kid yourself, he probably did. He could be busy, timing could be wrong or he could just not be into you. If you will sit on your fingers for a few days, it usually pays off. Then the guy wonders, hmmm, where is she, I have not heard from her. This usually causes him to reach out to you.
When he does text you, one of the rules for texting guys is not to respond immediately. Wait a couple hours. Don't be so anxious. Easier said than done. It is the mysterious girl that gets the guys attention and by not jumping through hoops when he texts, you create this mystery.
Until you are in an established relationship, it is best to let him do the initiating. Even then, less is always more. If I were to sum up the rules for texting guys, it would be this, when texting guys, less is always more.
Text messaging is a huge tool that can be used to build attraction and get and keep a guys interest. It pays to learn to use this media to your advantage. Turn up the heat, light that spark.
Thursday, May 13, 2010
Not All Men Are Jerks
Men are taught to apologize for their weaknesses, women for their strengths.
Do we often have unrealistic expectations of men and how a relationship is supposed to be? I think we often do. Learning to accept others as they are can be the key to happiness. Do you toss your best friend aside even though she does some things that irritate you? I doubt it. We accept the flaws of others, we all have them, so are men excluded in this concept? Are they not human too?
Men are different, that is a reality, they are raised to hold things in, not show emotions, deal with problems on their own. Their communication techniques, levels of intimacy, need for space, etc..., are not the same as ours, never has been, never will be. They have a right to these differences whether they suit our needs or not.
How many times have you stewed in your life time because a man did not behave the way you thought he was supposed to. Maybe he forgot to call, maybe he did not take out the trash, whatever. One of our biggest frustrations with men is our inability to get them to do what we think they are supposed to do. We use "shoulds" and "supposed to's" as if we were the supreme beings in a relationship. The key to getting along with men well in general is to accept the answer to the question I asked myself. "Who the hell gave women the right to set the rules, to make their needs more important, and to decide how men should or are supposed to act or respond in a relationship?" Is that really fair? No.
Men have a right to be themselves. They have needs too! I think we as women sometimes get so caught up in what we deserve, what we feel entitled to that we miss the big picture. They are an equal part of the relationship. Men consistently say the one reason they hesitate to get into relationships is because they do not feel they can live up to our rules and expectations. Have we become like that? Have we lost sight of the ability to see men as who they really are, because they may not meet all of our expectations?
We have seen that trying to change men often means losing them. It's more effective to find ways to respond to his differences that we can feel more comfortable with. By lessening his importance, his differences can seem less irritating. After all, our happiness shouldn't be too dependent on what we get from him. That doesn't mean we should sell ourselves short, but is it time for us to accept that men don't have to change because we have a specific image of what we want. Men don't deserve to be labeled as jerks because they don't do things the way we want them to.
Do we often have unrealistic expectations of men and how a relationship is supposed to be? I think we often do. Learning to accept others as they are can be the key to happiness. Do you toss your best friend aside even though she does some things that irritate you? I doubt it. We accept the flaws of others, we all have them, so are men excluded in this concept? Are they not human too?
Men are different, that is a reality, they are raised to hold things in, not show emotions, deal with problems on their own. Their communication techniques, levels of intimacy, need for space, etc..., are not the same as ours, never has been, never will be. They have a right to these differences whether they suit our needs or not.
How many times have you stewed in your life time because a man did not behave the way you thought he was supposed to. Maybe he forgot to call, maybe he did not take out the trash, whatever. One of our biggest frustrations with men is our inability to get them to do what we think they are supposed to do. We use "shoulds" and "supposed to's" as if we were the supreme beings in a relationship. The key to getting along with men well in general is to accept the answer to the question I asked myself. "Who the hell gave women the right to set the rules, to make their needs more important, and to decide how men should or are supposed to act or respond in a relationship?" Is that really fair? No.
Men have a right to be themselves. They have needs too! I think we as women sometimes get so caught up in what we deserve, what we feel entitled to that we miss the big picture. They are an equal part of the relationship. Men consistently say the one reason they hesitate to get into relationships is because they do not feel they can live up to our rules and expectations. Have we become like that? Have we lost sight of the ability to see men as who they really are, because they may not meet all of our expectations?
We have seen that trying to change men often means losing them. It's more effective to find ways to respond to his differences that we can feel more comfortable with. By lessening his importance, his differences can seem less irritating. After all, our happiness shouldn't be too dependent on what we get from him. That doesn't mean we should sell ourselves short, but is it time for us to accept that men don't have to change because we have a specific image of what we want. Men don't deserve to be labeled as jerks because they don't do things the way we want them to.
