It's pretty common for guys to disappear after sex. I hear it a lot. There are a number of reasons for this, but mainly it boils down to really not having much to do with the fact that he just had sex with you. Of course there are guys out there that are only looking to score, but it's up to you to learn to distinguish the difference.
Guys can tell why you have sex with them. If you are doing it just to please him, he senses it. This spells desperation to him. A guy would rather you have sex because you wanted to. Otherwise he feels as if it's some ploy to trap him. Often women start putting off the vibe that they think they are now in a relationship. Sex does not equal a relationship.
If the truth be told, he was probably going to disappear if you slept with him or not. Many are under the belief that guys see them as easy when they sleep with them to soon. There may be some truth to this, but if the guy is into you to start with, it's not going to matter. Where women screw up with this is that once they sleep with a guy, they are ready to now invest their hearts. This is where the easy comes into play in reality. A man likes to work for your heart. If you give it away quickly, he doesn't see it's value. He thinks he isn't anything special.
If a guy disappears after you have had sex, it's one of two things.
1. He wasn't that into you in the first place. It's really no one to blame here. We can't help who we are or aren't into. I imagine you too have felt like disappearing on a guy after you had sex. Maybe you did it in a moment of weakness and you really didn't like the guy. Maybe you were drunk, who knows, but it happens. We all do it or have done it. That is one reason why he disappeared.
2. The second reason is how you behave afterwards. If you start acting like a girlfriend before he has made that move, it's a turn off. If you got all emotional, well you made him feel guilty. Guilt and sex don't go together. If you expect it to mean something special to him, he will sense it. Most men don't see sex as something special, at least not in the early dating stage.
Then of course there is the chance that you aren't that great in bed. If you were more focused on pleasing him and not focused on allowing him to please you, this is not good. Men feel good when they make you feel good. Picture Tarzan beating his chest and you will get the idea.
Men bond before sex, women bond after sex. It's sort of screwed up, but it is what it is. For more truths on why he disappeared, visit here.
Guys can tell why you have sex with them. If you are doing it just to please him, he senses it. This spells desperation to him. A guy would rather you have sex because you wanted to. Otherwise he feels as if it's some ploy to trap him. Often women start putting off the vibe that they think they are now in a relationship. Sex does not equal a relationship.
If the truth be told, he was probably going to disappear if you slept with him or not. Many are under the belief that guys see them as easy when they sleep with them to soon. There may be some truth to this, but if the guy is into you to start with, it's not going to matter. Where women screw up with this is that once they sleep with a guy, they are ready to now invest their hearts. This is where the easy comes into play in reality. A man likes to work for your heart. If you give it away quickly, he doesn't see it's value. He thinks he isn't anything special.
If a guy disappears after you have had sex, it's one of two things.
1. He wasn't that into you in the first place. It's really no one to blame here. We can't help who we are or aren't into. I imagine you too have felt like disappearing on a guy after you had sex. Maybe you did it in a moment of weakness and you really didn't like the guy. Maybe you were drunk, who knows, but it happens. We all do it or have done it. That is one reason why he disappeared.
2. The second reason is how you behave afterwards. If you start acting like a girlfriend before he has made that move, it's a turn off. If you got all emotional, well you made him feel guilty. Guilt and sex don't go together. If you expect it to mean something special to him, he will sense it. Most men don't see sex as something special, at least not in the early dating stage.
Then of course there is the chance that you aren't that great in bed. If you were more focused on pleasing him and not focused on allowing him to please you, this is not good. Men feel good when they make you feel good. Picture Tarzan beating his chest and you will get the idea.
Men bond before sex, women bond after sex. It's sort of screwed up, but it is what it is. For more truths on why he disappeared, visit here.
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