I have heard women fret about getting the attention of men. I have had many even ask me how do I get his attention. There really is no secret move we can make, or something profound we can say to achieve this. Many worry what if he doesn't like me. Have you once considered flipping the tables. Why not for a change wonder, hmmm, will I even like this guy? I wonder if this guy has what it takes to get MY attention.
I know and you probably know the key to it all is self love. You also probably want to cringe if one more person tells you this is the key. I mean what is the formula to this self love? Sure the gurus can tell you that is the key, but unless they tell you how to get this so called self love, it does you little good. Finding self love is often a long journey. To many it's elusive and seems out of their grasp.
So what is the answer? You can start by faking it until you make it. Some like this term, others don't. I do like it and it has served me well. For example, we have heard how powerful a smile is or how something as simple as using a person's first name has an impact. We know this, but few practice it. Look around you. Next time you go to a convenience store or grocery store notice how many clerks are actually smiling. Look at the people in line. Chances are good they are frustrated more than smiling. How many of these people read a nametag on the clerk and actually call them by it. These two things alone can disarm a person.
So what if you just practiced these two little things. Smile if you didn't feel like it at EVER BODY. When talking with a person, say their name. Both may not always seem natural. Do it anyway and notice the person's response. It will be positive more times than not. This acts as reinforcement to you of the positive kind. You get rewarded. Do anything often enough and it becomes a habit. Hence you faked it until you made it.
There are a lot of great books that have these dating rules in them. That is the sole purpose of these books. They give you a blue print to follow until you get there. The reactions of men have been studied for you and they teach you certain behaviors that just naturally stimulate a man to want to get to know you better. After you try the principles in these books and get positive results, it just reinforces it to you and you continue as it becomes second nature.
A few of these books are below. I call them Dating Bibles.
Why He Disappeared, Evan Marc Katz - 5 Stars
The Women Men Adore, Bob Grant -5 stars
Calling Men, Mimi Tanner - 5 stars
If you are wondering if a man likes you or not, think, do I like myself? Why on earth would he not like me? It's more likely I won't like him or rather I won't see him as someone I want to further invest into, not the other way around.
I know and you probably know the key to it all is self love. You also probably want to cringe if one more person tells you this is the key. I mean what is the formula to this self love? Sure the gurus can tell you that is the key, but unless they tell you how to get this so called self love, it does you little good. Finding self love is often a long journey. To many it's elusive and seems out of their grasp.
So what is the answer? You can start by faking it until you make it. Some like this term, others don't. I do like it and it has served me well. For example, we have heard how powerful a smile is or how something as simple as using a person's first name has an impact. We know this, but few practice it. Look around you. Next time you go to a convenience store or grocery store notice how many clerks are actually smiling. Look at the people in line. Chances are good they are frustrated more than smiling. How many of these people read a nametag on the clerk and actually call them by it. These two things alone can disarm a person.
So what if you just practiced these two little things. Smile if you didn't feel like it at EVER BODY. When talking with a person, say their name. Both may not always seem natural. Do it anyway and notice the person's response. It will be positive more times than not. This acts as reinforcement to you of the positive kind. You get rewarded. Do anything often enough and it becomes a habit. Hence you faked it until you made it.
There are a lot of great books that have these dating rules in them. That is the sole purpose of these books. They give you a blue print to follow until you get there. The reactions of men have been studied for you and they teach you certain behaviors that just naturally stimulate a man to want to get to know you better. After you try the principles in these books and get positive results, it just reinforces it to you and you continue as it becomes second nature.
A few of these books are below. I call them Dating Bibles.
Why He Disappeared, Evan Marc Katz - 5 Stars
The Women Men Adore, Bob Grant -5 stars
Calling Men, Mimi Tanner - 5 stars
If you are wondering if a man likes you or not, think, do I like myself? Why on earth would he not like me? It's more likely I won't like him or rather I won't see him as someone I want to further invest into, not the other way around.
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