Thursday, July 28, 2011

New Relationship Advice

In the first couple of months in a new relationship, a lot of times the attraction is physical. I would go so far as to say that a lot of women even mistake that physical attraction for a relationship when he may not even be in a relationship in his mind. That is the first new relationship advice I would offer. Make sure you both are on the same page.

I can't tell you how many times I have known women to go on a few dates, and the man is giving attention and acting like he is really into a woman, she sleeps with him and he starts getting distant. This is so common and if I can ever get any message across, I want to get this one across. A few dates and phone calls do not equal a relationship. Before you go getting new relationship advice, make sure he is your boyfriend. A boyfriend gets wrapped up in making you happy. If he is doing this, you are probably safe.

Now how can you keep him around, assuming he is worth keeping and treats you well. Don't start over accommodating him. Lots of women will start changing up their schedule to fit him in. They will put their girlfriends on the back burner hoping to hear from their new boyfriend. Don't do this. Men love a woman who has her own life. It's wildly attractive when they have to compete for your time, even if it is your girlfriends. Keep your own life, don't make changes to fit in this new guy would be my first new relationship advice.
Don't expect him to change for you. If he usually goes out with the guys on Friday, don't whine that he does that instead of seeing you. If he plays poker on Mondays, don't try to change him. When we try to change men it tells them two things. The first that we don't accept him as he is. Men must feel accepted. Second it tells him you may become a control freak or drama queen down the road. New relationship advice number two, don't try to change him. In time if you play your cards right he may want to give up certain things in order to spend time with you, but you can't push it.

Remain the fun girl that he started dating in the beginning. Keep yourself up and continue to be fun. Relax and be yourself. One of the main complaints I get from men is that the women change when they get in a new relationship and start acting different and aren't as fun anymore. Light and breezy. If you are in a new relationship, you want to stay the dream girl he fell for in the first place.

More men vanish in the first few months of dating, this is a fact. They get all excited and think they have found a dream girl and then the dream girl somehow turns out to not be his dream girl. Don't let this happen to you. Men aren't locked down in the beginning of a new relationship and this is when they walk away most.

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Tuesday, July 26, 2011

Text Him In Love

Some think texting is for teenagers. They think it's silly and that it hinders real communication. While there may be some truth to this there are a few things you might want to think about before dismissing texting as a tool to enhance your relationship.

A few years ago I was in a relationship with a man that used texting a lot. I don't know if he just knew how to do it instinctively or if he had read one of the online texting guides but I do know this. His texts always made me smile. I had a ring tone assigned to this man. His texts were never mundane, always playful and he never texted me to death. The result. Every time I heard that ring tone, my heart would skip a few beats. I would get excited to hear from him. He was creating triggers and his texts helped me to fall in love with him.

He knowingly or unknowingly created a trigger with his texts. His texts would trigger a euphoric feeling in me. This trigger was so strong. Triggers can also change. He broke up with me. I was heart broke. Anytime after that if he called or texted and I heard that ring tone, it triggered deep sadness. I had to change his ring tone. Triggers can be powerful. They can cause us to feel deep strong emotions.

What are your texts triggering in your guy? Do you text mundane things like can you bring home the milk? Do you use your texts to say you are running late, or convey any other boring details. If so, you aren't texting love. Your texts are not positive triggers. If you can learn to text him things that give him warm fuzzy feelings, you can cement your emotional attraction further and deeper. Yes you can text him in love.

Triggers are powerful. Think about an addict. What is one of the first things an addict has to do to break free of an addiction. He has to remove the triggers. That cup of coffee that triggers the cigarette. Texting love is like creating an addiction with your triggers. He becomes addicted to you.

Stop using texts to your man for anything other than texting love or fun loving things. Create that trigger in him with your texts and help him fall in love with you using these triggers as a tool. You can be playful, or sexual, and engage his imagination with text messages. Your texts become something that is just between you and him. It's those little things that add up and grow emotional attraction and yes text love!