Tuesday, May 11, 2010
Bob Grant's The Women Men Adore
I have just read Bob Grant's book "The Women Men Adore" for the second time. Again I was amazed at all the knowledge packed into that book about male/female dynamics. I have read many a book on dating and relationships but The Women Men Adore is by far one of the best. It does not offer manipulation tactics or trickery to get what you want and need out of a relationship. Instead it offers insight into how men and women are different and how these differences can work together.
Men are not mind readers. They don't know what we need or want if we don't show them. Notice I did not say tell them. Men don't really listen to words, unless you are very skilled at feeling statements.
Bob Grant in the Women Men Adore explains in great detail what and how to communicate with the men in your life. He shares success stories and examples and goes into the whys of it all. How many times have you found yourself asking "Why" when it comes to a man?
I think this is a must read for every woman. It changed the way I relate to men, and how they relate to me. If every woman read The Women Men Adore, the men out there would not stand a chance.
Men are not mind readers. They don't know what we need or want if we don't show them. Notice I did not say tell them. Men don't really listen to words, unless you are very skilled at feeling statements.
Bob Grant in the Women Men Adore explains in great detail what and how to communicate with the men in your life. He shares success stories and examples and goes into the whys of it all. How many times have you found yourself asking "Why" when it comes to a man?
I think this is a must read for every woman. It changed the way I relate to men, and how they relate to me. If every woman read The Women Men Adore, the men out there would not stand a chance.
Wednesday, April 7, 2010
Are All Men Jerks
From all the complaining we do and hear, it would appear that men are jerks. They don't call when they say they will. They get hot and cold. They don't always tell us the truth and disappoint us in general. They have been known to vanish for days, let us down at the last minute among many other things. Why?
Could the problem lie with us as women and our expectations. Are we holding them to our expectations and not considering the fact that their expectations may differ? We always seem to have a certain time frame that things should be progressing. Should we not consider that their time frame may not be different. Don't they have just as much right to their expectations as we do to ours? Just because their expectations don't match ours does not mean it is wrong.
A man may not feel he has to call everyday. You may feel if he cares he will. Then the questions and doubts enter the woman's mind and the relationship starts it's down hill spiral, all because 2 people have different expectations as to how it is supposed to be. In a relationship there are 2 people. Why should the woman dictate how it is supposed to be? Can't we learn to accept men the way they are and not try to change them into what we want them to be, how we want them to behave.
Men and women are different. Men are logical, women emotional. This is fact. A man's communication tactics, level of need for intimacy, need for space, etc..., are going to be different from a woman's. We may expect compliments, romance, sweet words of endearment, while he thinks changing the oil in your car is an expression of love. I think if we could learn to accept their differences instead of fighting to make them conform to our expectations we would find the term, "Men are Jerks ", may not be so true after all.
I have learned that the key to good communication and relationships is not about trying to make men into what we want them to be, but let them be who they are, they tend to flourish this way. Funny thing happens, they start to trust and open up and in return give you what you really desire and want from the man in your life.
Could the problem lie with us as women and our expectations. Are we holding them to our expectations and not considering the fact that their expectations may differ? We always seem to have a certain time frame that things should be progressing. Should we not consider that their time frame may not be different. Don't they have just as much right to their expectations as we do to ours? Just because their expectations don't match ours does not mean it is wrong.
A man may not feel he has to call everyday. You may feel if he cares he will. Then the questions and doubts enter the woman's mind and the relationship starts it's down hill spiral, all because 2 people have different expectations as to how it is supposed to be. In a relationship there are 2 people. Why should the woman dictate how it is supposed to be? Can't we learn to accept men the way they are and not try to change them into what we want them to be, how we want them to behave.
Men and women are different. Men are logical, women emotional. This is fact. A man's communication tactics, level of need for intimacy, need for space, etc..., are going to be different from a woman's. We may expect compliments, romance, sweet words of endearment, while he thinks changing the oil in your car is an expression of love. I think if we could learn to accept their differences instead of fighting to make them conform to our expectations we would find the term, "Men are Jerks ", may not be so true after all.
I have learned that the key to good communication and relationships is not about trying to make men into what we want them to be, but let them be who they are, they tend to flourish this way. Funny thing happens, they start to trust and open up and in return give you what you really desire and want from the man in your life.
