A man falling in love will usually go that extra mile, put in that extra effort. Below are some distinct differences as to if he is in love or just in lust for the moment. So are you a priority or just an option?
Man in Love
* drives out of his way to get you
* calls you everyday
* shares his daily life with you
* will want to see you even when you look like hell
* makes sure he locks you down for weekend time,maybe all weekend
* introduces you to friends
* takes you to weddings and events as his date
* is present when things are tough
* fixes things on your car and around the house
* takes you out on dates and public places
* chooses you over seeing his friends any day
* gives up things to spend time with you, maybe a ballgame with the guys
* answers your calls, always happy to hear from you
The list above are just a few signs a man is in love or falling in love. He will get up at the crack of dawn to help you out, like drop your car off for repairs, take you to the airport, things like that. He puts his comfort on hold to make sure you are comfortable. He sincerely wants to make your life better and make you happy.
Man in Lust
* Expect you to drive out of your way to see him
* Calls you sporadically
* Life? You don't know much about his life, you know where he works, but that's about it.
* He has never seen you at your worst, he isn't around enough
* If he sees you on the weekend, it's last minute and not planned in advance
* You don't know much about his friends, maybe met a few by chance
* Goes to events solo or with the guys, you aren't invited
* If things are tough he usually isn't around
* He doesn't know when something is broken to fix or says, you need to call a plumber
* He meets you places, or at his place or yours, there are no real dates
* Parties with the guys a lot, calls you after he has been out for a while to meet up
* Says maybe he will see you when the game is over
* doesn't answer your calls all the time and is sometimes short with you on the phone.
If it's an effort for you to get your man to put in time or you feel like you have to do all the planning to see him, it's a sign he may just be in lust. A man in lust not in love puts his comfort first, unless you two are together at the time, then he may shower you with attention. If you aren't hearing from him when you are apart, this is a sure sign he isn't hooked yet. He doesn't see you as valuable as he sees himself.
If you really pay attention to a man's actions, you can see the signs he is in love. He puts in the effort and you know you are a priority. There are no days of silence, you aren't guessing where you stand. If a man isn't in love, maybe only lust, he doesn't put in extra effort, just the bare minimum to keep your attraction going. In other words, a man in love sees you as valuable and treats you like you are special.
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