I can also remember how it felt when I didn't get a text from a particular man. It didn't feel good. This only worked to heighten the effect of the trigger he created. I would feel relief when I did hear from him. Relief, another positive trigger was created. It's a bit like Pavlov's dog if you think about it. You can text him in love

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Thursday, July 21, 2011

Reasons Men Leave

I have heard many women ask me why did he leave me. They then wonder how he can just turn his feelings off like a light switch. I get it, it does seem this way. It's hard to see the why of it when your emotions are wrapped so tight into the pain of his leaving
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Now there are many reasons why men leave, but there are two that more times than not are at the root cause of why he left. Men don't just up and decide to leave. If he left you, he has probably had it in the back of his mind for sometime and just put off the inevitable, breaking up with you.

The first reason is women creating too much drama for him or trying to change him. Maybe you were accusing to him by telling him he never does this or that anymore. Maybe you gave him a hard time when he wanted to spend time with friends instead of you. This starts to make a man feel untrusted and men must feel trusted to thrive in a relationship. If you were giving him a lot of lip service in the form of nagging or whining, he sees it as you trying to change him. This over time wears a man down and he starts to feel less of a man. Not good.

Men tune out the drama. You can bet if you gave him lip service, he wasn't hearing your words. Men respond to actions and distance. Lip service is a waste and only drives him further away. If you are saying why did he leave me, you may want to think about how you contributed to this decision.

Another way women create drama is by believe it or not giving too much. It makes a man feel a sense of obligation when a woman is too good to him. She gives and gives and he sees it as her seeking security with him and not within herself. A woman that gives too much almost always loses the man.

  Why He Disappeared!

The second top reason is not going to make you feel any better but there is a truth in it almost always. He has had someone else spark up his interest or he is thinking that there is someone else out there who can. Yes it's thoughts of another woman, whether she is real or someone he thinks is still out there. The grass is greener concept. He is still searching for the one and he is convinced it is not you.

Why He Disappeared!

Tough pill to swallow, but rarely do men just leave for no reason. Men don't leave because they are jerks although it often feels this way. If you are wondering why did he leave me, it's rarely for no reason.
Don't be the woman that writes to me telling me her man ex is now marrying another woman. If you want him back, you best take action before this happens. You can find out the dynamics of how to get his attraction back here.

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Wednesday, July 20, 2011

Will I Ever Find Love

You are not alone in this. We all struggle with this at some point or another. I think yes you can find love again. Something I want to point out here. If you haven't found it yet, does it make sense to keep doing what you have done in the past. Have you stepped outside of your box to find love. What I mean is have you tried different approaches, different mindsets or ideas to find love.
Love isn't going to just knock on your door. You really do need to invest in the process if you want to ever find love again. Do you have this list of must haves in a man? If you do, I suggest the first step is to throw that list away. I am not saying settle, but entertain the possibility that love may not come in the package you expect. A man with a true pure heart, able to love and adore you may not look or be anything like you expect. Open your mind to different types of men than you normally would date. I am a prissy pot. I am in a committed relationship with my opposite. Rough around the edges, blue collar hard working man. No suit and tie like I was accustomed too.
Are you online dating. 1 in 5 relationships start online. You can make all the excuses you want but the fact is this. It works if you do it right. If you just toss a profile up there with out a lot of thought, you are setting yourself up for failure in this area as well. To date online is like a job and should be taken seriously. You need to invest time and possibly even money into it to really succeed. Get a professional profile, have a dating coach help you if you get frustrated with online dating. Online dating should be fun.
Do you dismiss men easily or get offended by them at times? If so, maybe you are being to hard on them and have a sense of entitlement. A sense of entitlement is the ugliest thing in the world to a man. Accept that boys will be boys and cut them some slack. Some are clueless, but that doesn't always mean they are jerks or bad men.
If you are distressed and lonely and wondering will I ever find love again open your mind to new possibilities. Invest into new programs or change what you are doing now. It makes no sense to expect different results if you continue on the same path. If you want to find true love, be open to trying different things.
I have helped hundreds of women learn to find love. If you truly want to make some changes and have an open mind, I can help you too. I can help you in real life and online dating.

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Monday, July 18, 2011

Does He Love Me?

A lot of women really struggle with this.  How to know if their men love them or not.  To me it's self explanatory, you just know this.  To others it may not be so clear.  I get asked this question a lot by women.  How to know if their guy loves them or is in love with them.  I realize that the answer, you just know doesn't always work so I am going to break it down further.  There are ways to know if he loves me or not.