Friday, March 19, 2010
Online Dreadful Dating
I am an active member on a ladies forum. Thousands of women share their experiences there. It seems there is a lot of frustration with online dating and the quality of men we find landing in our inboxes. Below is an excerpt from a lady there that sums our frustrations up well. Just wanted to share.
Yes...I can imagine a guy taking his Match.com picture. He takes 20 different pictures. Then out of those 20 pictures, not to mention all the other pictures he has had taken of him in his 30 years of existence, he chooses the one that is the most out of focus, with the camera up his nostrils, with the color totally off, where you can still see his arm in the picture, with him scowling like a serial rapist, to be his main photo to attract women with online.
Seriously....how can SO MANY MEN be SO CLUELESS? Can't they tell what a decent picture of them is versus a not so decent picture? I would never put a picture up on Match.com that I would be afraid to frame and put on my dresser. So why do guys, in what is supposed to be an ADVERTISEMENT for themselves to potentially find the love of their life, or at the very least someone to have sex with, pick the most horrid, unflattering pictures to represent themselves with?
Or there's 5 pictures of them in a group, where you can't even tell which guy is which. Or there's pictures with their ex-girlfriend, where they've clearly tried to crop her out...but missed her shoulder or her arm. Or there's 10 pictures of sunsets and beaches, not to mention their car or bicycle, and pet dog, but not a SINGLE PICTURE of their face!
And so many profiles are three sentences long and say absolutely nothing about themselves or what they want. "I'm a laid-back, fun-loving, nice guy who is fun to be around. Looking for an adventurous, attractive girl, who is fun to hang out with and likes doing cool stuff." Really? I think the guy might be, like 18, who wrote it, and then I look at the age and he's 38. Really? At the age of 38, this is all you have to say about yourself?
And guys complain that girls don't write to them and they have to do all the work...
Ugh!!!
I will get off my soapbox now.
I've signed up as a Member of Match.com, not a subscriber yet, so I can peruse a little bit and build up my favorites before paying for the subscription. I have probably looked at 200 profiles. Of the 200, I only found 2 that I liked, that looked like they were written by someone with half a brain. I have about 6 others on there that are okay, maybe possibilities. That's it. Nearly all the rest of the profiles and pictures looked like they were posted by someone with a severe mental handicap.
It is immensely frustrating, as I have expanded my search range to include from 28 to 43 (I am 29), and up to 30 miles away (which is an ETERNITY away in Los Angeles), and I have so few options, on the world's largest dating site.
Whew. But, I have to remember...back when I was online dating last year...the best guys I met were all from Match. Didn't have the right chemistry with them, but at least they were nice, smelled okay, could put a sentence together, and could spell. A couple of them were really funny. So I'm trying to focus on the mostly positive experience I had with Match in the past rather than the fear and frustration I am feeling right now!!
As a recently married woman told me once: "You're not looking for 100 or 50 or 10 great guys. You're only looking for ONE. Focus on that. You can find ONE great guy." Easier said than done, but I'm not giving up!
Yes...I can imagine a guy taking his Match.com picture. He takes 20 different pictures. Then out of those 20 pictures, not to mention all the other pictures he has had taken of him in his 30 years of existence, he chooses the one that is the most out of focus, with the camera up his nostrils, with the color totally off, where you can still see his arm in the picture, with him scowling like a serial rapist, to be his main photo to attract women with online.
Seriously....how can SO MANY MEN be SO CLUELESS? Can't they tell what a decent picture of them is versus a not so decent picture? I would never put a picture up on Match.com that I would be afraid to frame and put on my dresser. So why do guys, in what is supposed to be an ADVERTISEMENT for themselves to potentially find the love of their life, or at the very least someone to have sex with, pick the most horrid, unflattering pictures to represent themselves with?
Or there's 5 pictures of them in a group, where you can't even tell which guy is which. Or there's pictures with their ex-girlfriend, where they've clearly tried to crop her out...but missed her shoulder or her arm. Or there's 10 pictures of sunsets and beaches, not to mention their car or bicycle, and pet dog, but not a SINGLE PICTURE of their face!
And so many profiles are three sentences long and say absolutely nothing about themselves or what they want. "I'm a laid-back, fun-loving, nice guy who is fun to be around. Looking for an adventurous, attractive girl, who is fun to hang out with and likes doing cool stuff." Really? I think the guy might be, like 18, who wrote it, and then I look at the age and he's 38. Really? At the age of 38, this is all you have to say about yourself?