If you find that your guy chooses to stay home with you when you are sick as opposed to his regular sporting event, it's pretty clear he loves you.  If he is more focused on your happiness and well being than his own, you can bet he loves you.  This isn't to mean he neglects himself, but he chooses you over other activities of his own free will, not because you coerced him or guilted him into it.

If he protects you and provides for you, he loves you.  A man will share his last dime with the woman he loves, this is a fact.  He won't want her to do without.  He wants her comfort above his own.

If a guy lets you keep your feminine product in his bathroom, he loves you.  If he is suddenly proud of having Tampax under the sink, you got him. 

If a guy starts taking better care of himself, that is a sure sign he loves you.  A man wants to be his best for the woman he loves.  He will start to think about long term, financially, physically, in every way.

He will go out of his way if he loves you.  He will get up and go get you ice cream if you have a craving.  He will fly to see her.  He will go above and beyond with little ways to make you happy.

If he is willing to do something out of character for his woman, that too is a sign he loves her.  Lets say he is a manly man and all of a sudden he is willing to let you give him a facial or a manicure.  Maybe he never wanted children, but with this woman it wouldn't matter if he had a dozen.

The bottom line is if you have to ask if he loves you, then you aren't feeling it for some reason.  It may be you or it may be him.  It could be your own insecurity or you could just have the wrong man.  It's difficult sometimes to determine because men are so different than we are.  Understanding how they think is a huge help in deciphering the mystery as to does he love me or not.

WHAT IS HE THINKING?

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Friday, July 15, 2011

Finding Mr. Right

Have you all but given up on finding Mr. Right? Have you thought you found him countless times only to find out Mr. Right was Mr. Wrong? I think we all can relate. I am going to suggest some things here that you may not be considering when it comes to finding Mr. Right.

What type of man are you looking for? Are you holding out for that unbelievable chemistry? If so, you may be holding out for the wrong quality. Instant chemistry rarely lasts and is fleeting to say the least. It's the last quality you should be basing your relationship on. I coached a woman once who went on a date with this really great guy. There was no chemistry. I urged her to go on at least 3 dates. She did with reluctance. Guess who is crazy in love now and getting married. Miss Picky and Mr. No Chemistry. Chemistry is better when it works from a slow simmer, not rapid boil.

Where are you looking for finding Mr. Right? Have you tried online dating? If you haven't, I suggest you drop the excuses and sign up for a dating site right now. I know scores of women who have found Mr. Right online. Dating online if done correctly can and will be fun, not to mention entertaining. I love online dating. Yes it can be frustrating, but with a little coaching you can be queen of online dating and you WILL find Mr. Right in time. There are thousands of great guys online looking for someone just like you.

If you are really serious about finding Mr. Right, and you haven't met him yet, by all means change what you are doing, where you are doing it and how you are doing it. Be open to new possibilities. Learn to open your heart to the fact that Mr. Right may not be in the package you had imagined. He could be anywhere, anyone. Let go of your limitations.

I have coached hundreds of women and I have had some pretty hopeless cases. Some women just won't open up to new ideas and they remain stuck. I can't help those women. If you want to make changes and you are serious about finding Mr. Right, I can help you.

Thursday, July 14, 2011

Will I Ever Find Love?

I get asked this question all the time, "Will I ever find love?".  I also get a lot of women who tell me they don't need a man to complete them.  I think these women are lying, I really do.  Sure we are fine without a man, but it is our biological birth right to find love.  Women feel it shows them in a weak light to say they need a man to complete them.  I call bullshit on this.  We do feel better when we are in a healthy relationship.  It's a fact, we are in better health.  I know personally my anxiety issues lessen when I have the love and support of a good man.  To say otherwise I would be lying.

So step one to finding love I think is admitting that yes, you want it, you need it to flourish. True you won't wither and die without it, but it sure is a great thing to find.   I have been happy single, no doubt, I loved it, but I feel more full inside of a good relationship.  I admit it.  So once you admit it, you need to own it. This means you need to know it's not going to just come knocking on your door, you have to put some work and effort into  finding love again. 