And guys complain that girls don't write to them and they have to do all the work...
Ugh!!!
I will get off my soapbox now.
I've signed up as a Member of Match.com, not a subscriber yet, so I can peruse a little bit and build up my favorites before paying for the subscription. I have probably looked at 200 profiles. Of the 200, I only found 2 that I liked, that looked like they were written by someone with half a brain. I have about 6 others on there that are okay, maybe possibilities. That's it. Nearly all the rest of the profiles and pictures looked like they were posted by someone with a severe mental handicap.
It is immensely frustrating, as I have expanded my search range to include from 28 to 43 (I am 29), and up to 30 miles away (which is an ETERNITY away in Los Angeles), and I have so few options, on the world's largest dating site.
Whew. But, I have to remember...back when I was online dating last year...the best guys I met were all from Match. Didn't have the right chemistry with them, but at least they were nice, smelled okay, could put a sentence together, and could spell. A couple of them were really funny. So I'm trying to focus on the mostly positive experience I had with Match in the past rather than the fear and frustration I am feeling right now!!
As a recently married woman told me once: "You're not looking for 100 or 50 or 10 great guys. You're only looking for ONE. Focus on that. You can find ONE great guy." Easier said than done, but I'm not giving up!
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Flirting on Facebook
The good thing about facebook as opposed to those on line free and paid dating sites is you get a better glimpse of one's personality. They are out there interacting with others with no lame written profile that may or may not be true. You have references that come in the form of friends. You don't get that on a dating site. Facebook flirting is by far safer and actually more effective than the dating sites. You just have to perfect it, it is an art form to a degree.
So how does one go about flirting on facebook? It's simple, it's just a matter of commenting on a post. It may be a post of someone that sparks your interest or it may be a friend commenting on the original posters post. I have many a times commented on a friend's post where one of his or her friend's commenting sparked my interest. The result usually is a new connection.
Think in terms of everyone has single friends, brothers and sisters. The more you broaden your network, the greater your chances are. Pay attention to the comments, wait for the opportunity and toss in your witty, humorous facebook flirt. This process will not progress as quickly as it could on an on line dating site, but anticipation often builds the attraction. The result is more than likely better quality matches and dates. Flirting on face book can get the ball rolling and greatly increase your dating life.
So go ahead and try some facebook flirting, you have nothing to lose. If you can flirt in a text you can certainly succeed at flirting on facebook. More and more couples are hooking up on facebook. Don't just sit back and wait, take some action, try some facebook flirting.
I am a single woman very active on facebook. I have experienced success with getting dates on facebook by the simple art of being able to spin some pretty good flirty words, much like flirting with text messages. It is fun and I have been sharing this with others both men and women of all ages. For more details on how to make facebook work for you in your dating life.
So how does one go about flirting on facebook? It's simple, it's just a matter of commenting on a post. It may be a post of someone that sparks your interest or it may be a friend commenting on the original posters post. I have many a times commented on a friend's post where one of his or her friend's commenting sparked my interest. The result usually is a new connection.
Think in terms of everyone has single friends, brothers and sisters. The more you broaden your network, the greater your chances are. Pay attention to the comments, wait for the opportunity and toss in your witty, humorous facebook flirt. This process will not progress as quickly as it could on an on line dating site, but anticipation often builds the attraction. The result is more than likely better quality matches and dates. Flirting on face book can get the ball rolling and greatly increase your dating life.
So go ahead and try some facebook flirting, you have nothing to lose. If you can flirt in a text you can certainly succeed at flirting on facebook. More and more couples are hooking up on facebook. Don't just sit back and wait, take some action, try some facebook flirting.
I am a single woman very active on facebook. I have experienced success with getting dates on facebook by the simple art of being able to spin some pretty good flirty words, much like flirting with text messages. It is fun and I have been sharing this with others both men and women of all ages. For more details on how to make facebook work for you in your dating life.
Wednesday, February 10, 2010
Will He Propose?
The truth of the matter is almost all men secretly want a commitment, they want to love and be loved. They don't want to be alone. They want to find that woman that will create an amazing connection. A feeling that he just can't stand to spend his life with out. They crave this just as much as we women do.