The effort has to be focused in two areas.  First in opening up yourself to it and letting go of fear.  The second in the actual hunt for love.  Some say love happens when you least expect it.  True at times, but again I call bullshit.  I have love, and yes it was in an unexpected place, but it wasn't really unexpected.  I truly believed I would find love again and I went after it.  I dated and dated.  It's a long story, but the bottom line is you do have to open to it.  You have to be open that it may not be in the package you expected.  You have to be open to the man that you feel this incredible chemistry with may NOT be your Mr. Right. 

I know women who have these lists.  He must be taller than me, he must have strong arms, he must be smart and worldly and their lists go on and on.  The heart you seek may be in the most unusual package.  I am more of a prissy girl, but the man I am with has tatoos, is shorter, not as educated as I am.  I threw my stupid list away and ended up with a man with the biggest and bravest heart who is smarter than most in many other ways that I have discovered are way more important than if he can compose a perfect sentence.

I have women all the time tell me all they attract are jerks.  I don't believe this either.  If you attract a jerk, just get rid of him before it's too late.  In other words we all attract all different types.  It's up to you to have sense enough to sort through them.  If he is a jerk or treats you not so great, don't accept him, keep looking, pretty simple.

Something I discovered that you may or may not relate to is this.  When I did meet a man that treated me well and adored me, it sort of scared me.  I wasn't used to it, so I started rejecting him, I did reject him.  I then went on to date others, one after the other.  You know the drill I am sure.  They come on full force, then vanish, or I just didn't feel it and I vanished.  So on and so forth.  It took going through these men to realize maybe I had missed something with the nice guy that adored me.  I thought something was wrong with him.  Actually something was wrong with me.

I think we are so scared because of past hurts that we can miss the good men.  If you are asking will I find love again, more than likely you have been hurt.  You have to let go of these hurts and understand there are no guarantees.  It's like this.  We are so used to loving and not getting it back which is our own fault by the way, that when someone gives it to us, we don't recognize it.  Love doesn't look like we imagine it to look.  Once you find it, it's crystal clear, but prior to that it's confusing.

If you are asking will I ever find love again, then it's obvious this is something you want.  Don't deny that want, it's natural.  Accept it and then seek it.  Open yourself up to new possibilities, new ways to meet men.  Online dating is the best way.  I know many who are so against this and come up with every excuse in the book.  I again call  bullshit on the excuses.  Online dating does take skill, it's not as easy as you would think.  Some go at it blindly, just tossing up a profile and running with it.  You get back what you put in.  If you want to find love again, you may want to consider investing some time, effort and maybe even money into it.  How important is it to you?  Do you want to just leave it to chance or do you want to take responsibility for it?
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I believe anyone can find love again.  I don't think it normally just falls in your lap.  Sure sometimes it happens, but a lot of the successful relationships I know of took some work and trial and error.  If you want to literally cut that learning curve in half, and save yourself a lot of time, I suggest you start here. 
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Wednesday, July 13, 2011

Do You Intimidate Men

I am writing on this topic as it comes up often in a forum that I own and I have given it a lot of thought. There was a time in my life that I did think I was intimidating to men. Was I actually? In hindsight, no. I was just not as approachable as I am today. Today I don't intimidate men and let me elaborate more. A few thoughts below which could lead you to buy into that myth that men are often intimidated by women.
  • Men rarely approach you when you are out
  • Men don't initiate conversations with you at public places like a grocery store
  • Men email you a few times on a dating site and disappear
  • Men hint at dates and don't follow through
  • Men flirt but don't ask you out
  • Men live in your phone but won't step out
  • Men flake on your dates
  • You can't seem to get close to a man or he won't open up like you wish he would
If you can relate to any of these, you may think or feel that men are intimidated by you or women in general. Maybe you are super attractive, or maybe successful and you think this may turn them off or intimidate them, but that is not the case. It has nothing to do with these things.
I am going to bring up that feminine grace thing again. That woman, and you probably know one or two that just draws men in like a magnet, she has that intangible quality called feminine grace. That something about her. She is constantly being approached by all sorts of men. She does not intimidate men, she draws them in naturally
Below are some clues you have this quality.
  • Men even ones that know they are out of your league approach you any way
  • Men of all ages, from 18 to 85 flirt with you
  • Men ask you out and put effort into impressing you, not the other way around
  • A man will carry on a conversation with you online dating for weeks, patiently waiting for a date.
  • Men rarely flake on you, it they say they will call they do, it they make a date they will keep it
  • You rarely wonder where you stand with a man or how he feels.
If the above things apply to you, no need to read any further, if they don't well it's time to figure out that feminine grace thing. It's not about looking hot, having your nails all done and strutting in high heals and a great outfit. Those things are nice, but they are not what attracts a man.

If you can go out with your girlfriend who is dressed to the nines and you are in a tee shirt and jeans and still get more attention, sister you got it, the femine grace It's in your attitude. We spend so much time working on the outer part of us so often. This is not where the feminine grace comes from. It's in the way you walk, talk, carry yourself and how open you really appear to others. You draw all sorts of people to you, men and women. It's something about the way you make people feel. If you feel you are intimidating men, well that's not it, you aren't making them feel the way a man needs to feel to build attraction for you.

Tired of being passed by? Want to turn into that woman that men just adore and are drawn to. If men aren't approaching you or if your current guy isn't giving you the attention you desire, you might want to make some changes before that woman, the one with that feminine grace comes along and snatches him up.  Learn about the WOMEN MEN ADORE.

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Friday, July 1, 2011

10 Online Dating Email Tips for Women


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The first thing I want to stress here before I go into the tips is a simple concept. Be polite, be courteous. There is no need to ignore or be rude. Some say just ignore the men that don't appeal to you, I say at least send them a nice thanks but no thanks. Call it being raised in the south, just do it. Most of those guys on the other end are human and the more you keep that in your mind the better you will get at this email thing. So rule number one.
1. Answer all emails. If a guy sends you a lame message like "hey sexy" and nothing else, answer it anyway unless it's sexual or vulgar. He may be a diamond in the rough, you won't know if you don't give him the benefit of the doubt. Not all guys have a silver tongue.
2. If a guy mails you that you don't find appealing, reply a polite no thanks. This is just common courtesy. If he gets annoying, just block him from there.
3. Do send the first email. Online dating is not real life, they can't see you so the first email is like winking or smiling.
4. Be short in the first email. No novels please. Say something about the profile. Be light and upbeat, no more than 3 sentences. Keep it to 3 or you will be desperate daisy.
5. If a man says something that you like in an email or sends a well written email, thank him for it. Tell him briefly what was different about it. This does wonders for men, makes them want to put an even better foot forward. Think of it as rewarding Pavlov's dog if you must.
6. When they drop off the face of the earth and stop mailing, don't mail him again and again. Let him go. He may or may not be back. It's Next for you though woman, keep moving down the line. Never.
7. Paint visual pictures in those online emails. Men are visual. Amazing just what a harmless word can do to create some sexual tension or attraction. The word "sweat" for example. Use it innocently of course but be aware it can be powerful when you use these sorts of visual ques. Sweating in the sun for example. Sweating in front of a grill. You get my drift.
8. Take your time answering the emails. It doesn't need to be answered as soon as you get it. If you have it as a phone app, take it off. It's best to just log on every couple of days and devote a certain amount of time daily to answering and sending emails. It helps keep it under control and helps to naturally pace you.
9. Light flirting and banter is good. No sexual implications, unless sex is what you are after. Keep your emails clean, but fun.
10. Should he email you something slightly sexual, don't jump down his throat. What man is dating to not have sex really? Boys will be boys. Just cut him off at the pass and go ahead with conversation. Ignore it and continue and see if he does it again. If he does it again, call him out, tell him thanks but no thanks, but understand guys are going to do it. Don't take offense.
Your emailing skills and techniques are critical. Another good reason to answer all emails is the practice. The more men you correspond with and the more men you practice and play nicely with, the better you will get at this. The better you get, the more confident and comfortable you will feel with it. When Mr. Right does come along, you will be so much better prepared.
If you are tired of all the wrong men writing you and all the interesting ones ignoring you or disappearing, you might want to get some help

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