Many women think that a man should just know to ask for a deeper commitment and marriage. They are left disappointed when he does not propose after sometimes years into the relationship. Men don't instinctively know this, they have to be inspired on a deeper level. You wonder will he propose. If you have inspired him on this deep level then the answer is probably yes.
Often women try to have the talk or lead a man with words. Men don't respond to words and actually are excellent at tuning you out. It's actions and the ability to make him feel safe. If you are trying to use words and still wondering will he propose, the answer is probably no, he may not.
Women also give too much too soon, they move in, and start taking care of the man. He gets comfortable and is not inspired to move things forward. Why should he propose? He has it all already. If you are already playing housewife, there is nothing to move him forward or for him to look forward to.
If you have inspired your man on a deep level and really open up to you, then yes he will probably propose. If you are still having those doubts and still question will he propose, you might have some work to do.
Stop being the girlfriend and go to wife. What if you could burn an image of marriage and commitment in your man's mind? What if you could learn to melt his resistance away and never have to worry about will he propose again?
Many women think that a man should just know to ask for a deeper commitment and marriage. They are left disappointed when he does not propose after sometimes years into the relationship. Men don't instinctively know this, they have to be inspired on a deeper level. You wonder will he propose. If you have inspired him on this deep level then the answer is probably yes.
Often women try to have the talk or lead a man with words. Men don't respond to words and actually are excellent at tuning you out. It's actions and the ability to make him feel safe. If you are trying to use words and still wondering will he propose, the answer is probably no, he may not.
Women also give too much too soon, they move in, and start taking care of the man. He gets comfortable and is not inspired to move things forward. Why should he propose? He has it all already. If you are already playing housewife, there is nothing to move him forward or for him to look forward to.
If you have inspired your man on a deep level and really open up to you, then yes he will probably propose. If you are still having those doubts and still question will he propose, you might have some work to do.
Stop being the girlfriend and go to wife. What if you could burn an image of marriage and commitment in your man's mind? What if you could learn to melt his resistance away and never have to worry about will he propose again?
Wednesday, February 3, 2010
Texting Guys
It seems that in today's technology we spend a lot of time texting, it is easy and if done correctly, can enhance the attraction of your guy.
When texting a guy there are a few guidelines to follow. You do not want to come across as needy or desperate. Below are some things to remember.
1. It is best not to text first, at least on a regular basis, this shows you are way more into him than he may be into you.
2. If he does text you first, don't reply immediately, he will be thinking, wow, she must be sitting there holding the phone just waiting for me, we don't wait for men, we are busy. Wait at least 10 minutes, minimum, create some anticipation from him.
3. If he does not text back don't send another one, you don't want to appear desperate
4. Nothing serious or questioning in a text. Always be light, fun and witty.
5. Do not send anything too sexual, he may be sharing with his buds and never send nude shots, you can bet his buds will see this. It can sit in his phone for eternity and no telling where that pic may end up.
6. Don't send mindless lame messages such as what are you doing? What's up? He will see that as an excuse you are using just to talk to him.
Texting guys can create some incredible attraction if you know how to do it correctly. You can have a guy dying with anticipation to see you. There is a right way and a wrong way.
Mike, the Master Dater wrote a great little inexpensive book on this. It explains how a guy sees your messages and the right and wrong ways to get his attention. This book is well worth the read. For more information click here.
When texting a guy there are a few guidelines to follow. You do not want to come across as needy or desperate. Below are some things to remember.
1. It is best not to text first, at least on a regular basis, this shows you are way more into him than he may be into you.
2. If he does text you first, don't reply immediately, he will be thinking, wow, she must be sitting there holding the phone just waiting for me, we don't wait for men, we are busy. Wait at least 10 minutes, minimum, create some anticipation from him.
3. If he does not text back don't send another one, you don't want to appear desperate
4. Nothing serious or questioning in a text. Always be light, fun and witty.
5. Do not send anything too sexual, he may be sharing with his buds and never send nude shots, you can bet his buds will see this. It can sit in his phone for eternity and no telling where that pic may end up.
6. Don't send mindless lame messages such as what are you doing? What's up? He will see that as an excuse you are using just to talk to him.
Texting guys can create some incredible attraction if you know how to do it correctly. You can have a guy dying with anticipation to see you. There is a right way and a wrong way.
Mike, the Master Dater wrote a great little inexpensive book on this. It explains how a guy sees your messages and the right and wrong ways to get his attention. This book is well worth the read. For more information click here.
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